UT_longhorn Posted August 8, 2009 Posted August 8, 2009 background..i met this girl she's 21..im 31. big age gap. we have been out on 2 dates so far. She seems very mature for her age. first date was awesome..alot of talking and laughing. end of date she texts me and says she has great time and she hopes to see me again soon. second date..she took me on a picnic...we talked for a few hours...end of the night she asks to walk me to my apt..but i say ill walk you to your car. we kiss for a while and she tells me she had a good time. leave it at that. i felt the date was good..but not as good as first. so i call her this past Thurs to try to set up something for this weekend. she said she was very busy all weekend and said that we could possibly do lunch Sunday. She said lets firm up over text and that she would txt me later. It's Sat afternoon..no txts from her. Should I assume she's no longer interested and move on? Or should I shoot her a txt asking to confirm for tomorrow? One last note is that she is going back to school in about 4 days (3 hr drive), so I dunno what is going on in her mind. Maybe its a fling for her.
Green Posted August 8, 2009 Posted August 8, 2009 At 21 in my humble a opinion a girl still has a chance at being flakey. All you can do is wait it will become very obviouse by tommorow if she has flaked out on you. How do you feel about her? Why wasn't the second date as good? not that girls at any age can't be flakey... men too
Author UT_longhorn Posted August 8, 2009 Author Posted August 8, 2009 i agree..i didnt find out her age until after we went out and i was a bit shocked. I am attracted to her physically and thing shes a great girl but the age gap does bother me some. i felt that the second date wasn't as good since i felt like i didn't put on my best "performance". but overall it was good. So green..you think I should wait for her txt and not shoot her something?
Green Posted August 8, 2009 Posted August 8, 2009 i agree..i didnt find out her age until after we went out and i was a bit shocked. I am attracted to her physically and thing shes a great girl but the age gap does bother me some. i felt that the second date wasn't as good since i felt like i didn't put on my best "performance". but overall it was good. So green..you think I should wait for her txt and not shoot her something? I would be aprehensive about the age too, but if I was single and attracted I would go out on a date and try my best to plant the seeds for a good relationship. Do what ever you think looks confident. If you feel that you've already clearly comunicated that you like her and indeed do want to do something with her then there is no point in sending another txt. If she just decided to forget about responding to you that is disrespectful but thats the way alot of girls that age are sometimes...
Author UT_longhorn Posted August 9, 2009 Author Posted August 9, 2009 ok..so i did text her and we did end up going out today for brunch. we came back to my place and we chatted for a little. then i started kissing her neck. and we made out for a while. then things started to heat up a little..and she put the brakes on. she said she's not that type of girl. which i totally respect. she said it was very good getting to know me and wish that we had some more time to get to know each other (since she is leaving for school in 3 days). we smooched for a bit more. then she left and that was that. she didn't really allude to continuing anything long distance (3 hrs). it was more like..it was good to get to know you... thoughts?
Green Posted August 9, 2009 Posted August 9, 2009 My thoughts are it was your role as the man to take control and figure out what the future held and not leave it like that. Its very unclear what will happen. If it had been me and I wanted to continue seeing her i would have said " I Like you and want to continue seeing you and if its not a problem I want to set some plans to see you again" and then it would have been clear... don't expect her to clear it up for u... thats ur job. If you don't want to see her I sugest you let her know also by calling her or seeing her in person if possible.
Author UT_longhorn Posted August 10, 2009 Author Posted August 10, 2009 Green..that is exactly the advice my buddy gave me. As a woman..she wouldn't and shouldn't be the one to offer the branch of future communication..it should have been me stating it whatever the return from her may have been. She leaves on Wednesday. I'll be out of town. What do you think of me txting her and wishing her a good trip and that i hope that we keep in touch regularly?
D-Lish Posted August 10, 2009 Posted August 10, 2009 I think she was saying good bye the last time she saw you. At least in the sense that she is going off to school and obviously can't start a relationship with you. The age gap, the fact that she's leaving to go away to school- your lives are just a world apart right now. I'd keep in touch for sure- I just wouldn't hope for anything more than fleeting contact. Pat yourself on the back that at the age of 31, you can attract a 21 year old chick. That's pretty good;)
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