fiser360 Posted August 10, 2009 Posted August 10, 2009 So a recap: My ex and I dated for 3 years. We started a break about 2 months ago but last month she started dating a new guy. Now I can understand her wanting to "date around" or "see what else is out there". Because we have been together since the summer of our sophomore year. Anyways, she texts me today and asks what a girl ( a close friend of ours) wants to talk to me about? I told her she was just seeing how I was. The girl sent me a message on Facebook. And my ex was like "Oh, I'm sorry I'm stalking you like that, I feel dumb" I just kind of brushed it off, but it's not the first time it has happened either. Later today, she texts me and says "IF I wanted to get back with you, would you take me back? I'm not implying anything, just curious.." And I said that we would definitely have to talk about everything before I could decide. She said her new bf was worried that she was going to leave him for me. (Excuse maybe to ask me that question?) Any ideas on this guys? I've been staying NC just letting her contact me and answering whenever it is convenient for me. Thanks everyone.
huck Posted August 10, 2009 Posted August 10, 2009 Shes jealous from the looks of things.. Maybe the grass isnt greener with this new guy and shes just seeing if your still there to come back to.. Would you be happy with this ?? Being the back up plan??
Author fiser360 Posted August 10, 2009 Author Posted August 10, 2009 I would be ecstatic if she decided to come back to me. Saying the back-up plan makes it sound like I'm giving away my self worth, but I would do it to have her back. Things would be so much better.
Author fiser360 Posted August 10, 2009 Author Posted August 10, 2009 And I don't think it's jealousy, the girl used to be our boss. And she is married.
Author fiser360 Posted August 10, 2009 Author Posted August 10, 2009 I do have pride BoT2, I'm not begging or pleading with her. I'm just saying that if she decided she wanted to come back, well I'm not going to stop her. I would welcome her back. There's nothing wrong with that. I love her.
trueblue72ny Posted August 11, 2009 Posted August 11, 2009 So a recap: My ex and I dated for 3 years. We started a break about 2 months ago but last month she started dating a new guy. Now I can understand her wanting to "date around" or "see what else is out there". Because we have been together since the summer of our sophomore year. Anyways, she texts me today and asks what a girl ( a close friend of ours) wants to talk to me about? I told her she was just seeing how I was. The girl sent me a message on Facebook. And my ex was like "Oh, I'm sorry I'm stalking you like that, I feel dumb" I just kind of brushed it off, but it's not the first time it has happened either. Later today, she texts me and says "IF I wanted to get back with you, would you take me back? I'm not implying anything, just curious.." And I said that we would definitely have to talk about everything before I could decide. She said her new bf was worried that she was going to leave him for me. (Excuse maybe to ask me that question?) Any ideas on this guys? I've been staying NC just letting her contact me and answering whenever it is convenient for me. Thanks everyone. it sounds like she wants to keep you around while she see's "what else is out there" ive heard the exact same line. mine does the same thing than i will hear from her (i work with mine). its only day 4 with nc here so far. i like the sound of how you put it.... "I've been staying NC just letting her contact me and answering whenever it is convenient for me" thats perfect. i feel better about myself not contacting her. and i should just reply at my convenience if/when that day comes i get an email.
boogieboy Posted August 11, 2009 Posted August 11, 2009 You should have said no, she would have wanted you more. I think she only asked you that to make herself feel better, validation. Unfortunately you fell for it.
Author fiser360 Posted August 11, 2009 Author Posted August 11, 2009 I had written out in the text message no. But then I changed it, because I wanted the door to still be open a little. So I just kind of didn't say either way. I was nervous if I said no she would just be like, okay. And forget about it.
trueblue72ny Posted August 11, 2009 Posted August 11, 2009 I had written out in the text message no. But then I changed it, because I wanted the door to still be open a little. So I just kind of didn't say either way. I was nervous if I said no she would just be like, okay. And forget about it. ya thats whats so tricky about potential reconciliations.
boogieboy Posted August 11, 2009 Posted August 11, 2009 I had written out in the text message no. But then I changed it, because I wanted the door to still be open a little. So I just kind of didn't say either way. I was nervous if I said no she would just be like, okay. And forget about it. She would have said forget about it. unless shes beating down your door, theres no reason to talk to her.
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