Birdy Posted August 9, 2009 Posted August 9, 2009 I'm just musing about A's guitarist who cannot pick up a chick to save his life. The last girl who was even remotely interested in him was fat/unattractive and it was over a year ago. I don't get it. He has the prettiest face ever (next to my BF who is the most stunning man alive ) with beautiful long wavy golden-blond hair and blue eyes, he's slim, smart, extremely talented and super-nice, has a successful musical career so far, and a nice house and car... I'd date the crap out of him if I hadn't met A first He has plenty of friends, so it's not like he lacks access to people/women... Why don't chicks like him?? I think he's shy or says the wrong thing sometimes or SOMETHING. What a waste.
Adri Ana Posted August 9, 2009 Posted August 9, 2009 Tell him to change 1-his clothes, 2-to cut hair 3-to be more humorous , to learn flirting:bunny:
Author Birdy Posted August 9, 2009 Author Posted August 9, 2009 Tell him to change 1-his clothes, 2-to cut hair 3-to be more humorous , to learn flirting:bunny: His clothes and hair are fine. They are appropriate to the people he tends to hang out with and would want to attract. (Metal music scene... pardon the use of the word "scene" but let's call a spade a spade.) His hair is gorgeous. The WORST thing he could do would be to cut it.
MSUE Posted August 9, 2009 Posted August 9, 2009 Maybe what you consider beautiful most women don't...or maybe is his clothing style or his behaviour around strangers?
Author Birdy Posted August 9, 2009 Author Posted August 9, 2009 http://img39.imageshack.us/img39/1309/fletcherl.jpg See?
Thaddeus Posted August 9, 2009 Posted August 9, 2009 Could be damn near anything. My suspicion would be, based on the little information provided, is that he may have a tendency to 'blurt' things out before thinking, start babbling on about his 'feeeeeeeelings', become a little clingy and place these women on a pedestal. In short, he's not portraying himself as a leader. Then again, maybe he comes off as a condescending jerk. Impossible to tell given that I haven't seen him interact with women.
Adri Ana Posted August 9, 2009 Posted August 9, 2009 Maybe what you consider beautiful most women don't...or maybe is his clothing style or his behaviour around strangers? I agree here with closing style and behavior and I personally never felt attracted to those with long hair Would never even think to ... as simply my subconscious mind did not find them matching at all as men,as boyfriends,as a couple... Thats why I suggested him to cut his hair . Even now I get those who has long hair as a ...girlfriend more ,than a friend-a boy. I dunno . I blame long hair . Best of luck anyway . Yes,surely I understand how hard it is to cut the gorgeous long hair . But he loses mannish looks with it . I just suggested according to my perceiption .
Author Birdy Posted August 9, 2009 Author Posted August 9, 2009 Look, he's the one on the far right: http://www.metal-archives.com/images/3/5/4/0/3540275054_photo.jpg Could be damn near anything. My suspicion would be, based on the little information provided, is that he may have a tendency to 'blurt' things out before thinking, start babbling on about his 'feeeeeeeelings', become a little clingy and place these women on a pedestal. In short, he's not portraying himself as a leader. Then again, maybe he comes off as a condescending jerk. I'm guessing it's the first one. He DEFINITELY does NOT come off as a condescending jerk. But he does lack a certain alpha-ness. But still! Given his other qualities, you'd think women would be throwing themselves at him, especially the more dominating sorts...
Author Birdy Posted August 9, 2009 Author Posted August 9, 2009 I agree here with closing style and behavior and I personally never felt attracted to those with long hair Would never even think to ... as simply my subconscious mind did not find them matching at all as men,as boyfriends,as a couple... Thats why I suggested him to cut his hair . Even now I get those who has long hair as a ...girlfriend more ,than a friend-a boy. I dunno . I blame long hair . Best of luck anyway . Yes,surely I understand how hard it is to cut the gorgeous long hair . But he loses mannish looks with it . I just suggested according to my perceiption . Everyone else in the band dresses the same way, has long hair, and they ALL have hot girlfriends and pick up women easily.
sexibanez Posted August 9, 2009 Posted August 9, 2009 first off, metal rules \m/ i'm no expert but even i can see he looks like a boy! Tell him to grow a full on proper beard, and I reckon encourage him to take charge in telling stories, leading conversation whenever you're all socialising.
Author Birdy Posted August 9, 2009 Author Posted August 9, 2009 first off, metal rules \m/ i'm no expert but even i can see he looks like a boy! Tell him to grow a full on proper beard, and I reckon encourage him to take charge in telling stories, leading conversation whenever you're all socialising. He does look like a boy. Even now that he's grown a long-a*s goatee. He's 28 and looks like he's 18. Poor thing.
Hkizzle Posted August 10, 2009 Posted August 10, 2009 Why do women even ask why a pretty boy can't attract women, when women know that personality matters the most to them? If this guy isn't a go getter, and confident, then he can be physically attractive and won't attract that many girls.
Citizen Erased Posted August 10, 2009 Posted August 10, 2009 If he shaved and cut his hair, he'd be pretty hot.
MSUE Posted August 10, 2009 Posted August 10, 2009 personally I don't find he attractive at all...grunge is so 1990's that might be part of the problem there plus he looks a bit short which never helps
Chicago_Guy Posted August 10, 2009 Posted August 10, 2009 http://img39.imageshack.us/img39/1309/fletcherl.jpg See? He looks like a total grease-ball to me. He might also consider shaving that little pointy beard he is sporting in the other photo you linked.
Citizen Drawn Posted August 10, 2009 Posted August 10, 2009 Next time you're at a gig go up to a few women and sound them out as to whether they like the look on him. That should get your friend laid.
dreamergrl Posted August 10, 2009 Posted August 10, 2009 I don't find him attractive.... And there's plenty of guys in bands that I find attractive. I can't stand long hair on guys, and scrappy beards.
D-Lish Posted August 10, 2009 Posted August 10, 2009 These guys are pretty outdated! Baths, haircuts, stylists...
Trialbyfire Posted August 10, 2009 Posted August 10, 2009 Birdy, no offense to your friend but even without the hair, beard and better clothing, he's not exactly beautiful. If anything, he looks kind of young, soft and not terribly masculine but not feminine or pretty, either.
collegekid491 Posted August 10, 2009 Posted August 10, 2009 As much as I don't like his style, some girls may like that... I mean, people bought the pontiac aztec, anything is possible Problem more then likely is with clashing style and personality. The thing about his look... it's bold, if he's not bold hes a poser. Also have to say that it depends what kinda girls you are expecting him to get, I mean, you still have leagues. You won't have the cheerleader dating the nerd who wears nose plugs and goggles into the pool. I know there are alot of flames in here, but honestly, if he set himself apart from his band members with a different style it would make it 10x easier, like wearing a shirt that is the proper size, doing something with his hair like cutting or... just something, and taming the facial hair, would increase those chances biblically
Author Birdy Posted August 10, 2009 Author Posted August 10, 2009 ewwwwwwwwwwwwww!!! I'd be surprised to know if any of them got laid... Maybe a bath would help? LOL Good thing none of them are even remotely interested in chicks like you
Author Birdy Posted August 10, 2009 Author Posted August 10, 2009 As much as I don't like his style, some girls may like that... I mean, people bought the pontiac aztec, anything is possible Problem more then likely is with clashing style and personality. The thing about his look... it's bold, if he's not bold hes a poser. Also have to say that it depends what kinda girls you are expecting him to get, I mean, you still have leagues. You won't have the cheerleader dating the nerd who wears nose plugs and goggles into the pool. Dude, he's not looking to date these paralegal nerds that post on Loveshack. We just need a nice metal chick to set him up with. And n*gga please, my friend is not a "poser", lol Everyone here seems to be trying to give me advice on how to turn him into the type of guy THEY would date, when what I'm actually asking is how to help him pick up chicks on HIS radar. There are plenty of women like us, I assure you! Just this Saturday his housewarming party was PACKED with women from our social circle, and no one took the bait.
Author Birdy Posted August 10, 2009 Author Posted August 10, 2009 ewwwwwwwwwwwwww!!! I'd be surprised to know if any of them got laid... Maybe a bath would help? Oh, and don't you dare knock my A... he always smells of Dark Temptation Axe spray. That man has never had less than pristine hygiene in his life.
espec10001 Posted August 10, 2009 Posted August 10, 2009 What the f*** are you people smoking? If he is true to himself, then that is all that matters. So what he looks different, that's his style. If I were him I'd keep on keeping on and f*** what people think, especially girls who have no place telling a man how he should do anything especially dress!
MSUE Posted August 10, 2009 Posted August 10, 2009 Everyone here seems to be trying to give me advice on how to turn him into the type of guy THEY would date, when what I'm actually asking is how to help him pick up chicks on HIS radar. There are plenty of women like us, I assure you! Just this Saturday his housewarming party was PACKED with women from our social circle, and no one took the bait. Birdy then why are you asking us? I haven't red single post about anyone being into his style...I think you need to ask his bandmates what they do to get girls hon...I agree w everyone else here...don't find him attractive and I'd have to give a clean cut makeover to even think about it...I think you need to ask people in your scene instead of us
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