DSM2709 Posted August 8, 2009 Posted August 8, 2009 [i have heard and spoken to a lot of women about this and many women will admit that any guy that doesn't challenge them or comes off as weak they will walk on and take advantage of at any given opportunity. If they can then they lose respect for the guy along with attraction and its pretty much a permanent sunken ship.] A member wrote this (above) in another forum, and this was me all the way in my recent relationship, and now I am suffering for it, because we are broken up. My ex, took advantage of my weaknessess as a man in the relationship, and I believe she cheated on me. She wanted someone who lead, and not followed, someone who stood for what they believed in and I gave in too much, and was considered a "momma's boy" in the relationship. I was not the rock, she was. She saw how I was and I did not challenge her at all, and so she decided to walk all over me, and I guess I deserve it. I ama good guy, I guess too nice if you will, and I got taken for it. Now, that I am aware of my faults, how do I change for the next date or relationship? I want to be the man and lead the way, and be the rock, but how? I don't have alot of experience with woman, which is sad, but it is what it is. How do I change my ways? Thank you for any and all advise.
hoping2heal Posted August 8, 2009 Posted August 8, 2009 [i have heard and spoken to a lot of women about this and many women will admit that any guy that doesn't challenge them or comes off as weak they will walk on and take advantage of at any given opportunity. If they can then they lose respect for the guy along with attraction and its pretty much a permanent sunken ship.] A member wrote this (above) in another forum, and this was me all the way in my recent relationship, and now I am suffering for it, because we are broken up. My ex, took advantage of my weaknessess as a man in the relationship, and I believe she cheated on me. She wanted someone who lead, and not followed, someone who stood for what they believed in and I gave in too much, and was considered a "momma's boy" in the relationship. I was not the rock, she was. She saw how I was and I did not challenge her at all, and so she decided to walk all over me, and I guess I deserve it. I ama good guy, I guess too nice if you will, and I got taken for it. Now, that I am aware of my faults, how do I change for the next date or relationship? I want to be the man and lead the way, and be the rock, but how? I don't have alot of experience with woman, which is sad, but it is what it is. How do I change my ways? Thank you for any and all advise. I think this needs to be cleared up. Now, it is dependant on the woman of course but, women naturally like to feel like their man is more powerful than them. There has to be a sense of "we look up to you". Is what that means. Being a good man, is not a problem. It's not something you fix. It's a great quality to be loving and good. My partner is VERY good hearted, compassionate, loving. He's just all around wonderful, he also can hold his own and I look up to him very much. He's very strong, he's good in the kind of way I only hope to be someday. We don't want a doormat man, we don't want a weak man, but being compassionate and good hearted are not weaknesses, but the women who think they are? THEY are the one's who need to change something, NOT you. What COULD you change in your next relationship though? The minute you see a woman cheating; don't make excuses for that. That is not being good hearted or compassionate. Don't let someone treat you badly and put you down. That too, is not being a good guy, having a good heart. That is a lack of esteem and an inability to be assertive. TOTALLY different ballgame from being emotional, good hearted, wearing the heart on the sleeve.
Author DSM2709 Posted August 8, 2009 Author Posted August 8, 2009 Thanks, I feel she cheated because of my weaknessess and she took advantage of that. Had I been the rock, and assertive, and strong willed like she is, none of this would have happenend. She has told me on several occassions what she was looking for in a man, and I for some reason never "got it", now I feel it's too late to do anything about it.
Hkizzle Posted August 9, 2009 Posted August 9, 2009 Imagine a sexy caveman that doesn't take any crap, but still has manners and social skills....... That's what women want in a rough sense.
EddieN Posted August 9, 2009 Posted August 9, 2009 Imagine a sexy caveman that doesn't take any crap, but still has manners and social skills....... Like the Geico caveman?
confusedcookie Posted August 9, 2009 Posted August 9, 2009 Imagine a sexy caveman that doesn't take any crap, but still has manners and social skills....... That's what women want in a rough sense. thats exactly what i want!!! lol
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