Woggle Posted August 9, 2009 Posted August 9, 2009 I have a friend who is a player and unapologetic about it. This is what he said. There are two types of men in this world and they are men who cry over women and men who make women cry over them. What are people's thoughts on this?
boogieboy Posted August 9, 2009 Posted August 9, 2009 That man cried over a woman in the beginning and vowed to never let it happen again. It gets lonely where he is.
New Again Posted August 9, 2009 Posted August 9, 2009 He sounds bitter. And kinda like an arrogant douche.
johan Posted August 9, 2009 Posted August 9, 2009 I have a friend who is a player and unapologetic about it. This is what he said. There are two types of men in this world and they are men who cry over women and men who make women cry over them. What are people's thoughts on this? Every guy is one or the other at times. Maybe even within the same relationship. If I was happily married to a great woman, all this stuff would be the furthest thing from my mind.
Thaddeus Posted August 9, 2009 Posted August 9, 2009 BB and NA nailed it.That man cried over a woman in the beginning and vowed to never let it happen again. It gets lonely where he is.He sounds bitter.
Ruby Slippers Posted August 9, 2009 Posted August 9, 2009 There is some truth to it -- kind of the same idea that most people lean toward being more dominant (control others, make them cry) or submissive (like to be controlled, cry). I was just thinking yesterday about how the two boyfriends I've had who were champs in bed were definitely NOT good marriage/long-term material. They were dominant and highly skilled in bed, and totally rocked my world in that arena, but they lacked empathy, could not sustain a healthy emotional connection, struggled with commitment, had terrible roving eyes -- all the stuff women don't like about men. The two marriage material guys I had relationships with were sweet, loving, generous, emotionally in tune, intelligent, and committed, but they had some sexual hangups, their drive was lower, and I rocked their world in bed much more than they rocked mine. So, I think there is some truth to the fact that some men are great for sex and some are great for marriage and family, and there's only some percentage of men that can do both well. It's probably also true for women. I think I'm good in both sex and love, and I'm hoping I can find a man who is good at both, too.
IcemanJB Posted August 9, 2009 Posted August 9, 2009 Every guy is one or the other at times. Maybe even within the same relationship. This is true.
You'reasian Posted August 10, 2009 Posted August 10, 2009 I have a friend who is a player and unapologetic about it. This is what he said. There are two types of men in this world and they are men who cry over women and men who make women cry over them. What are people's thoughts on this? I'd add there are men and women who mutually cry over each other. When the two of you are crazy in love, then find yourself in a rough patch
quankanne Posted August 10, 2009 Posted August 10, 2009 There are two types of men in this world and they are men who cry over women and men who make women cry over them. I think his observation goes quite well with the one that says there will always be one person in a relationship who is going to love/care for their partner more than the partner does for them. Not because the other person is bad, just that they see the relationship differently.
Author Woggle Posted August 10, 2009 Author Posted August 10, 2009 I really don't want to agree with him but the more I look at modern male/female relationships it sadly is true in most cases. It seems that either you are playing her or she is playing you.
Devil Inside Posted August 10, 2009 Posted August 10, 2009 I think that this sounds like the difference between letting yourself be vulnerable or not. I would hope there would be more than just two types of guys. I've been both of the guys described above.
xpaperxcutx Posted August 10, 2009 Posted August 10, 2009 I really don't want to agree with him but the more I look at modern male/female relationships it sadly is true in most cases. It seems that either you are playing her or she is playing you. This sentence just summarizes everything.
D-Lish Posted August 10, 2009 Posted August 10, 2009 I really don't want to agree with him but the more I look at modern male/female relationships it sadly is true in most cases. It seems that either you are playing her or she is playing you. What about the relationship you are in now? Are you the one that makes her cry?
Author Woggle Posted August 10, 2009 Author Posted August 10, 2009 What about the relationship you are in now? Are you the one that makes her cry? I honest to god don't know what to make of my marriage. Sometimes I can't wrap my mind around the concept of a woman loving a man just because she loves him but maybe I did win the love lottery.
collegekid491 Posted August 10, 2009 Posted August 10, 2009 Obvious front. I used to be the same way, talk is cheap. I still put up a tough guy front sometimes, alot of times to hide vulnerabilities, doesn't mean that I'm not falling apart inside. Fact of the matter is for alot of us growing up if we had a problem our dad gave us a smack and said 'be a man', not so much bitterness as attempting to behave in what is believed as 'acceptable' or expected of us.
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