clueless24 Posted August 8, 2009 Posted August 8, 2009 thanks everyone for reading and commenting! =) I am a bit confused about my feelings/friend's feelings toward me. we have been friends for a few years now and have been really close with no previous problems. i am 26 and have been in a relationship for the last 7 years and have not really had much dating experience. my ex and i decided to "separate" since we don't have the intimacy we used to anymore. we still keep in contact and go out together sometimes but nothing intimate. i have never had feelings for this friend before but recently i developed feelings for him but am really afraid to show it because i am not sure how he feels. he's always been interested in my relationship problems/status but it could just be genuine concern for a friend. we go out together on the weekends a lot and study together often. he had commented a few times that i was a really good friend of his and "like a sister to him" so from that i gather that he's not interested. he also talks about how hot other girls are and asks me for my opinion about his "potentials". however, when we go out and i am not quite so sober by the end of the night, we would go home with friends and he would always have me on his lap and his arms around me. he would text the next day to see how i am and all that. last night, i crashed at his place instead of going home. it's the first time i have crashed at his place. he has some girls and guys from the club over and i was feeling a bit tired so i went to one of the extra rooms to sleep. he came in and tucked me and made sure i was comfortable then went back to his friends. in the middle the night, he opened the door and woke me up bc he said his dogs wanted to sleep with me. because he doesn't want one of his dog with a bad back to sleep in a high bed, he told me to go down to the basement room where the bed was lower so the dogs can sleep with me. so i went down to the basement with the dogs. i thought he was going to sleep in his bedroom but instead he brought a pillow and slept next to me in the same bed. we said goodnight and remained on separate side of the bed till morning when he leaned over and put his hand across my chest pulling me closer. i woke up and told him i was getting up to take the dogs out. since it was still early, i got back in bed and neither one of us reach reached over so we just slept for a bit more. i got up later and took him to his car and left. i am sure if he's showing interest or if i am just reading more into it because i am drawing from my own feelings . i would appreciate any insights/comments/suggestions about this. i am not a type of person to go ask him or initiate anything but i would really like to know what's going on . he's younger than i am by 2 years so i guess he's still out and about. thanks all for reading and commenting! i appreciate it.
vertical Posted August 8, 2009 Posted August 8, 2009 Well, if he sleeps in the same bed with you and puts his hand on your chest and pulls you over, i would say he wants something more then friendship. Maybe you should have stayed there and let the dogs cross their legs a bit more, and see what he was trying to do? Maybe he was trying to make a move or something? I would say you should try it, and go for him, but there is always the constant thought that if you are in the "friend-zone" permanetly he will get scared of your feelings and act different. I guess its your call.
Author clueless24 Posted August 8, 2009 Author Posted August 8, 2009 but with his comments as to us being just friends and "i am like a sister" to him, i am afraid he doesn't feel the same and i would just make things awkward between us. besides, he always expresses interests in other girls and even asks me about my single girlfriends. would a guy do these things if they are interested in you? too many doubts =) thanks!
vertical Posted August 9, 2009 Posted August 9, 2009 Well you have been friends for a while right? Maybe he is just comfortable with you and doesnt think he can have you, so he goes for something else. But yeah do what your gut says. It will probably give you better advice then anyone on here can.
Author clueless24 Posted August 9, 2009 Author Posted August 9, 2009 i dont think will do anything for now, i'll just wait to see what he'll do. if nothing is done then nothing happens =) i wish i had more courage or more confidence that he feels the same but i dont =( thanks again!
MSUE Posted August 9, 2009 Posted August 9, 2009 My very BFF in life is a guy and we have been mega friends for over 10 years and we always sleep on the same bed and even cuddle a bit but its definetely a brother sister relationship we just feel comfortable that way plus we live 3,000 miles apart now. I even lived as his parents house for a while...so although it may seem as he could be interested in something more truly if you've known each other for a long time and have a very deep and special frendship...it might just be that...a great friendship and nothing else
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