Keeping NC and feeling better

[ladyRN]

I know I have put a few posts up on here now but I just wanted to take time out and thank everyone for their kind and understanding words. Although we don't know each other formally or physically, just through the forum here I have found everyones advice, support and opinions invaluble. No matter if somethings are not what I want to hear.

I would like to encourage anyone who is considering making that contact with the ex to rethink. It really isn't worth the hassle, pain or humiliation. Like many of you have said on here, silence is deafening and the complete lack of contact will reinforce the fact to them that you have moved on and want nothing to do with them. OK so deep inside you may be hurting and grieving your loss but use this site and friends to support you through this time. Keep strong. You are worth more, much more

I find it helps to write down the negatives of the relationship and the person that dumped you. Firstly the feelings of anxiety I experienced

warned me something wasn't right, so I have my gut feeling to thank for saving me. Secondly I escaped from a man who drank too much and wanted to 'share' me and himself with other people. I still have bottles of booze he bought in my appartment. The underwear he bought for me (and consequently took back because he got my size wrong) was all for his gratification, not mine in reality. 'For my eyes only....for now :-P' reads his card. I can look back and laugh now. He is welcome to his troubles and issues if at all there are any. I will not be part of that trainwreck and I can say that now, hand on heart.

Thank you again everyone

[Devil Inside]

Keep hanging tough ladyRN. On those nights or morning when you feel weak...log on and read this post. It is a long journey, but those first few steps are often the hardest...and you've taken them in stride...kudos.

[tami-chan]

Hi LadyRN! How about throwing/giving the things he bought and brought to your home away? You don't need to hold on to those.

[me003]

LadyRN,

 

I'm glad you are sticking to NC... A while back a friend turned me on to some new age thing of burning some sage around the house. sometimes just doing the ceremony helps us. The end of a bad relationship should be celebrated. This might help some get rid of those feelings.

[ednadean]

Fantastic!

It's the right decision, and its an inspiring one. Very strong. I'v tried NC for a while with an EA and haven't had the willpower to follow through very strictly.