Thoughtless Sisters

[lostnspace]

Hi,

 

I've been dating a good guy for almost five years. We are both over 40 and have good jobs and careers. There aren't major problems, issues and we have fun spending time together. We have spent time with both of our families and traveled together.

 

His family is closeknit and spend a lot of time together. If it was possible, I am sure they would have huge dinners every weekend. Because of my own interests and hobbies, I have not been able to attend every single event.

 

For the last 3 years, his sisters (2) and sister in law (1) have tried at different times for him to meet female friends of theirs during these family gatherings. It is ridiculously obvious what they are doing, and they don't care whether I am present or not.

 

Last Christmas, his sister in law and her mother had a dinner party with assigned seating and placed me facing a wall away from everyone in the room and my boyfriend next to the woman she wanted him to be with. The assigned seating was weird and I told my boyfriend that I would be leaving if the nametags didn't get switched so I could sit with him. Other couples were sitting together.

 

During Easter in 2007, his sister had an outdoor party and one of her friends was sitting there overdressed and flipping her hair while trying to make eye contact with my boyfriend. I disappeared to play with the kids becuause I just don't want to deal with the game.

 

I belive that both women have been told that I am not important.

 

My boyfriend is not interested in any of these women and obviously he is dating me. We have talked about it, so there isn't an issue between us but it has really stifled my desire to spend any extra time with his sisters. I can't imagine being related officially to any of them. If this is how they act before a marriage I can only imagine how inappropriate they would be afterward.

 

His sisters are persistent and the most recent thing happened this weekend. I am to the point where I just want to stay away from the family functions and hang at home because I don't want to deal with adolescent manipulation from adults. Hi sister in law has been aggressive and inappropriate, teasing my boyfriend by saying that he is still single.

 

I guess I missed the boat on how to handle this.

 

Thoughts and wisdom anyone? Thanks-l