acarls20 Posted August 11, 2009 Posted August 11, 2009 The guy I'm dating really seems to like me. When I do see him we kiss hold hands. We talk easily. He seemed threatened when I said I had to leave. He misunderstood that I meant change apartments. However, he never makes any plans to see me. He initiated the conversation at first but from that point on I basically said when we should meet. Sometimes he'd say where but most the time it was me. I only see him once a week. We are nearly on date 5. It seems at this point I'm initiating all the dates. He, however, is having money issues which could be taking over the dating factor. He's been on a massive job search. Could this affect things? Everyone keeps telling me I need to play hard to get. It may be too late for that. I've already told him I like him. He didn't seem to mind at all that I said that. He was already acting this way before hand. Any advice?
Thaddeus Posted August 11, 2009 Posted August 11, 2009 Searching for employment is about the toughest thing a guy has to do. The constant rejections, the calls that never get returned, the inane interviews with ridiculous questions ("If you could be a vegetable, what sort of vegetable would you be?") and all the rest are extremely stressful and difficult. There's no question that it's affecting him. Add the financial stress of being unemployed and it's no wonder that he seems distracted. And if everyone is telling you that you need to play hard-to-get, well, everyone is wrong. It's just another stress added to the pile. He may very well like you, but there may come a time when that added stress just gets to be too much and he'll start asking himself, "Why am I putting up with this sh*t? Screw it, it's easier right now to be alone." Just be yourself. Don't play games. Games are for children. Relationships are for grown-ups.
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