swtcntrygrl26 Posted August 8, 2009 Posted August 8, 2009 I have finally met the guy that every girl dreams of. He is sweet, caring, and I can't find one thing wrong with him. Well recently he has told me that there are certain things that a guy likes that girls also like such as kissing and playing with certain parts of the body such as the nipples and neck. The thing is that I have never done this to anyone and I am almost scared to death to try bc I have absolutely no idea how to even start. Growing up, sex was something not to be talked about and if anything got brought up, the conversation was ended quickly. I never even got a birds and bees talk so what little I do know, I figured out for myself. I just feel like I'm not doing my part so to speak. So I guess my question is how do I get out of this shyness crap and are there any things that I can do that he might like?
Chubbi Posted August 8, 2009 Posted August 8, 2009 Hello!! I feel I am a shy person as well, so I'll help. How old are you? Make sure you feel that you are mature enough to kiss somebody! If you're around 12, I think you can hold off for a couple of years. You should have a desire to kiss him. The desire will override your shyness. If you don't feel 95% comfortable, then don't even do it. Being shy isn't an excuse for not being ready. You will know when you're ready to kiss someone's neck. If you don't know what it means to feel sexually attracted to someone, then wait for it. Let the guy sweat and romance you. Next, grab a romance book to learn about love and sex, or try up some porn websites. Don't wait for someone else to educate you about your own body or your sexuality! Who knows you better than you? Grab a Cosmo or Seventeen magazine too if you want. (I know they both are crappy, but the stories sure are steamy!!) I suggest touching yourself but some girls especially don't do it. If you can't enjoy yourself, who else can make you?
Green Posted August 8, 2009 Posted August 8, 2009 Its as easy as just telling him how you feel. Example " Sex kind of scares me, I really like you and want you to like me too so don't take my shyness as a diss" obviously that was an on the cuff example but letting him know how you feel will make you feel better and should solve you problem one way or another
Author swtcntrygrl26 Posted August 8, 2009 Author Posted August 8, 2009 Hello!! I feel I am a shy person as well, so I'll help. How old are you? Make sure you feel that you are mature enough to kiss somebody! If you're around 12, I think you can hold off for a couple of years. You should have a desire to kiss him. The desire will override your shyness. If you don't feel 95% comfortable, then don't even do it. Being shy isn't an excuse for not being ready. You will know when you're ready to kiss someone's neck. If you don't know what it means to feel sexually attracted to someone, then wait for it. Let the guy sweat and romance you. Next, grab a romance book to learn about love and sex, or try up some porn websites. Don't wait for someone else to educate you about your own body or your sexuality! Who knows you better than you? Grab a Cosmo or Seventeen magazine too if you want. (I know they both are crappy, but the stories sure are steamy!!) I suggest touching yourself but some girls especially don't do it. If you can't enjoy yourself, who else can make you? I am 26 years old, I have had sex before but like I said, I've never been the one to initiate it and that's more what he's talking about. He wants me to go up to him and do these sexy little things and I'm scared to death of doing them bc I don't want to do it wrong and look stupid.
Author swtcntrygrl26 Posted August 8, 2009 Author Posted August 8, 2009 Its as easy as just telling him how you feel. Example " Sex kind of scares me, I really like you and want you to like me too so don't take my shyness as a diss" obviously that was an on the cuff example but letting him know how you feel will make you feel better and should solve you problem one way or another I have told him how I feel about it and we have been together for a while now. I told him that I can't help it that I'm shy about stuff like that and all he says is "well, we've gotta get you out of that." Like it's just that easy and it's not. Not for me that is. I just feel like crawling under the covers and hiding from him and the rest of the world bc I can't be normal like every other girl in the world. No one wants someone like me I'm sure.
Green Posted August 8, 2009 Posted August 8, 2009 I am 26 years old, I have had sex before but like I said, I've never been the one to initiate it and that's more what he's talking about. He wants me to go up to him and do these sexy little things and I'm scared to death of doing them bc I don't want to do it wrong and look stupid. you can't do it wrong or look stupid ... believe me. Like i said just let him know how u feel if you havn't already
Author swtcntrygrl26 Posted August 8, 2009 Author Posted August 8, 2009 you can't do it wrong or look stupid ... believe me. Like i said just let him know how u feel if you havn't already I'll bet I could considering I don't know how to do the things he wants me to do....
Green Posted August 8, 2009 Posted August 8, 2009 I'll bet I could considering I don't know how to do the things he wants me to do.... if you want go into detail of what he wants you to do I'll give you advice in greater detail.... Look if hes asking for something weird that you don't want to do then just tell him how you feel. Really you can't look stupid if this guy likes you, my gf could litteraly poop on a cracker and I'd find it hot lol... get my point... if he's into you which I'm sure he is then you won't look stupid to him
Author swtcntrygrl26 Posted August 8, 2009 Author Posted August 8, 2009 if you want go into detail of what he wants you to do I'll give you advice in greater detail.... Look if hes asking for something weird that you don't want to do then just tell him how you feel. Really you can't look stupid if this guy likes you, my gf could litteraly poop on a cracker and I'd find it hot lol... get my point... if he's into you which I'm sure he is then you won't look stupid to him Let's hope not.
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