Soul Bear Posted August 10, 2009 Posted August 10, 2009 I broke NC......... **** I txt her ''thanks for the bday wishes.'' (this has been eating at me, i cant believe i did it, after over 2 months of NC from my side) She replied about 10 mins later with a ''Thats alright. hope u had a good one. How're you getting on, mum said you were moving to london?'' I have not replied..... Im not emotional at all, just a bit anxious and nervous. Dont wanna get friendzoned or allow her toi think that everything that happened is just fine. Cos it AINT!!
Peanut9330 Posted August 10, 2009 Posted August 10, 2009 Its ok don’t beat yourself up because of it, you only sent her one message thanking her for b-day wishes your still on the right track.
DSM-IV Posted August 10, 2009 Posted August 10, 2009 Unfortunately, his anxiety/nervousness is correctly placed and this is going to hurt him in a few days. Be prepared for the oncoming pain, and don't set yourself back again.
Author Soul Bear Posted August 10, 2009 Author Posted August 10, 2009 Thanks I still care about this girl deeply. I woiuldnt take her back if she said she had dumped her rebound and made a mistake, I would tell her to go away on her own for a month or so and figure out what she wants. Im a little lost, not back to square one by any means, in fact I feel pretty reserved towards her, which i guess is a good thing... DSM-IV please dont talk about me in third pesron Just dont know where to go from here....back to NC again? Where will that get me....i cant see this outside the box right now
DSM-IV Posted August 10, 2009 Posted August 10, 2009 Thanks DSM-IV please dont talk about me in third pesron I was replying to them about you. I wasn't speaking to you. But alas, keep in mind you don't feel anything til a few days after something happens. When I met up with my ex 6 months after we broke up, for a date, everything was well. Things ended up falling through again a few days later, but I felt like I was still strong. (If not stronger). 2 Months later, today, hell is my middle name.
Author Soul Bear Posted August 10, 2009 Author Posted August 10, 2009 Guess im back into NC again...that should deliever the message pretty well. kind of 'im cordial but you ****ed up.' DSM- Hell hath no Fury like a woman scorned.... I hope you feel better soon bro
DSM-IV Posted August 10, 2009 Posted August 10, 2009 Guess im back into NC again...that should deliever the message pretty well. kind of 'im cordial but you ****ed up.' DSM- Hell hath no Fury like a woman scorned.... I hope you feel better soon bro Hell has no fury like a psychologist;) But thanks for wishing me well. This isn't about me though, of course. This is your topic. I hope YOU stay well. You come off as a genuine and caring person, which to me is a very good trait, and it shows me you are deserving of whatever girl you want.
Author Soul Bear Posted August 10, 2009 Author Posted August 10, 2009 This is confusing... One set telling me to go nack into NC again, and another telling me to stay LC with vague replies with no questions
Author Soul Bear Posted August 10, 2009 Author Posted August 10, 2009 Hell has no fury like a psychologist;) But thanks for wishing me well. This isn't about me though, of course. This is your topic. I hope YOU stay well. You come off as a genuine and caring person, which to me is a very good trait, and it shows me you are deserving of whatever girl you want. My ex is a psychologist too...... Thats what makes this so hard to play ball..... Thank you for your kind words
Author Soul Bear Posted August 10, 2009 Author Posted August 10, 2009 I must have really annoyed people on here....I dont get much support if any from the folks here that used to help me out....
northstar1 Posted August 10, 2009 Posted August 10, 2009 Nearly everyone makes these kinds of mistakes at some point in the NC struggle. I know I did a few times. But you've also seen the result of doing it (the anxiousness) and likely wondering if there will be more contact. I know it's tough by you need to resist getting into these kinds of exchanges, so I'd avoid replying. Resume normal programming.
DSM-IV Posted August 10, 2009 Posted August 10, 2009 She's a psychologist? Seriously, a PhD? If so, I suggest you just straight stay NC. There's just no chance you can win this struggle, trust me.
utterer of lies Posted August 10, 2009 Posted August 10, 2009 She's a psychologist? Seriously, a PhD? If so, I suggest you just straight stay NC. There's just no chance you can win this struggle, trust me. :lmao:
NopeNah Posted August 10, 2009 Posted August 10, 2009 :lmao: I agree with that! SB, I'm going to have to say, damnit, you were doing so well!! We all do fauleter/stumble with NC from time to time. Hell knows I have. Anyways, get on with living your life again. If she keeps sending messages cool, if not even cooler! Take care and worry about yourself in life the partners/others are just a bonus. You're the one that matters. PS...There's not a physc in this world that's got sh*t on my pimp game
DSM-IV Posted August 10, 2009 Posted August 10, 2009 Lol the irony of you laughing utterer is that I said what I said regarding him dating a psych, intending for it to be an obvious joke ..... As for your praying... your pimp game? Aren't you in your 30's? Time to grow up my friend.
CaliGuy Posted August 10, 2009 Posted August 10, 2009 This is confusing... One set telling me to go nack into NC again, and another telling me to stay LC with vague replies with no questions Whatever floats your boat, man. If being in LC helps you move on, do it. If staying in NC helps you move on, do it. The point is you need to be focused on moving on and not HER. Focus on YOU. This is the one time in your life I feel like it's A-OK to be 100% completely SELFISH.
NopeNah Posted August 10, 2009 Posted August 10, 2009 Lol the irony of you laughing utterer is that I said what I said regarding him dating a psych, intending for it to be an obvious joke ..... As for your praying... your pimp game? Aren't you in your 30's? Time to grow up my friend. Yes early 30's.. whats wrong with dating multiple women?
utterer of lies Posted August 10, 2009 Posted August 10, 2009 Lol the irony of you laughing utterer is that I said what I said regarding him dating a psych, intending for it to be an obvious joke ..... So you accuse me of laughing at your joke? Oh, and you didn't answer the question.
Author Soul Bear Posted August 10, 2009 Author Posted August 10, 2009 wow...Cali....what a difference it makes to actually see what you look like! Im back into NC again now...screw her....no sincere appology- NO SOULBEAR!! Plus i now feel a little more empowered as Im not going to reply DSM- She is screwed up in the head... What the hell was I thinking.... P4D- Im so ashamed of myself, I just handed her a plate of ego.... IM SO ANGRY!!!! HOW THE **** CAN SHE GET AWAY WITH ALL THIS
Miguelrg Posted August 10, 2009 Posted August 10, 2009 Nc bro! You should just focus on your life now, where you are and what you can achieve! you should probably start a company
Author Soul Bear Posted August 10, 2009 Author Posted August 10, 2009 Nc bro! You should just focus on your life now, where you are and what you can achieve! you should probably start a company LMAO!!!:lmao: Nice one bro.... It's in the process......
georgia girl Posted August 11, 2009 Posted August 11, 2009 Do no contact, but then focus on yourself. You can't control her choices - only yours. If you want what she's not prepared to give, then don't contact her so you can get on with your life and find someone who is. Make that psychological break and you'll be all the better for it. Then, no matter what else happens, you can make good choices for yourself.
NopeNah Posted August 11, 2009 Posted August 11, 2009 .P4D- Im so ashamed of myself, I just handed her a plate of ego.... IM SO ANGRY!!!! HOW THE **** CAN SHE GET AWAY WITH ALL THIS No need to be ashamed man.. It happens to all of us. Just go back to NC and live on! I've not been on here alot as of late. Haven't really had the need anymore. I've been in contact with my ex lately but, still talking to the "new" girls aswell. Not going to jump back in again just yet, if at all, if ya know what I mean.. Hang in there man, it'll work it's self out one way or the other.
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