citigirl2c Posted November 13, 2003 Posted November 13, 2003 I had a three year affair with my chief, he broke it off with me to be with another girl. I took sometime off and have just recently returned. He is so mean to me I just don't know what to do? i can't understand why he's mean to me since I was the one to get hurt in the relationship. does anyone have any advise? [color=darkred][/color]
Moon8stars Posted November 13, 2003 Posted November 13, 2003 Oh my god, I know exactly how you feel!!! I got my ex a job at my company and then 6 months later he cheated on me, which I found out later and now is dating someone else... there was all this talk about marriage and now he loves her .... so now I have to see him every day at work.. and everytime I confront him or say anything, he makes me feel like ****, that I make him feel miserable.. and that I ruin his mood!!! He broke up with me, he cheated on me.. and I am the one that is making him miserable?! He says he did nothing wrong! That he was thinking of himself and he likes her better.. I think the best advice is finding another job.. that is all I can think off.. I asked my boss to switch our shifts.. he works at night, but I still see him two hours in the morning ..
Author citigirl2c Posted November 13, 2003 Author Posted November 13, 2003 Well it's a little more complicated than that. We work at a firehouse together. Last December I told him I wanted him off the single market and he told me he wasn't ready. Than a week later he told me he was dating someone else. And I was really hurt. I told three months off and finally came back feeling ok. I just don't understand his problem with me. I mean he is just nasty to me. He can be laughing and talking to other people and as soon as I show up he turns into a different person. I feel like if I can get over it he should be happy that I didn't cause a scene. I just don't know what to do with he makes harsh remarks to me. I try to take the high road and ignore him but that's getting old.
Moon8stars Posted November 13, 2003 Posted November 13, 2003 yeah it is more complicated.. at least my ex acts all nice.. guilt trip I am assuming.... but in your case.... ignoring will get old, and as far as I know from my experience.. sometimes you cant ignore things.. the only thing to suggest here , unfortunately.. another job? you can also file for harassment... I know it sounds cruel, but he is harassing you in a way...
Author citigirl2c Posted November 13, 2003 Author Posted November 13, 2003 Well I'm starting to get mad. I can't just change jobs. He's a very private person so I was thinking about getting a t-shirt that says. "I slept with XXXX XXXXX and all I got was this lousy t-shirt." And the next time he starts in I was going to put it on. Remember we working with mostly men because it's a firehouse.
Moon8stars Posted November 13, 2003 Posted November 13, 2003 Do other people know you two were together? If they do.. be an a**h*** back to him, see how he likes it.... because I am sure that he would not like you being an a**h*** to him... My ex always gets pissed at him if I say something.. and goes.. dont talk to me.. I said fine.. I wont.. then he talks to me or calls back all nice as sugar... Men only understand us being bitchy. if you are nice they use it...
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