inaperfectworld Posted August 10, 2009 Posted August 10, 2009 hey guys my names is Nicole, Im new on here and will appreciate your advice. Thanks in advance Okay, so a while back I added this guy on Myspace [yeah, yeah, I know] and we struck up an online friendship. For the first 5months we would talk online for 5 days out of the week for atleast 3 hours. We talked a lot, and he was straight platonic until I found myself liking him. Weird I know, but when you talk about so many things and share interest its bound to happen. But that was until he told me he was engaged... For some reason I felt betrayed and thought that our 'relationship' was a waste of time so I stopped talking to him for a while. So months later I found that he broke up with his ex and we started talking again. We talked about us seeing each other, and I know for my part I was serious. Even if it was just as friends, i thought that after a year of talking online that it was more than enough time [he lives 3.5 hours away]. Ok so anyway, I have always been there for him whenever he wanted to talk about his life or problems and would help him get through things. He has this sarcasm about him and would make jokes about things I would think is personal. It would be fustrating becomes sometimes he would be serious and nice and other times mean and sarcastic. But heres the thing, he says that he "hates me". When we are on aim he'll say this and one time he told me that he didnt want to talk to me anymore. So ofcouse I stopped talking to him. Ill NEVER msg him, comment him or text him first. ANd what I dont get is-- If he hates me, why does he keep contacting me? He'll act like he didnt say that he hated me and he'll act nice and funny. I thought he really did hate me, but normally when people hate you and you leave them alone, they dont bother you [or I thought]. Also whenever I sign online he signs off. Or when Im online [myspace] and then sign off, he signs off after I do. Is he seeking attention because I give him so much? Does he really hate me? I just need to know. Usually I can understand people, but this is harder because I never met him. And when he hates people he stops talking to them. Ive known a few people he just stopped talking to. Ive asked him why he hates me and his reasons are childish and he can never give me a good reason. Please help.
Katherineos123 Posted August 10, 2009 Posted August 10, 2009 He sounds extremely immature to me. It seems as if he's pulling the grade school "i hate you" move, when in actuality he means "i have a crush on you and Im not quite sure I know what to do with it" Why exactly did he say this? What happened to trigger this reaction, obviously there were events prior to the "H bomb".... This would be very disheartening to me. Sounds like too much drama.
Author inaperfectworld Posted August 10, 2009 Author Posted August 10, 2009 He sounds extremely immature to me. It seems as if he's pulling the grade school "i hate you" move, when in actuality he means "i have a crush on you and Im not quite sure I know what to do with it" Why exactly did he say this? What happened to trigger this reaction, obviously there were events prior to the "H bomb".... This would be very disheartening to me. Sounds like too much drama. Yeah, Im beginning to think that he doesnt want to admit that he likes me. And I dont know what triggered him to say that, Ive asked and still nothing..
Bayern Posted August 10, 2009 Posted August 10, 2009 I doubt he really hates you. People say a lot of things they don't mean. Maybe it's a bit immature when you think about it, but everyone has a bit of immaturity. I wouldn't worry too much about it. Why not request a meeting or something? If he needs so much attention from you then he obviously is attracted to you. The only reason I can see him not acting on it (as seems to be the case) is because he is too proud. Foolish sure, but it can't hurt to say anything I wouldn't think. Good luck.
Island Girl Posted August 11, 2009 Posted August 11, 2009 I'm not sure why you care. Once you find out anyone can be that sarcastic and mean to you, you should cut them out of your life. And whether or not he really hates you or not shouldn't matter. If a guy said that to me - he'd be immediately deleted from any and all ways of contact. You are young. This should be a big lesson to you. People treat you the way you allow them to. Do not be a doormat. Never be a doormat. If a man disrespects you in those ways he is done and you move on.
boogieboy Posted August 11, 2009 Posted August 11, 2009 This guy is an ass and you really shouldnt be talking to a guy that is this immature. Meet someone new and forget about him. Whatever immaturity hes doing now, it will probably get worse in the future since you live 3 hours away. I do think youre leaving something out though, he says "I hate you and leave me alone" out of the blue with no provocation from you? What did you say to make him do that?
Spirit of the Ocean Posted August 11, 2009 Posted August 11, 2009 I agree with Boogieboy. Hate is such a strong word, you dont just HATE someone just like that unless there's something seriously wrong. Did you ever ask him why he said something like that? I would just not talk to him anymore. If someone told me they hated me and signed out when i signed in etc, he's just not worth all the drama. You deserve much better!
Author inaperfectworld Posted August 11, 2009 Author Posted August 11, 2009 This guy is an ass and you really shouldnt be talking to a guy that is this immature. Meet someone new and forget about him. Whatever immaturity hes doing now, it will probably get worse in the future since you live 3 hours away. I do think youre leaving something out though, he says "I hate you and leave me alone" out of the blue with no provocation from you? What did you say to make him do that? Yeah I know I really shouldnt be talking to him. I really dont try to, him talks to me first. But there is no provocation from me. Once he said that he was mad because I didnt come see him, but then later says something else. But maybe I explained it wrong, he doesnt say "leave me alone" because I dont bother him lol. He talks to me first.
Island Girl Posted August 11, 2009 Posted August 11, 2009 Yeah I know I really shouldnt be talking to him. I really dont try to, him talks to me first. But there is no provocation from me. Once he said that he was mad because I didnt come see him, but then later says something else. But maybe I explained it wrong, he doesnt say "leave me alone" because I dont bother him lol. He talks to me first. It does not matter if he talks to you first or not. YOU still respond. And you shouldn't. AND you should have already blocked him on all chats, MySpace, etc. so that he CAN'T contact you.
boogieboy Posted August 11, 2009 Posted August 11, 2009 See there are women out there that love the unpredictable behavior. I wonder if he is using that theory on you. It seems to be working because you want ot give him a chance....
Island Girl Posted August 11, 2009 Posted August 11, 2009 See there are women out there that love the unpredictable behavior. I wonder if he is using that theory on you. It seems to be working because you want ot give him a chance.... You are right boogieboy. And these women usually end up with wrenching heartbreak wondering "why?". 'Hellllllloooooooo. He has been a complete moron jerk since you met him. What gave you an indication that he was going to be any different at any point?'
Author inaperfectworld Posted August 11, 2009 Author Posted August 11, 2009 You are right boogieboy. And these women usually end up with wrenching heartbreak wondering "why?". 'Hellllllloooooooo. He has been a complete moron jerk since you met him. What gave you an indication that he was going to be any different at any point?' no he wasnt a jerk since ive met him. if that was the case, well.. this wouldnt even be an issue. he was nice for the first several months. But maybe I do like the unpredictability, thats a good point. I do want to give him a chance, thats my problem. But I guess everyone is saying what I know already.. leave him alone. But i just wanted to know if he really "hated" me, thats all.
boogieboy Posted August 11, 2009 Posted August 11, 2009 None of us can know if he really hates you without hearing the actual conversation. Either something set him off, or hes nuts. It doesnt really matter anyway.
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