worrier Posted August 9, 2009 Posted August 9, 2009 Hey everyone!... I think I am just worrying too much due to the fact that in the past I have been hurt badly and I cant let it happen to me again. I met the most gorgeous guy two months ago. Straight away we both laid eyes on each other and suddenly I felt a connection with him. Two months on I have been away with him and had the best holiday ever and seen him another two times after that which were both amazing. We both admit that there is a connection there and we both love each other. I know he does because hes told me a million times and because of the little things he does...in fact noone has ever treated me in such a way before...even things we talk about. The only bad thing is that he works away. He is a long distance driver and travels around the world...he works everyday. He was married for 21 years and divorced 5 years ago. Since then he has had relationships but nothing serious as far as I know...he said its difficult because he is never in one place...he constantly travels. He also said that the connection we have together is something that doesnt happen everyday, not even every year or every five years... Last week I decided to get myself tested for STD's as he brought up the conversation of us not using protection. He says he gets tested regulary and has never had anything in his life before. He always uses condoms and hasnt only with me and his ex wife. I have had sex with a few people in the past without using protection so I went for the test as I wanted our relationship to get off to a good start if you know what I mean. Two days later the clinic rang and said I had Chlamidya! I rang him straight away and he was OK with it, yes it wasnt a pleasant suprise but he said OK we will get through this, i'll have to find a doctor (as he wasnt in his home country). That evening he them texted me back saying dont worry i'll sort it, lets be happy it wasnt anything worse. The text felt a bit cold to me though...I think I was just worrying too much though? I didnt hear from him the next day and the day after that I text him saying 'I'm really sorry, please dont think bad of me...' Later that night he texted back saying 'Dont worry it changes nothing, I still love you, my feeling for you do not change, I do not judge you on this....' That was 2 days ago...I have heard nothing since. Please tell me I havent ruined things? I'm sure everything is OK but I think I just need a text or call off him to reassure me. I usually hear from him everydAY OR every two days at least by text or phone. He did get a very expensive phone bill though last month and said he wouldnt be able to phone me as much. I miss him so much though and I dont want to let him go...I havent been this happy in a long time. Also, is anyone on here in a long distance relationship...do they work? Any tips, etc? Also how much texting/phoning is too much? What are your views? Thanks! xxxxxxx A worried girl!
TMichaels Posted August 10, 2009 Posted August 10, 2009 I think you're worrying about the wrong things. Did it ever occur to you that you weren't the source of the Chlamydia infection? Sorry to be so cynical, but I find it just a bit odd that this guy brings up the whole subject of protection and STDs, you dutifully trot off and get tested, and voila! YOU have Chlamydia?! Too bad you didn't suggest he get tested and hear the results of HIS test, first! I dunno. I think you have a lot more to worry about than the cost of phone calls, text messages and whether LDRs work or not. This guy has *ample* opportunity to be sexually active as he hops-skips-and- jumps around the globe -- and you have no way of verifying whether any of what he says is true. I'd be very cautious if I were you. All the best, TMichaels
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