jab80 Posted August 10, 2009 Posted August 10, 2009 My ex split up with me in January after 2 1/2 years, and living together. We hit a rough patch for a couple of months but other then that we were very much in love, his reason he decided he didn't love me anymore. I made contact after a couple of months as we have mutal aquaintances and thought best to be amicable; but we ended up sleeping together. This and a few other goings on I ended up breaking it off and seeing someone else. He gets back in contact via email and we just chatted over a couple of months. Then out of the blue he decides he wants to get back together, I agreed. And we have seen eachother a couple of times since then. What I don't understand now is that he says he wants to take it slow, his slow is not texting or phoning at all and arranging to see eachother once a week (maybe) he is making no effort whatsoever. Friends tell me how he really misses me and wants me back etc...but how do I deal with this I hurt my back yesterday which he knew I haven't even got an email to find out how I am! I said to him he needs to reassure me and I am nervous about this, at the end of the day it was HIS decision to come back into my life why treat me like this? Does this sound like the definition of a man taking it slow or being silly? I really love him but I feel I can't put myself through anymore trauma the I already have. I am trying to back off and not make any calls and texts myself now but I dunno if that is the best route . Help! xx
fiser360 Posted August 10, 2009 Posted August 10, 2009 Well, I agree with the backing off and letting him come to you. But I am not sure about the taking it slow thing. I could understand maybe spending less time than normal with you. But MAYBE once a week...Hmm. I would talk to him about it. And if he can't reassure you, then I would tell him you can't handle being together unless something changes.
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