zilverenvlinder Posted August 10, 2009 Posted August 10, 2009 It's starting to become a routine thing for me. Every guy I date, it seems in the beginning they will help me during, um, bed time, but then they all get lazy or something and stop caring about me and start just getting themselves off. And then once THAT is done, it's roll over and go to sleep time. WHY is this? PLEASE, gentlemen, tell me that you're considerate. Or if you're not, tell me whyyy. THANKS! <3 z
Green Posted August 10, 2009 Posted August 10, 2009 you should speak up. I was doing this to my gf but she said something so I'll fix that now. I did it because she always seemed in a hury to get the sex with like she had other things to do. she asked me why i didn't get her off after we were done the other day so I 'll now change the way I've been doing it. BAM
Bayern Posted August 10, 2009 Posted August 10, 2009 It's starting to become a routine thing for me. Every guy I date, it seems in the beginning they will help me during, um, bed time, but then they all get lazy or something and stop caring about me and start just getting themselves off. And then once THAT is done, it's roll over and go to sleep time. WHY is this? PLEASE, gentlemen, tell me that you're considerate. Or if you're not, tell me whyyy. THANKS! <3 z Like it was once talked about in Seinfeld. We turn into completely different men afterwards I wouldn't be of much use in this question...
Chrome Barracuda Posted August 10, 2009 Posted August 10, 2009 Do I make sure she's finished?!?!? WTF hell yeah!!!! That's the best part. well for me. lol. As long as we both get off happy...
Hkizzle Posted August 10, 2009 Posted August 10, 2009 It's starting to become a routine thing for me. Every guy I date, it seems in the beginning they will help me during, um, bed time, but then they all get lazy or something and stop caring about me and start just getting themselves off. And then once THAT is done, it's roll over and go to sleep time. WHY is this? PLEASE, gentlemen, tell me that you're considerate. Or if you're not, tell me whyyy. THANKS! <3 z Guess those guys are just lazy. I personally like seeing a girl's reaction when she's cumming, the squirming, etc. Find a guy that takes a long time to cum, and willing to please.
Green Posted August 10, 2009 Posted August 10, 2009 Do I make sure she's finished?!?!? WTF hell yeah!!!! That's the best part. well for me. lol. As long as we both get off happy... whiles its true that there is nothing better then having sex with a girl who is horny and getting off... some times its a pleasure when shes like just go ahead and do it lol Guess those guys are just lazy. I personally like seeing a girl's reaction when she's cumming, the squirming, etc. Find a guy that takes a long time to cum, and willing to please. yes thats the best but like I said I've fallen pray to what this guy has done to luckily my gf spoke up... but I blame her for ever falling into not getting her off because she seemed like sex was a chore to her so I made it about me... guess shes getting horny for it again yay!
Author zilverenvlinder Posted August 10, 2009 Author Posted August 10, 2009 Hahaha. Thanks for replenishing my faith in male-kind, fellas.
likestolaugh Posted August 10, 2009 Posted August 10, 2009 I always 100% of the time make sure she gets hers first. Of course, never at bed time, since she's always too tired then.
Chrome Barracuda Posted August 10, 2009 Posted August 10, 2009 LOL I've had one girl force me to stop because she was sore. and get this I never finished, I was like that's it??? lol.
Chrome Barracuda Posted August 10, 2009 Posted August 10, 2009 Nope. Sorry Damn, mayn u selfish... lmao.
dreamergrl Posted August 10, 2009 Posted August 10, 2009 Nope. Sorry Damn, mayn u selfish... lmao. At least he was honest and straight forward :lmao:
loveslife Posted August 10, 2009 Posted August 10, 2009 Actually, when I've been in relationships there have been times when I just wasn't in the mood for an orgasm. Tired, preoccupied, whatever. But the guy seemed to be insisting that he give me one so I'd fake it to just get on with the day/evening. It's not like I'm not enjoying the contact, I'm just not always in the mood or need to have to orgasm.
Chrome Barracuda Posted August 10, 2009 Posted August 10, 2009 Actually, when I've been in relationships there have been times when I just wasn't in the mood for an orgasm. Tired, preoccupied, whatever. But the guy seemed to be insisting that he give me one so I'd fake it to just get on with the day/evening. It's not like I'm not enjoying the contact, I'm just not always in the mood or need to have to orgasm. Wait a minute... you'd have sex but you wasnt in the mood??? So what was the whole point? that's messed up. lol. He's doing all that hard work for nothing!
Ruby Slippers Posted August 10, 2009 Posted August 10, 2009 It's starting to become a routine thing for me. Every guy I date, it seems in the beginning they will help me during, um, bed time, but then they all get lazy or something and stop caring about me and start just getting themselves off. And then once THAT is done, it's roll over and go to sleep time. Why would you ever allow this to happen? If any man showed no regard for my pleasure during sex, that would be the last time he ever had sex with me.
Devil Inside Posted August 10, 2009 Posted August 10, 2009 I often start with helping her out...it really gets me aroused...and I find that women are very appreciative...lol
xpaperxcutx Posted August 10, 2009 Posted August 10, 2009 Actually, when I've been in relationships there have been times when I just wasn't in the mood for an orgasm. Tired, preoccupied, whatever. But the guy seemed to be insisting that he give me one so I'd fake it to just get on with the day/evening. It's not like I'm not enjoying the contact, I'm just not always in the mood or need to have to orgasm. Is it really necessary to fake an orgasm? And how would one actually do it? I've seen When Harry Met Sally, and that scene at the diner always gets to me, but honestly, would every woman be able to pull off a fake orgasm? Wouldn't it seem too incredulous to believe a guy would cause a woman to actually scream like that?
AlektraClementine Posted August 10, 2009 Posted August 10, 2009 A- you don't have to scream to fake an orgasm. I've found that tensing my muscles in a pulsing fashion with a tad bit of acting works just fine. B- I don't fake it with my fiance. C- I had to have a talk with him about his "comfort level" with me hardly ever getting off. I have a very difficult time reaching orgasm during sex. He's worked to fix that. D- Question. Though all of you responders seem to indicate that her pleasure is first on your mind, do you ever offer up oral to your girl w/o any type of reciprocation required? Guys love getting "freebie" blowjobs. We like giving them. But I don't think in all the time together with my SO, that he's just done something for me only.
gopher Posted August 10, 2009 Posted August 10, 2009 Currently, I make sure my g/f finishes at least once if not twice, but due to some medication, I cannot finish. This makes her feel bad, even though I tell her it's not her fault.
JohnnyBlaze Posted August 10, 2009 Posted August 10, 2009 To answer the question, yes...with an exception. I dated one girl who sometimes liked to just be taken and used like a sex toy, without any consideration for her whatsoever. She wasn't normally the submissive type, but every once in a while, she just got that urge. Other than that one caveat, I always like to make sure the girl I'm with has an orgasm. Sex is much more fun when you know your partner's enjoying it, too. D- Question. Though all of you responders seem to indicate that her pleasure is first on your mind, do you ever offer up oral to your girl w/o any type of reciprocation required? Guys love getting "freebie" blowjobs. We like giving them. But I don't think in all the time together with my SO, that he's just done something for me only. Yep; I love doing that! Much like when a girl gives me a "freebie" blowjob, it's more often than not a precurser to sex later that night. It may not be intended as such, but the girls I've dated so far have all been multi-orgasmic, so even if they do have an orgasm, it still gets them all hot for later on. But yes, I've given a few freebies in my day. It's a little more difficult in the car, though - certainly doable, but just more difficult.
loveslife Posted August 10, 2009 Posted August 10, 2009 It's not hard to fake an orgasm. It's more about shuddering and body movements than screaming. I used to do it all the time when I was younger, before I had orgasms. Now I'll only do it rarely. It's not that I'm not enjoying the sex. It can be very pleasant without having an orgasm. But sometimes an orgasm isn't, er, coming, and I wanna go to sleep or something.
BentSpine Posted August 10, 2009 Posted August 10, 2009 Yes, I make sure my woman is finished everytime. But that doesn't necessarily make me a better catch than any other guy. Yes, I'm a decent lover but at the same time I lack some other qualities that some women value highly. Compatibility is finding someone who values what you offer and aren't that bothered with one's particular insufficiencies.
bberryguy Posted August 11, 2009 Posted August 11, 2009 I always, ALWAYS make sure to get the girl I'm dating off. Eveb if we're not having sex and just making out. Really, half the fun of physical activity for me is watching her writhe in pleasure. I'm addicted to it. I don't think I could ever focus soley on myself without knowing she enjoyed herself too.
Palmer253 Posted August 11, 2009 Posted August 11, 2009 It depends on how hard it is to get the girl off. I'm sorry but if it takes her 30 minutes minimum then no I will not make sure she gets off EVERY single time.
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