Saudade Posted August 10, 2009 Posted August 10, 2009 I've been having a really great time, the first in 2 months I've met someone but it isn't a relationship just fun. So, I thought I might be in a place where it was safe to check my ex's facebook page - used to be set to private, couldn't see a thing and today I look and it's open for all to see. His life has been great the moment he left me, drinking, clubbing and to an insult to injury he met someone on our anniversary at the very same event he met me. Everything he is saying about her is what he said to me. Now, I'm not crying or anything like that, much stronger than I thought. I guess it hurts to think there was I for 2 months weeping and hoping he'd come back and all along he wasn't. It also made me think about how much he has clearly changed and is no longer the person I thought. I doubt I even cross his mind at all. Time to move on - he isn't coming back and to be honest I don't think I want him back. Life is just sad sometimes.
utterer of lies Posted August 10, 2009 Posted August 10, 2009 One thing I noticed unhappy people do is take up a lot of new activities and post pics and stuff about that on Facebook, to show how great their life is and how much fun they had. Must not be like this in that case, but don't take someone's FB too serious. It's often self-censored and used as self-marketing tool.
Taucher Posted August 10, 2009 Posted August 10, 2009 I think that utterer of lies is, er, uttering the truth here. So YOU have been sad, Saudade. Did YOU cover your FB page with updates about how sad and miserable you were? My guess is: NO! Although if you DID, you really shouldn't have. I am still hurting over my Ex, alot, But if she looks at my FB page, she will think I am having a great old time. She would think that because that is what I am implying on my page. Also, I am at least TRYING to enjoy myself, meet new people etc. Ignore Facebook. It sounds like you are doing really well. Keep going! Take care T
adamt Posted August 10, 2009 Posted August 10, 2009 facebook is starting to annoy me. Where ever you go people now take photos with their phones and put them on facebook. Everyone wants to out do everyone else and appear to have an exciting life. Then you have the facebook smiles everyone do. Makes me laugh. then there are the cryptic status updates where they want to people to ask what it means. Facebook is ideal for attention seekers. I have a friend who is pregnant and her status is just updates of mentioning she is pregnant. I blocked my ex and it made a difference.
Author Saudade Posted August 10, 2009 Author Posted August 10, 2009 Thank you all for taking the time to listen I curse Facebook and all the trouble it brings with it. I am just so glad I stuck to not looking at it for a few weeks, if I had seen that a month ago I don't think I could have coped. Time really does mend a few things. People move on fast these days don't they?
northstar1 Posted August 10, 2009 Posted August 10, 2009 facebook is starting to annoy me. Where ever you go people now take photos with their phones and put them on facebook. Everyone wants to out do everyone else and appear to have an exciting life. Then you have the facebook smiles everyone do. Makes me laugh. then there are the cryptic status updates where they want to people to ask what it means. Facebook is ideal for attention seekers. I have a friend who is pregnant and her status is just updates of mentioning she is pregnant. I blocked my ex and it made a difference. Ain't that the truth. What is the obsession with people taking self shots with their cameras with every single friend and then posting them?
adamt Posted August 10, 2009 Posted August 10, 2009 Ain't that the truth. What is the obsession with people taking self shots with their cameras with every single friend and then posting them? I guess so it makes people think you are really popular and have lots of friends. I always laugh at the amount of "friends" some people have. I've got some i would hardly speak to in years and probably not even go over to talk to them if a saw them in a bar. Need to clean facebook out. I wonder how many people have been caught out playing away by a picture going up on facebook and then being tagged.
northstar1 Posted August 10, 2009 Posted August 10, 2009 I guess so it makes people think you are really popular and have lots of friends. I always laugh at the amount of "friends" some people have. I've got some i would hardly speak to in years and probably not even go over to talk to them if a saw them in a bar. Need to clean facebook out. I wonder how many people have been caught out playing away by a picture going up on facebook and then being tagged. Yep, I know a few who have over 1000 friends, crazy. I know a few stories about guys who told their gf's they were going out with a buddy, or client, or some other lie, and then got tagged in photos at a bar or party and that pretty much ended the relationship.
BackonTrack2 Posted August 10, 2009 Posted August 10, 2009 FB is a weird tool. I setup my Ex's facebook account a little over 2 years ago, maybe even 3 years, I don't remember anymore.. Long time ago.. Anyways the point is, after the split, I blocked her for like 9 months and iI would secertly check her profile from a friends account (I know its sad but I was messed up in my head) eitherway, after about 9 months, I unblocked her and within 24 hours of the unblocked, she updates her profile and changes her relationship status to "In a relationship" I thought that was very odd...... EItherway... About 2 months passed and I think I checked her FB and something just pissed me off so I blocked my wall so she couldn't see my post(s).. So after about 4 months, I checked her profile again and I noticed that our mutual friend count was one lower than it use to be. After some checking it was a female friend whom I hitted on who defriended me :-(.. Anyway the next day, I check her page again and noticed that our friend count was the same and when I looked I seen it was back to the orginal count (she added someone from my friend list) weird I know....... Espically by this time I haven't been in contact in like I dunno 13 or 14 months.... Eitherway, I just defriend EVERYONE whom we were mutually friends with and like 24 hours later, I see a new friend on her profile... It was the dude she was cheating on me with.. It was his profile, his main pic is him and her and she's smiling... Appears she was happy.... Anyway once I seen the pic of them, I just was so exicted.. I was so happy like I said to myself "I knew she was a whore" then I just told myself NEVER to look at her page again and its been like 2 months and I'm never looking at it again, its sort of gave me closure because for a little over a year I would always wonder if she was safe and OK & now I know.... So like I was so happy (Yes I know this is sad but whatever, I remember her despite all the hurt/pain she has caused) So in the END, I am happy for FB cuz it gave me that last bit of non-hope I needed to write her off as a whore and carry on. I haven't seen or talked to that female in about 17 months now. Good Riddens I say!! Sad part is she got somebody and yet still chooses to communicate weather indirectly or directly, weather negative or postive to me (thats how I look at it) which leads me believe a) she can't be all that happy & b) she still thinks about me in one way shape or form & c) she check's my profile (whore) anyway, after this I just put all my FB settings to NORMAL, I honestly could careless who looks at it & well i'm just content to finally know that she was the whore I thought her to be...... For a long time I was in LIMBO land, No closure, no contact no nothing and after I seen that "new friend" and the pic, its like I somehow got the power back... I can't explain it but it did wonders for my mental health... Granted I still think about that whore from time to time, but whatever it was my first real relationship and its Ok that after 7 rebounds & 17 months apart I still remember her on daily basis. I feel as if I need more time.. Maybe another year before I forgot completely..... Atleast I hope I will forget because I really don't want to live the rest of my life with her on my mind.......
La de Longe Posted August 10, 2009 Posted August 10, 2009 I just blocked the guy I'm trying to get over's facebook yesterday and hopefully it stays blocked for a long time. Over the past few months I've blocked it and then felt a compulsive urge to check it so I would unblock it just to feed the addiction. It's ridiculous and I don't know why I do this to myself. I understand how just checking their page can destroy all that peace you thought you had within seconds. This guy has over 1000 friends and updates his status every other day, but +1 to everyone who says that the amount of facebook activity is not indicative at all of the person's happiness. The truth is you never really know what's going on inside someone. A fitting quote: Don't compare your reality to other people's social masks.
Danzig Posted August 10, 2009 Posted August 10, 2009 I de-friended my ex when i was drunk cause i didn't want to see her profile updates anymore, but i'm thinking maybe i should've just blocked her. Oh well at least i don't have to worry about caving in and unblocking her i guess
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