New Again Posted August 10, 2009 Posted August 10, 2009 But the kicker eventually came, and he ended up being a mean drunk... every time we would have a drink or 2, he would morph into this jerk that treated me disrespectfully, so I had enough. Ha, that's what happened with me and the short guy I dated! I broke up with him when he called me a b*tch and started screaming at me in the middle of a bar because I was my girl friend's beer pong partner instead of his. Then he didn't understand why that was a good enough reason to dump him.
Citizen Drawn Posted August 10, 2009 Posted August 10, 2009 It's a primal thing although I can't imagine a guy being shorter than I am at 5'2"+!! And yes, I realize how silly I'm being by stating the following but I prefer taller men, 6' or more. In retrospect, most but not all the men I've dated were around that height. My fiance's 6'3"+ and I love it. He can pick me up like I'm a featherweight and when he wraps those long arms around me, can't explain the feeling. And no, I'm not compensating. I like my height. I don't know how he does it, last time I dated a woman that short all I got was neckache and I felt like I was in a parent child relationship. Difficult to hold hands and walk along, and doesn't feel right holding each other in bed. 1
Author MSUE Posted August 10, 2009 Author Posted August 10, 2009 you'd be surprised how many people have battled addiction and there's no shame in that in fact its an illness just like alcoholism...many succeed and end up becoming amazing beings and supporters of others battles...I can only be proud of everything he is acomplpishing and because he is not busy getting high he went from making five hundred a week to making 2 grand and becoming a top manager for a top GM dealership...now that's something to just be proud of and his sincerity on staying straight
Ruby Slippers Posted August 10, 2009 Posted August 10, 2009 Me being tall, the taller the better. My tallest bf was 6'4", and that height felt like a perfect fit for me. But I don't rule out guys who are a little shorter than I.
runner Posted August 10, 2009 Posted August 10, 2009 not gonna point fingers here, i just think it's funny how some women get so hung up over tall'ness. i suppose tall'ness just goes well with wearing heals, just like big boobs go with a red italian sports cars
Trialbyfire Posted August 10, 2009 Posted August 10, 2009 I don't know how he does it, last time I dated a woman that short all I got was neckache and I felt like I was in a parent child relationship. Difficult to hold hands and walk along, and doesn't feel right holding each other in bed.*sigh* That is all...
Citizen Drawn Posted August 10, 2009 Posted August 10, 2009 not gonna point fingers here, i just think it's funny how some women get so hung up over tall'ness. i suppose tall'ness just goes well with wearing heals, just like big boobs go with a red italian sports cars Thing is these women shoot themselves in the foot. Any relationship with wild differences (age, height, background) typically comes up against more difficulties than one where the partners are a closer fit. More than 6 inches and you're beginning to ask for trouble IMO I think it's ok if the woman is tall, I definitely prefer a tall woman, because it's just more of a natural fit.
CaliGuy Posted August 10, 2009 Posted August 10, 2009 Normally, 6' to 6'6" is my ideal range, but I'm 5'8" so it's justified. My current BF is 5'10", tops, but he's super-hot so I don't really care. So height is negotiable within reason. I couldn't possibly date anyone shorter than me. So I'm going to make a few statements on what I've learned about height. 1. Women absolutely "prefer" tall men (it's genetic). 2. By "Tall" they men compared to OTHER men, not compared to them. 3. You can be shorter than average (5'9") as a man and still have great success. You just have to have a great personality and confidence. It helps if you're good looking. 4. You can be taller than average and still not have any success if your confidence sucks or you have a crappy personality (or both). For guys, if you meet a woman who says "You're not tall enough" don't waste your time trying to convince them otherwise. Women like what they like and you aren't going to change them. Just be your happy, fun, confident self and you'll find the right woman. I'm not about to tell a woman what she should like and I don't want them telling me that I should date a woman I find unattractive. Ain't gonna happen
Stitch Posted August 10, 2009 Posted August 10, 2009 I like taller men, although at 5'1 most men are tall compared to me so I've always had lots of options. I wonder if its because I'm so small that genetically speaking I seek out larger men to protect me subconsciously? My boyfriend is about 5'9 and I just love the way he can scoop me up and wrap me in his arms. Also because I'm much smaller than him I can curl up in his lap for the most snuggly awesome cuddles. My ex was around 6 foot.
shadowplay Posted August 10, 2009 Posted August 10, 2009 If a guy has a cute face and sexy personality, 5'8"+. But my ideal is 6'2". I'm 5'6". There's no way I'd ever date a guy my height or shorter, personality and hotness be damned. I'd just feel like the guy in the relationship.
CaliGuy Posted August 10, 2009 Posted August 10, 2009 *sigh* That is all... TBF, don't let comments like that bother you. If you want a tall guy, GO FOR IT. I really don't see the point in people criticizing the "preferences" of other people. I don't tell you what you should like and why so don't tell me And I don't care if someone is shallow or not. I don't have to date them! Lol One's happiness should be in getting what they want out of life. Not what someone else thinks they should have. And I'll be damned if I care what anyone thinks about who I date (and I've dated them tall (6'2"), short (4'9"), black, white, you name it. It's all about what you like. Everyone else can get bent
shadowplay Posted August 10, 2009 Posted August 10, 2009 Ahhhhh the beauty of preferences....Totally ok by me. So why do women get upset when guys don't want to date fat chicks? We're talking ideals not requirements.
shadowplay Posted August 10, 2009 Posted August 10, 2009 Another question for the women. Where would you draw the line height-wise. Say a guy is your absolute ideal in every other respect. Would you still date him if he were your height or an inch shorter?
Trialbyfire Posted August 10, 2009 Posted August 10, 2009 TBF, don't let comments like that bother you. If you want a tall guy, GO FOR IT. I really don't see the point in people criticizing the "preferences" of other people. I don't tell you what you should like and why so don't tell me And I don't care if someone is shallow or not. I don't have to date them! Lol One's happiness should be in getting what they want out of life. Not what someone else thinks they should have. And I'll be damned if I care what anyone thinks about who I date (and I've dated them tall (6'2"), short (4'9"), black, white, you name it. It's all about what you like. Everyone else can get bent You know I don't criticize your preferences Caliguy. You're attracted to whom you're attracted to. I've also dated less than 6' but this thread is about ideal height v. required height. Wish people could see the difference. That my fiance fits into my ideal, is just one more thing about him, that's attractive. But...the attraction isn't just solely about his height or looks. His core values and strength of character are what makes him an awesome man. On the otherhand, he's very direct and would probably hurt a lot of feelings on LS. I prefer his style, in that he says it like it is, but with no malicious intent. I don't care if men want 32HHHHH breasts or a woman who's 5'8". I honestly don't care if I don't fit into their criteria of attractive or their ideal for a woman. It's really okay.
shadowplay Posted August 10, 2009 Posted August 10, 2009 On the otherhand, he's very direct and would probably hurt a lot of feelings on LS. I prefer his style, in that he says it like it is, but with no malicious intent. This has gotten me curious. What's an example of something direct he might say that would hurt others' feelings?
New Again Posted August 10, 2009 Posted August 10, 2009 Another question for the women. Where would you draw the line height-wise. Say a guy is your absolute ideal in every other respect. Would you still date him if he were your height or an inch shorter? Current bf is barely taller than me - we're almost eye to eye in bare feet. LOVE HIM Dated a guy who was shorter than me. He was crazy. Not necessarily cuz he was short. So I guess I'm just an equal opportunity dater. Attraction is very important. Looks not so much.
CaliGuy Posted August 10, 2009 Posted August 10, 2009 You know I don't criticize your preferences Caliguy. You're attracted to whom you're attracted to. I've also dated less than 6' but this thread is about ideal height v. required height. Wish people could see the difference. That my fiance fits into my ideal, is just one more thing about him, that's attractive. But...the attraction isn't just solely about his height or looks. His core values and strength of character are what makes him an awesome man. On the otherhand, he's very direct and would probably hurt a lot of feelings on LS. I prefer his style, in that he says it like it is, but with no malicious intent. I don't care if men want 32HHHHH breasts or a woman who's 5'8". I honestly don't care if I don't fit into their criteria of attractive or their ideal for a woman. It's really okay. Fiance now? Congrats
Birdy Posted August 10, 2009 Posted August 10, 2009 Another question for the women. Where would you draw the line height-wise. Say a guy is your absolute ideal in every other respect. Would you still date him if he were your height or an inch shorter? Probably not. I can find another equally ideal guy who isn't a midget.
gopher Posted August 10, 2009 Posted August 10, 2009 We're talking ideals not requirements. I beg to differ, you're talking preferences....maybe it's semantics, but still... If you're 5"1" and want a guy whose 6 feet, it's no different than a guy with a 40" waist who want to date a size 0... But, like I said....I support preferences....or ideals, whatever you want to call it.
Citizen Drawn Posted August 10, 2009 Posted August 10, 2009 I beg to differ, you're talking preferences....maybe it's semantics, but still... If you're 5"1" and want a guy whose 6 feet, it's no different than a guy with a 40" waist who want to date a size 0... But, like I said....I support preferences....or ideals, whatever you want to call it. I think a better comparison is the "primal" urge of older men to seek out younger women. Lets just hope these ideal height mean don't trade in for a younger model in a decade 1
Trialbyfire Posted August 10, 2009 Posted August 10, 2009 This has gotten me curious. What's an example of something direct he might say that would hurt others' feelings?Nope, not in this thread. Maybe another one at a different time. Fiance now? Congrats Yes, since Valentine's Day! Thanks. My apologies to the OP for thread jacking.
dreamergrl Posted August 10, 2009 Posted August 10, 2009 I wish I was shorter... I've had my eye on a few guys, but they are exactly my height, and for some reason that is such a turn off.
Chubbi Posted August 10, 2009 Posted August 10, 2009 I remember a tall 6'2 guy who used to pick me up and swing me around. I didn't like it at all- I think he did it just to piss me off and show off at the same time. But maybe when i'm attracted to a guy I would like it better. You posters have opened my eyes to a world of possibilities. Height wise though- definitely taller than me. 5'6++ I'm 5'3.
CaliGuy Posted August 10, 2009 Posted August 10, 2009 I wish I was shorter... I've had my eye on a few guys, but they are exactly my height, and for some reason that is such a turn off. I dated a girl who was 6'2" (without heels). Didn't seem to bother either of us and I'm only 5'10". Shorter men tend to be more insecure. Being tall helps men be more secure in who they are. I say "wear boots or something..." And even being only 5'10" I still walk, talk and act like I'm 6'10" tall. It's all in how you see YOURSELF, not how others perceive you. I could give a damn what others think about me. At the end of the day, my opinion of myself is all that matters.
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