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Dated for 3 years, but never had sex. Will I regret this for the rest of my life?

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We were our first bf/gfs, College sweethearts. 3 years, and we never had sex because she had a psychological problem with it. We tried treatment, but nothing worked.

 

Now we broke up because of a fight, and right before going long distance ., and im fine. But I feel as though I going to regret never having sex with someone I loved so much.

 

Is it that big of a deal? The regret? That she'll prob give it up to the next guy she meets? Does it get easier with time?

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we were supposed to be our firsts. I just feel heartbroken about the whole thing.

Would it have been easier to break up had we had sex? (or would it have made it unbearable?)

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If she didn't have sex for you for three years and you managed to stay with her through that I give you all the respect in the world. I'll be honest...i cannot have a relationship where there is no intimacy because then it is not a relationship to me but just a friendship.

 

Sex is meant to bring two people together in that "special" way and if I cannot connect with someone through sex as well as everything else then i walk and that really is it.

 

Your better off in my opinion to have moved on because you would only become frustrated eventually by the whole thing.

 

If she has that much problems with sex then there is no telling what else lies beneath the surface and you could be opening pandora's box if you continued on with it.

 

Regards,

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Dude I once dated this girl and right before I went long distance we startded having sex. My advice to you is stay broken up with this girl but suggest you visit just as a friend and then get things hot and heavy on your visit and have sex with her... and yes some other guy will get to have sex with this girl unless you get back togather with her and marry her. In the long run I blame you for having a 3 year relationship with no sex because for me also like the other poster Sex is an important part of the relationship and I'm honest about that with the people I date. So my advice is yes move on and date some one else and live with the fact that unless you for some reason start dating her again some one else probably will... but I would probably do the visit her and have sex with her thing... I bet her psychological problem will allow it since you guys are no longer dating or something...

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WoW, three years....hmmm

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WoW, three years....hmmm

 

It is wow but the way sex is defined I find myself wondering... when he says no sex ... does he mean no naked making out and cudling... no hand jobs ... naked boob grabs... and bj's.... did they do anal....maybe titti f'ing... SO OP did u do anything

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It is wow but the way sex is defined I find myself wondering... when he says no sex ... does he mean no naked making out and cudling... no hand jobs ... naked boob grabs... and bj's.... did they do anal....maybe titti f'ing... SO OP did u do anything

 

TMI..lol

 

 

Anyways, I think it's a good thing you didn't have sex. If she had that much of a psychological issue with it (as opposed to waiting for marriage etc.) then I wouldn't want to go there with her anyway. Having sex would have just brought ya'll even closer and made it harder for you to get over her. Besides that, if you just want to get laid, there are a ton of easy fish in the sea :laugh:. Take care.

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thanks guys.

And yeah we had tons or oral.

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thanks guys.

And yeah we had tons or oral.

 

well then don't feel to bad. Look shes your most serious gf... you'd feel this way about the thought of another guy being with her even if you had done sex stuff with her. If it makes u feel better alot of girls don't give oral, and oral is great... Good luck man you're going to be fine

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We were our first bf/gfs, College sweethearts. 3 years, and we never had sex because she had a psychological problem with it. We tried treatment, but nothing worked.

 

Now we broke up because of a fight, and right before going long distance ., and im fine. But I feel as though I going to regret never having sex with someone I loved so much.

 

Is it that big of a deal? The regret? That she'll prob give it up to the next guy she meets? Does it get easier with time?

 

 

Don't worry about her.. you'll be fine.. move on now.. you'll find another girl.. and this one will be part of your past.. and you might not regret not having sex with her.. since sex, for you, means 'penetration' only.. ;)

 

You had oral.. so you had sex.. better than a slap across the face... :p

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