How do we arrange it

[squify]

Me and my gf have both talked and agreed we want to try a threesome.

Both with another man and another woman. (different times)

We are looking for advice on how to actually go through with it.

Who do we do it with?

How do we approach the subject with the chosen person?

Is there any websites or forums were we can find people to participate?

[Thaddeus]

Let HER do the choosing for the FFM. I'm sure she has a cluster of friends that might find it interesting.

 

If you're bi, you may want to do the choosing for the MMF. If not, both you and she should choose the other man.

 

As one who's been down this road a couple of times (both MMF and FFM), I humbly offer this little bit of advice:

 

• Get to know each other first. Have a couple of glasses of wine and a nice meal. Preferably more than one date. Communicate with each other, what you like, don't like, what you're willing to do and won't do.
  
• Each person involved gets veto power, which needs to be discussed beforehand. That is, at any time during the proceedings, anyone who's uncomfortable can call a halt to the whole thing and that's the end of it. Now, it's not likely that anyone will actually exercise the veto, but just having that option removes a considerable amount of stress and even performance anxiety.
  
• Don't do it in the total dark or someone's gonna end up with a black eye with all those elbows and knees flying around. Trust me on this, ok? (rubs eye with ice)
  
• Condoms all the way around. You already know that, but I couldn't leave it out of this list.
  
• When the deed(s) is/are done, don't up and take off right away. Have another glass of wine. Shoot the general breeze. Someone is left alone at the end of the night, so do your best to make them feel comfortable.
  
• You will probably be disappointed. Expect that. Threesomes are a great fantasy but the reality is usually somewhat different. Don't let that put you off - it's something everyone should do at least once - but don't expect it to be over-the-moon crazy.
  
• Have fun! Laugh! Enjoy! And leave ALL your inhibitions at the door.
  

Good luck.

[squify]

Thanks for the tips will take them on board.

How do i approach someone to ask, "you dude fancy a doin our lass with us" im sure this wont go down to well no matter matter how much i deepen my voice or puff out my chest.

and im not up to date with the law but sure plying some one with booze is still classed as rape

[Thaddeus]

First of all, nowhere in my post does it suggest about 'plying some one with booze.' That's just plain wrong. A glass or two of wine (or your libation of choice) is just a social lubricant. Nobody's out to make someone do something that they might not other wise do.

 

In all the situations that I've been in, nobody were strangers. We all knew each other beforehand. I'd be very leery to invite a stranger into my bed with my partner, even if that stranger is a hot chick. Too much room for post-coital drama.

 

You and your lady MUST have friends, don't you?

[squify]

wrong vibes bout the booze, just light hearted (bad) joke.

does it get awkward afterward, or is it just what you make of it

[Thaddeus]

OK, no problem. I thought you figured I was suggesting something else. No harm, no foul, it's all good.

 

It has the potential to be awkward afterwards, which is why I suggest to take some time after the festivities and hang around for a bit. Maybe even go out to dinner or something.

[squify]

haha conversation "you dude i saw you penis, hows the wine"

thanks for the help will take it all on board

[zilverenvlinder]

I had a 3some planned out with my ex boyfriend. It was really going to happen. Then I found out he cheated on me.

 

Now he is alone, with NO women and definitely no threesome.

 

Just putting it out there.