ms.stressed Posted August 8, 2009 Posted August 8, 2009 My ex-boyfriend and I broke up. He told me that he thinkshe made a mistake. We agreed to work it out and take it slow--build up the relationship again. We were talking to various people though and while I have stopped doing so, he still is. We are suppose to be on the path to reconciling, call me crazy but I don't think communicating to girls you've screwed is contributing to the reconciliation process. To make matter's worse, he had sex with one of his co-workers and told me that they were friends still. Now, he has to see this girl everyday he works. He will be around her. I don't like it. I told him so, but I also said I understand and told him to understand that that arrangement is hard for me. He told me he loved me and all that yadda but he's still talking to women he's slept with. He even has them on one of his social networks. I do have a problem with this. I am not going to lie. I think that by keeping in contact with them, he's not trusting our relationship. He says we broke because I don't trust him. I don't. He gave me many reasons not to, especially when I found text between him and his female friend/ex-gf that were anything but platonic. I use to be cool with him having female friends, but now I don't. And he is not even helping to regain that trust...at least, not by his standard of method.
hoping2heal Posted August 9, 2009 Posted August 9, 2009 It goes like this. Is he serious about this relationship? Are you serious about it? IF he wants to regain trust, he needs to work at it, or get out. What does that mean? That means he needs to cut ties with his sack buddies, for starters. Anything else you need -including access to his cell phone anytime you like- since this is how he comitted his last discretion. If he doesn't like it, he isn't serious about you, I guarantee that. I didn't cheat, BUT I did lie- which for my partner was the same as cheating; he has access to everything I have, names/passwords. Nothing is kept secret; he didn't even have to ASK me for that. I gave it up, I don't mind and I don't complain a bit, because I deeply love him and want to work at getting his trust back. I'm lucky to have the privellage to work at gettng his trust, and if your ex is serious about you? He will have the SAME atitude. If he doesn't? Then he isn't serious about this relationship anyhow, if you ARE serious about it; that is going to be a problem for you and you know what to do.
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