stepka Posted August 11, 2009 Posted August 11, 2009 Start running and working out religiously for a year and you will have girls left and right. He wants a gal now, and he looks fine weightwise in his pic anyway. Honestly I think you just need a better pic, Drew--don't ask me how I know that, since I've never met you, but I just have that feeling. I'd go out with you but I doubt you live in MO and you look too young anyway--I gave up cougaring after just one. I met a guy once that had a pretty nice looking pic on the site, but only one. He weighed at least 100 more pounds in person, and looked like even if he took all that wt. off he still wouldn't be that handsome, though it was his pic. I think it's probably the only decent photo he ever had taken of himself, b/c I saw him on several more sites and he always used that one. And then his personality sucked too. I learned to not trust just one picture. But Drew, I think you'll be fine as soon as you get this profile and pic thing worked out. It's kind of like a resume--you get one chance to make a first impression.
Isolde Posted August 11, 2009 Posted August 11, 2009 Start running and working out religiously for a year and you will have girls left and right. I don't usually make recommendations of this kind, but I honestly think some weight loss would make a huge difference in your case. I can see you have good facial features. For the rest, I don't recommend online dating anyway. Get out and about. Force yourself to network more. After awhile it will become second nature.
boogieboy Posted August 11, 2009 Posted August 11, 2009 1. Get a makeover. Seriously. Go to a trendy store and ask the hottest sales girl there to "make you look hot." 2. Get your ass in shape! Join a gym, lift weights, eat right, run and do cardio, lose weight, get your body into an attractive state. 3. Hygiene! Get your hair cut, get your body hair dealt with if it's out of control. Get contacts if you have glasses. 4. CONFIDENCE!! Take up some new hobbies that make you feel self-actualized. Find something that makes you passionate and feel strong inside. 5. Expand your social circle. Activity groups are a great way to meet people. For me, it was swing and salsa dancing. 6. Learn to flirt. Seriously. Read up on it, it WILL help. This can be done. Start with what Phateless first of all. You arent going to get anywhere if you dont recognise the mistakes you are making with these women. You dont want to change but you want the women to change their behavior towards you, its not going to work like that. Youre obviously getting dates but they dont continue after that, youre apparently doing something wrong. I would like to hear some detail of what your last date was like and what you think went wrong. And forget about internet dating, its for adonis' only. Its much easier to learn how to talk about interesting things in person with women.
edinsvet Posted August 11, 2009 Posted August 11, 2009 6. Learn to flirt. Seriously. Read up on it, it WILL help. Any particular recommended reading?
Thaddeus Posted August 11, 2009 Posted August 11, 2009 Any particular recommended reading?Way of the Superior Man by David Deida. Not a 'how-to-flirt' book, but a book about being a better man, of which flirting is only one part. Also see No More Mr Nice Guy by Dr Robert Glover - there's also a website and message board.
edinsvet Posted August 11, 2009 Posted August 11, 2009 OOO-KAY...lets see if THIS works! http://i538.photobucket.com/albums/ff346/spectre73/me.jpg You look fine. But definitely hit the gym. Invest some money or time in yourself. Diet and Fitness. Become an expert in both of them. You will be glad you did. You will notice a huge difference in reactions to you the first month and it will only get better as time progresses within six months and you can be totally diesel. It will definitely improve your game.
Phateless Posted August 11, 2009 Posted August 11, 2009 Exactly like I said before. Gym Contacts Haircut Better style That will do a lot for you. You'd really be shocked how much. When my ex dumped me I went through a minor transformation and it really helped me with women. Building confidence, gained 20 lbs of lean muscle, new style and new clothes, got contacts, and women treat me so much differently now than they did 2 or 3 years ago. It's a really profound difference. Beyond that, do the reading recommended by others. It will help.
You'reasian Posted August 11, 2009 Posted August 11, 2009 Exactly like I said before. Gym Contacts Haircut Better style Flirt Can't forget that one... Gotta flirt lightly, suggestive and subliminal sometimes and other times really hard. Do it just to get a rise outta the girl, without expectations and without care - and she'll love it.
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