Bleed Internal Posted August 10, 2009 Posted August 10, 2009 I'm close to being completely over my ex-girlfriend. Life is pretty good. I'm already talking to a few other girls. I'm surrounded by great people that have given me incredible advice and support through this break-up (she cheated). I'm a very proud guy who would never take someone back that hurt and disrespected as much as she did. I've called her every derogatory name in the book and I know she wants me back and hates herself for ****ing things up. She's a useless, selfish person and I've kicked her to the curb, but despite all of that, I was in love with her and it's been hard to let her go. Sometimes I get weak and break NC. I usually regret it a little but just because I know that it's not good to do when I know I'll never forgive her. It gets better every time because whenever I do break NC I get over her more and more. I realize that nothing is there. That she completely shattered my perception of her and although a lingering good memory can trigger the desire to contact her, that I ultimately, DO NOT want her back, ever, at all. (sidebar: Although I have wondered if I'd ever be able to have casual, no strings attached sex with her in the future. I sincerely hate her but the sex was good and I know the option is there. Thoughts?) With this said, it feels great to realize this and it makes staying NC so much easier. The urge to contact her sets in for a minute, but I realize that the girl I knew doesn't exist anymore. It gets easier and easier to ignore her and move on with my life. There's no real purpose to this thread. I'm just starting to feel better and I wanted to share that with everyone. I wanted to show people that there is hope, no matter how heartbroken you are. I've been there. I was JUST there. And I'm not yet fully recovered, but I see the light at the end of the tunnel and life is getting better everyday. I know my future still holds weak, dark moments, but not many. The healing is truly underway. Thank you LS for helping me through everything.
Author Bleed Internal Posted August 10, 2009 Author Posted August 10, 2009 Hopefully this connected with someone.
Taucher Posted August 10, 2009 Posted August 10, 2009 Hello! This did connect with me. I am not so far down the line as you, I dont think, but I AM getting there. I have had a few moments recently when I have felt genuinely happy. Which was nice. NC definitely does work. And I am quite a competitive person, so the competition I am having with myself not to break NC is helping spur me on. I would say no to no strings sex though. Someone will leave that encounter with ALL the power. I dont know who. However, thats my advice, not necessarily what I would do, as I dont think I would turn my ex down. But I might. Glad to hear a happy thing here anyway! Good luck. T
Author Bleed Internal Posted August 10, 2009 Author Posted August 10, 2009 Hello! This did connect with me. I am not so far down the line as you, I dont think, but I AM getting there. I have had a few moments recently when I have felt genuinely happy. Which was nice. NC definitely does work. And I am quite a competitive person, so the competition I am having with myself not to break NC is helping spur me on. I would say no to no strings sex though. Someone will leave that encounter with ALL the power. I dont know who. However, thats my advice, not necessarily what I would do, as I dont think I would turn my ex down. But I might. Glad to hear a happy thing here anyway! Good luck. T I would definitely be the one leaving a casual sex situation with the power. I know the sex would be good, but I'd probably do it just to mess with her head. Realistically, I think I'm too proud to go down this path. I don't even want to give that whore the satisfaction of physical contact with me. I'll probably just continue to rebound and pursue new women.
Whiskey Posted August 11, 2009 Posted August 11, 2009 I am in no way suggesting you do this, but when you mentioned the possibility of casual no strings attached sex, it reminded me of a story my company Gunny told us when I was in the Marines. He had an Ex that cheated on him, broke his heart, blah blah. Same story heard ninety times on this forum. She came crawling back to him when the grass wasn't greener and he let her back in and had sex with her. Immediately after they were finished he got out of the bed, put on his clothes, picked up hers and threw them outside, called her a whore and told her to get the f*** out of his house. Again, I wouldn't suggest doing this because it might get you in trouble. Just thought I'd share it with you. I always think how lucky he was that she didn't go to the police and file a rape charge or something, but I'm sure it destroyed her inside.
Author Bleed Internal Posted August 12, 2009 Author Posted August 12, 2009 I am in no way suggesting you do this, but when you mentioned the possibility of casual no strings attached sex, it reminded me of a story my company Gunny told us when I was in the Marines. He had an Ex that cheated on him, broke his heart, blah blah. Same story heard ninety times on this forum. She came crawling back to him when the grass wasn't greener and he let her back in and had sex with her. Immediately after they were finished he got out of the bed, put on his clothes, picked up hers and threw them outside, called her a whore and told her to get the f*** out of his house. Again, I wouldn't suggest doing this because it might get you in trouble. Just thought I'd share it with you. I always think how lucky he was that she didn't go to the police and file a rape charge or something, but I'm sure it destroyed her inside. That is one of the most hilarious things I've ever heard! Wow! I would f**king LOVE to do that the my whore of an ex-girlfriend but I'm so over her that I don't even think I could bring myself to have sex with her ever again. Here's an update of my situation: http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t198204/
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