Friends with benefits /:

[sillycourtneyxD]

My now ex boyfriend and I have been off and on for the past year now.

We have dated almost five times. We recently broke up, about two days ago, but he still wants to be bestfriends with me, and he says he is still in love with me.

 

Let me tell you a little about him, and us, before I ask my question.

Okay, so my ex boyfriend (lets call him, Bob) (and lets call his ex gf, Dawn)

So, Bob has cheated on me about three times, in this full amount of time of us being off and on.

One time, was with my ex bestfriend.

One time, was with his friend. (girl of course)

And the most recent which was about three weeks ago was with his ex gf Dawn. She kissed him on his birthday.

Well, Bob, broke up with me on his birthday because that kiss suddenly changed everything with him.

He told me he was confussed and that he did not want to be with me, if he still had feelings for Dawn, which he does. He said he doesn't want to hurt me. So we broke up for about a day or so.

Than, he comes crawling back to me, and wants to get back together with me! I of course took him back, because I love him.

Now, about two days ago, he broke up with me again because he still has feelings for Dawn and I had surgery (long story)

And while I was having surgery, he was flirting with my bestfriend!

So we broke up about two days ago, he says he still loves me, wants to be with me, but I told him if he hurts me again, I'm going to be out of his life forever, because I'm tired of him hurting me.

 

Now onto my question.

He says he will try to not like his ex girlfriend.

But he said he doesn't want to go out with me because he doesn't want to hurt me, and loose me forever.

He still says he is in love with me and wants to be with me but yah.

NOW, all of a sudden, he wants to be friends with benefits as he says.

I'm still inlove with him, and I want to be with him more than anything, but I have told him, I am not haveing sexual relations with him unless we are actually together (we have had sex a few times so its not my first time)

But, I miss him, and I miss his kisses and haveing sex with him.

So, I almost gave in, we were makeing out, and he wanted to go further but I stopped him.

I told him, I want us haveing sex to mean something to each of us.

He said it will mean a lot to him if we start haveing sex again, but he doesn't want to go out with me right now.

 

I love him. He says he doesn't want me to move on, but he doesn't want to be with me?! I'm so confussed.

Somebody pleaseeeee help me.

 

Do I have sex with him and hope that maybe he will want to go out with me again?

Do I keep saying no and get over him? Which I do not want to do.

I have tried talking to him and telling him that I can't be "just friends"

but it doesn't seem to work.

Should I just completely dump him out of my life?

Don't contact him or anything?

 

Somebody pleaseeeeee help me, it will me a ton to me.

Thank you sooooooo much.

[xpaperxcutx]

He doesn't want to be with you, he just wants sex with you. There's a difference. He will never want to be with you because having sex with him will be the only thing he wants from you.

 

Have some self dignity and tell him no. Don't let him use you for sex unless you feel the same way about him, and only want sex and nothing else. Otherwise, if you still harbor feelings for him, you have to cut all contact with him and move on. It's not that he's the one keeping you from moving on, he doesn't have that power unless you give it to him. You're the only one that keeping yourself from wanting to move on.

[mammax3]

As hard as it is, I think you should move on and find a partner who wants to give you his whole self - rather than just a little piece.

 

It is tough, though because right now you think you think you won't ever love another guy as much as you do him.