edinsvet Posted August 11, 2009 Posted August 11, 2009 I took a few months break from dating. (Advice I got on this site) I had too many women calling and texting etc. I was falling behind in the things I needed to do, and wanted to focus on myself. So I just stopped completely for a while. It was great but that can only last so long. Now I am ready, I have been on a few dates this month, but really now it seems they are all running the other way? I can't figure what I am doing wrong. I don't think anything is different about me from six months ago. But I have had nothing but a string of really bad dates, stand-ups etc. any advice?
boogieboy Posted August 11, 2009 Posted August 11, 2009 what do you mean by running? What do you do on these dates? What are you trying to accomplish exactly? Depending on what youre thinking, they might be smelling something that youre giving off that they dont like. I wont say desperation, but something.
dreamergrl Posted August 11, 2009 Posted August 11, 2009 Like ..... literally running away with their hands in the air, like some scary movie from the 80's? Okay... Seriously... Where are you finding these dates, and what have you been doing with them?
BCCA Posted August 11, 2009 Posted August 11, 2009 I think you've probably been away from the dating world for a bit, and have forgotten how mindlessly annoying it all can be. Most, say 90%+, of the people you meet dating arent going to be right for you, and of those 10% that are, half wont be interested. Plain and simple, its a game of numbers. If the one constant in all your problems is you, than you need to look at what you are doing. Chances are, there is something youre doing at the same point of the courting process thats causing unfavorable results. Are you getting dates that bail after one date? Are women blowing you off and not going out with you at all?
Author edinsvet Posted August 12, 2009 Author Posted August 12, 2009 Well no they are not literally running away. First, I had a string of 7 cancelled dates in a row. Then they call me back and make dates at times that just don't work with my schedule or wouldn't be romantic or anything. Like 12:30 PM for lunch on a Monday, when I am at work. When I try to reschedule they do the same thing again. I did go out with 5 girls last month. All from the internet. 2 of them there was just no connection at all and neither of us bothered calling each other back. 3 of them it seemed like we clicked and they suggested meeting again but then made up excuses, did last minute cancellings for saturday night dates. All of them seem only very slightly interested in me. I am trying not to let this get to me, but it is. The first 2 or 3 rejections I was able to shrug off and get back into a good mood. But it has been a month of non-stop cancellations and getting stuck spending weekends alone. My attitude has gotten bad. I'm frustrated that my summer is ending, and I haven't had one nice romantic day with someone interested in me. Am I desparate? I wasn't but now I am getting there. How do I get out of this mood?
BCCA Posted August 12, 2009 Posted August 12, 2009 You know, they say not to take it personally when you are rejected, but its really hard. It is personal. If you were to add about 6 months of frustrating dating results to what you have experienced, you would have my life. I litterally havent been on one 'date' in over a year. I get tons of numbers from women who seem interested, yet none of them call me back. Any girl I seem to have any interest in wants nothing to do with me, and any girl Im simply not interested in wont leave me a lone. It really sucks. I dont know if I would call myself desperate, as much as I would say Im just generally annoyed with how dating is these days. Its so fake, people are never honest, and you keep hoping for it to change, but it seems it never does. Im in the same boat, man. All I can say is that I really do think its a numbers game, and at the end of the day, you either get lucky or you dont.
DustySaltus Posted August 12, 2009 Posted August 12, 2009 I'm trying to get back out there after a broken engagement. I met the first girl at a bar where we really hit it off, when on the date and realized she wasn't for me. That was followed by 2 no shows and another ex who smelled blood in the water. So don't worry it will all turn around. Just appreciate the good times when they happen, and if you find the right one hold on to them.
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