amokqq Posted August 11, 2009 Posted August 11, 2009 I broke up with my ex of 4.5 years 8 months ago. It was because of financial instability, my laziness and dull life that we had together( lived together). Well, it was pretty apocalyptic... We no longer had mutual friends and the breakup, familys don't speak anymore. As everything in our relationship the end was a big "boom", but that's the way we did everything. So... after 2-3 weeks or so of LC, I dissapeared from her life. We met 2-3 times, thinking about fixing it, but someone else was involved from her side, another guy - so we went NC. Fast forward, slowly a while ago she started texting and calling, just to say hi, find out whats new, ask me for some advice. We went out for a beer couple of times, we started speaking of what was wrong in our relationship, why it ended, we started at a young age (she was 16 me 17) and basiclly spent all those years together. She siad she still hasn't found anyone that understands her and her needs except me. I told her the same. Funny, I had no feelings... nothing, no lust, anger, just friends. Of course we hug and stuff, but in a friendly way. So... this is going on for a month or so. Couple times a week. We discuss whats wrong and whats right in our lives. It seems she really in my freind now. But, also says I'm very attractive, and always was... So, we planned something crazy. Nope we are not getting back together. We will move abroad together to experience something new together... I know it sounds nuts, but we have always been this way, spontanious, no-worry type of life. I mean, I wouldn't trust anyone but her to do something like this. Ok, my question is, when living together, almost like a couple, ruin the freindship? Will we start to have thoughts "what if?" I am not even thinking about getting back together but it would be great to have her as a companion by my side... Damn, complicated. I just want to hear some opinions, will something spark between us again? Will it stay as it is?
huck Posted August 11, 2009 Posted August 11, 2009 Wooo - thats pretty extreme.. Would you be able to handle it if she gets in a relationship when you move abroad. If she starts bringing a new guy home... would she be able to handle it if you do the same ??? Where you moving too out of interest ??
Author amokqq Posted August 11, 2009 Author Posted August 11, 2009 Thx for reply:) quick:) I am half american/polish... parents are polish I spent half my life in the US. Now I live with my parents in Poland. I am planing to move to Southern Ireland. Such a lovely country + i love changes. She is pretty much the same... can't sit in one place to long. Um... her bringing someone home. Hmm... I guess, well I some way it would hurt me for sure. The thing I'm scared about is us starting to get too close. Well if the feeling is mutual then why not... I'm just curious, can we really just stay friends?
huck Posted August 11, 2009 Posted August 11, 2009 I'm known for being quick:lmao: If I was you - I wouldnt be able to handle living with my ex as friends - it would be too weird.. if things went tits up it would be difficult being in another country as well.. Just a couple of things to think about.. - What if it does go bad - will you be tied into staying in the house together?. Could you cope with living with someone who you dont get on with. - Have you got any other friends in that country ? That may sound negative i spose - but if your prepared for all eventualitys and prepared for the worse - sod it - go for it and have a blast !! Nice place to move as well.. Make sure you drink plenty of the Black stuff while your over there..!!!!
Author amokqq Posted August 11, 2009 Author Posted August 11, 2009 Huck, Well, what could go bad, we're not in a relationship so we won't argue about anything. That's the way I see it, both of us are really easy-going and friendly. Well... I something goes bad, there will be an apocalypse. That's whats it like when we used to argue. I assume that will happen in 2012, yep that's what all people are talking 'bout:P Black stuff:) lovely Irish beer... hell yes. No but seriously anyone else have any thoughts??
DustySaltus Posted August 11, 2009 Posted August 11, 2009 To move into together as friends in your home country doesn't make sense let alone moving to another country and doing the same thing. What are you going to do when she starts bringing guys home or you start bringing girls home? To make that kind of commitment to move in together, there are just way more negatives then positives. You just said she can't stay in one place for a long time.....hint, hint...come on, you know this doesn't make sense. Move forward.
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