ConfusedAtHome Posted August 9, 2009 Posted August 9, 2009 I began dating this woman in January and we had a very intense connection and began falling in love very quickly. At the time, I was living with my ex because we owned our home together and we didn't have a solution to our living situation at the time following our break-up. I pulled away from the new woman I was falling for because I started to freak out that I could be falling for someone so quickly and my ex was making my life miserable at home. I told the new woman I needed to step back. She wasn't happy. A few days later, I came to my senses and we discussed everything and agreed that when I got back from a trip I was taking the next day we would work on reconciling. I go on my trip, get clarity, realize I love this woman and am ready to be with her and come back and she is dating someone new (this is in a period of 5 days). So, now it's been six months and I cannot shake my feelings I have for this woman. We have very limited communication and I have made my feelings clear to her. From what I know, she is still in that relationship, but has made comments to mutual friends that she cares for me, but she doesn't know how exactly she feels b/c I hurt her. It's almost as if she would be willing to give me another chance if the current gf wasn't in the picture and she wasn't so hurt by me. Why can't I get over her? I've tried dating others, etc, but everything inside me comes back to her. I cannot seem to move on and just wanted to see if you guys have any advice.
boogieboy Posted August 9, 2009 Posted August 9, 2009 You cant let go because you dont WANT to. Think about it.
Author ConfusedAtHome Posted August 10, 2009 Author Posted August 10, 2009 Boogieboy, you are right...I don't WANT to let go, but it seems now that I must because she doesn't reciprocate my feelings. We dated for 3 months. It has been harder getting over her than my gf of 4 years.
steelfist9 Posted August 10, 2009 Posted August 10, 2009 Part of it is because you guys talked about working things out and things seemed fine and then nexdt thing she ditched you. This is exactly what my ex did to me. It's harder to let go than an expected breakup. And I know because my ex and I were pros in breakup and getting back together. I never felt the way I feel now during any of our other breakups. The only difference is that this last one was unexpected and with another man. Another reason you are having problems letting go.. You probably haven't gotten over it because you yern for that love she gave you. You feel empty in your life and she filled your emptiness. What you need to do is find happiness alone. No one can take that from you. You are not thinking rationally in this situation because you are too emotional due to the void of personal fufillment, hapiness in your life. Think about it, she moved on, does not want to be with you or seems like she doesn't want to be with you
Author ConfusedAtHome Posted August 10, 2009 Author Posted August 10, 2009 Funny thing is I have been alone and am very happy...everything is right in my life and I have found happiness and contentment! I'm not unhappy without her, I just wish I could be with her....
boogieboy Posted August 11, 2009 Posted August 11, 2009 Youre still in touch with her? THATS why you cant let go. You must break that string, otherwise you wont ever want to really let go. You screwed up with her and you know it. Leave her alone, let her come back to you in time, maybe she will, but dont expect her to. Assume you will never hear from her again. Cut her off so you can move on for yourself.
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