reefbarman Posted August 10, 2009 Posted August 10, 2009 Hi Guys, I recently went through a very painful breakup with my long term girlfriend, we were living in different states due to work for a couple of months, and when we moved back in together, after a couple of weeks she decided she enjoyed the single life she had for last couple of months and met some new people that gave her that "New Feeling", so she left to move back interstate and broke my heart worse then it ever has, I thought she was "The One". Its been 2 months, now and I'm still devastated, crying, depressed and not focusing at work. I'm slowly getting better realizing, we didn't have the best or healthiest relationship, and there were alot of problems and I can do better. And find someone that will stick around. But I can't let go! She said she wants to be friends, and always calls me to see how i'm going and tell me how she is going. She told me she has moved on and is dating again but has no feelings for me anymore, except caring about how I am and how i'm coping. She keeps telling me im the most beautiful person inside and out in the world, and tells me I will find someone just as beautiful one day and I would make any girl amazingly happy, but she wants to live her own life, single cause she has always been in relationships. She told me that what she has now, she is really enjoying and she is really happy for the "Immediate Future"! And she says she doesn't know what might happen 6-12 months down the track but for now says we are over. I normally break down during our phone calls, and any resolve I built before her call is immediately taken away and I feel bad again until I snap out of it. I'm really confused with everything and every time she calls I try to find some slither of hope we might get back together, and just some of the things she does make me think I might have a chance even though she told me I don't. I know the best thing would be to get over her and move on, but I also believe if i could get her back we would work. What should I do and what is she hoping to achieve by staying in contact with me?
adamt Posted August 10, 2009 Posted August 10, 2009 Sounds like she just wants to be friends. Sounds like you arnt ready for that. If you can't handle speaking to her withouth feeling hurt then you have to stop speaking to her and tell her to stop contacting you. Once you are over her then get back intouch with her if you still want to be friends. If someone kept punching you in the face, you would stop goign to them so mental pain should be no different.
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