angelface78 Posted August 10, 2009 Posted August 10, 2009 SOMEBODY PLEASE HELP ME!!!! Its been 2 months of NC....and i just cant take it anymore. Although i dont have any urges to contact him..i keep looking at his stupid myspace. He puts headlines up there that hurt. He does it on purpose cause he knows i look. I know he is always looking at my profile also. In the past we have had to major breakups that lasted 3 months each. This is our third and i think the final one. When we got back together after past breakups he confessed that he was always looking at my myspace profile. We are both obsessed. I know he is sooo proud and just will never call me and i will not call him so i know its over for good this time. I WONT CALL BECAUSE I WAS ALWAYS THE ONE THAT FIXED EVERY PROBLEM IN THE RELATIONSHIP. It just hurts so bad!! We were engaged and i returned the ring ;( I miss him soo much and hate him sooo much!! This is never going to f***ing end. I have been thru hell with this guy. Im never going to get over him and the worse part is he knows it. I know he loves me but he has a huge ego and that is why he is not ready to be married..but i cant keep waiting until he grows up. Somebody please help me ;(
nature Posted August 10, 2009 Posted August 10, 2009 Ok, you know you are playing in to the "game", so stop it now. Take a big deep breath, and stop it. Either shut down your My Space acct or block him so that he cannot see you. I don't know how My Space works, but if you block him from seeing yours, does that automatically mean you can't see his too? If so, then good. You know he is not ready for marriage. And does not want to get married right now. So right there you should feel grateful that you know, and look at it in a positive way that you no longer need to play the game. See what i mean? Of course he will not call you to make up, because he is not ready for marriage. And he knows if he were the one to pursue you, he'd have to buck up and be ready for marriage. That is why you always had to "fix things" and extend the olive branch. He didn't put himself out there, because he wasn't ready for what putting himself out there would mean. Sooooo....basically, you know this man is not ready for marriage at the moment. This is the reason behind you two breaking up all the time. Yet you always went back to him, hoping to change his mind. Can you see how your behaviour wasn't working? The definition of insanity is doing the same thing over again, yet expecting different results. Are you going to keep on this insanity wagon? Or get off and work on yourself, your own self esteem and your own life? I have a feeling if you block him from your My Space, show him you are no longer playing the game, that you accept he is not ready for a further commitment, that he may get a big shocker. Perhaps before or after you block him from MS, send him a nice SHORT email, sounding very mature, and very together. In it state, that you have been doing some thinking, and realize the break up has been for the best, as you are aware he is not ready for marriage yet, and you do not feel that you want to continue a relationship that is going nowhere, because you are trying to grow as a person and grow in life. And life has so much excitement to you, that you cannot see yourself sitting still in a dead end situation,and you realize that you have BOTH been fighting about it for too long, and you don't want that kind of negativity in your life anymore. Tell him you wish him the best, you think he is a wonderful person, and that you completely understand that the reality is, you are just at different places in your life right now. Do it. Even if you don't feel this, do it anyways. he will not be expecting you to accept the Break up. It will shock him. Do not tell him you are going NC, and do not even mention that you are blocking him from My Space. Just keep it cordial, sweet, and super sugary happy and nice. It will shake him up more than anything would.
NightLord1 Posted August 10, 2009 Posted August 10, 2009 I agree block him from your myspace or delete him then make your profile private so he can't see what your doing. Myspace has all kinds of privacy settings so you should look into them. As to you looking at his page only one thing to say...STOP IT. That's it just don't do it. If it is too much of a temptation then get rid of him as a friend so you don't have the need to look all the time. If your the one always doing the reconciliations and its been however many times you have broken up and got back together then let him go for good or if you want to repeat the pattern don't go to him at all and see if he ever gets back to you.
Author angelface78 Posted August 11, 2009 Author Posted August 11, 2009 Thanks guys..... You r sooo right. I geel like a fool ;(
Beeotch Posted August 11, 2009 Posted August 11, 2009 To be frank: if you've been checking his myspace you have not been in NC. So I suggest you start now...by not looking at his page. Perhaps then NC will do you some good.
llala Posted August 11, 2009 Posted August 11, 2009 never use Facebook, My space, MSN after a breakup. If you do, delete her AND all of their friends now.
steelfist9 Posted August 11, 2009 Posted August 11, 2009 I'm looking at her myspace right now and his myspace and I want to throw the mouse at the freaking computer. I know she might have used it to cheat on me, I wish I had someway of accessing her login for myspace. I'd find everything that went on as is still going on out.
Palmer253 Posted August 11, 2009 Posted August 11, 2009 never use Facebook, My space, MSN after a breakup. If you do, delete her AND all of their friends now. Exactly! Seeing them happy, or with someone else, or saying mean things is going to make a break up 294857X harder.
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