greenparrot Posted August 11, 2009 Posted August 11, 2009 I want to write here everything, cause this really is theraputic. I would smoke a cigar while reading this, but if you could say anything is appreciated. I met this girl lets call her M, she was in a hard time in her life. However we became best friends, spending eveyday together. She would cry in my arms telling me eveything she had lived, and I was always there for her. We also started hanging out with my other best friend let call him R. It was us 3 everywhere, travelling around the world, going to classes together, family parties, etc. But then me and M decided that we didnt want each other to see other people, and wanted to be exclusive. At first, I was complicated on this, but decided ok. She was obviously more in love with me, but decided to give me time to start falling for her. Certainly, after a month I did fall for her. She was the sweet one, and I as I have always been in my life very closed however when possible I was very sweet and expressed my emotions to her. Well, to make it short, after 2 years of great time I broke it because she always lied to me on one thing that I asked her not to do and was very important (Not talk to my cousin because he had issues and was suicidal, and wanted her). So she always did, and lied behind me saying he needed her, and couldnt walk out like that. Now I understand this but bear in mind that my cousin hates me and would do anything to take her from me. I cut it eventually thinking she knew I meant it to not talk to him, and we would work it out. After all we loved each other very much. Also be this time our best friend R, had just had a severe car accident and was very critical (he still cant walk, but at least is alive). However her crazy attitude of always started coming back: her saying she hated me I was scum, and that R deserved it for getting away from her. I defended R, saying how could she be so cold when R trully need us the most. And replied with such anger, that I always defended him and was never for her, that she would be there physically for R, but that she was being hypocrite with him. Anyway, after a week of crazyness I start try to convince her to work it out, that I was mad at what she did but that I loved her enough to move on from that. She replied that she didnt want to date anyone right now. Anyway, she starts loosing weight, and after a couple of weeks starts going out with someone else. This hurts me and I tell her I trully dont want her to contact me anymore. Stupid me, I answered her texts and calls, sent emails, flowers to her house, gave her a ring, did her favors, and cried begged her back, you name it everything. And also the bad: talked bad about her new bf (i know by a fact he is trash), told R to help me out, sent an email as someone else warning her about the new bf. I know I have hit rock bottom, When she contacts me she says: - I miss you - I still love you - I know youre better than him - Lets take this slowly as friends, and take it from there - I think about you all day - That she is not dating him, theyre just friends.. That she doesnt want anyone right now - etc Yesterday I begged her to let me go if she didnt want me, because I needed to move on. She kept telling me we had to talk in person before taking such decision (I sad no, she always stood me up in 4 months to talk, and since she had nothing that would change) I went home and cried my heart out, and she texts me: You are very closed, you have to compromise, I am compromising. Anyway Ill always be here. I wanted to work it out. So I know I have said it many times but today is the start of NC for me (the longest is 4 days of her not contacting me). However yesterday she said she understood she didnt want to hurt me anymore. Is it always like this? Good guys get stabbed while bad guys party? Did she just use me for 2 years to get better, only to trash me out? Urggg.. thanks so much if you got to this point.....
Thaddeus Posted August 11, 2009 Posted August 11, 2009 Is it always like this? Good guys get stabbed while bad guys party?Yep, pretty much. Many women will deny it until their dying day, but actions speak louder than words. Many women are drawn to bad boys like iron filings to a magnet... then when the women get treated like an accessory, or just plain like dirt, they'll complain that there aren't any good men around. Yet when there's a good man standing right in front of them, they'll ignore him and gravitate - yet again - to another bad boy. Happens every day.
silic0ntoad Posted August 11, 2009 Posted August 11, 2009 Dude, it sounds to me she is simply stringing you along until the current thing she has going on blossoms or collapses. I'd cut her off quick. You can't keep doing that to yourself. Once she said it was over, you needed to try moving on. You need to cut communication and get on with your life, without a confusing person dragging you down.
Author greenparrot Posted August 11, 2009 Author Posted August 11, 2009 thanks for the replies... Im trying to move on everyday. I just hope this time I keep it, she and I go to the same college, so an encounter is very likely.. Should I just walk by past her or say a weak hi?? toad, Ive been reading your posts, really helpful insight, thanks again man
llala Posted August 11, 2009 Posted August 11, 2009 Jesus man. She's killing you. You should play the strong one. She's basically holding on to you, "just in case". She's playing you.
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