Homies Over Hoes Posted August 8, 2009 Posted August 8, 2009 I don't know how to stick to NC. I still love my x who cheated and dumped me. I still miss her so much and I know I should be over her by now. I mean, it's been 8 months. Am I just clinically depressed? Should I seek therapy? Anyway she has been emailing me asking how I'm doing and I've promptly been deleting these emails. But, tonight ,I caved in and basically spilled my guts to her.... again. I know she probably just feels guilty and is wanting some kind of sick ego boost. What's wrong with me?
Nuala83 Posted August 8, 2009 Posted August 8, 2009 I don't know how to stick to NC. I still love my x who cheated and dumped me. I still miss her so much and I know I should be over her by now. I mean, it's been 8 months. Am I just clinically depressed? Should I seek therapy? Anyway she has been emailing me asking how I'm doing and I've promptly been deleting these emails. But, tonight ,I caved in and basically spilled my guts to her.... again. I know she probably just feels guilty and is wanting some kind of sick ego boost. What's wrong with me? Nothing's wrong with you. How long were the two of you together? I broke NC countless times, tried being friends then ended up spilling my heart out to him, tried LC. Everything. It took me almost 5 months to break contact and I feel much the same way you're describing. Getting over a breakup's like breaking an addiction. Maybe a NC buddy would be a good idea to help you through. What's the longest you've maintained NC before breaking it? I find that once you get to a certain point it becomes easier but then every now and again you hit 'weak points' where if you can get past them you're fine but if you crack, you go waaaay back to square one.
Soul Bear Posted August 8, 2009 Posted August 8, 2009 Exactly. Its a battle of the self. The one thing that helped me most was knowing that AS LONG AS YOU DONT MAKE CONTACT YOU CANT MAKE THINGS WORSE. Cali GUy has some good posts on NC, i suggest you find his posts and have a looik in his sig. Im 10 or 11 weeks NC now, and i STILL have weak moments and days. Its the fact she is in a rebound and sent lame messages that has kept me NC. You can do it
northstar1 Posted August 8, 2009 Posted August 8, 2009 There is nothing wrong with you - nearly everyone breaks NC. We all think it will make us feel better, and it does for about 5 minutes. How long you want to remain in this state is up to you. You claim you are weak, so stop being weak. You've seen what breaking NC does, it results in you feeling like crap most of the time. Go back to ignoring her, it's the only way you'll move on fully.
Author Homies Over Hoes Posted August 8, 2009 Author Posted August 8, 2009 was with this person for nearly 2 years. the best 2 years of my life, and she very suddenly decided that it wasnt worth those 2 years and set herself up with some guy that she claimed was her "friend" prior to her leaving me. i feel so used and betrayed but i still miss her so much. ughh i still feel like such a mess. i dont know what to do to get her off my mind. ive tried self medicating myself with drugs and alcohol, that didnt work. so i tried exercising. exercising does offer a temporary remedy but i still end up feeling like **** when the euphoria wears off. i need a therapist!
northstar1 Posted August 9, 2009 Posted August 9, 2009 It is hard, but you will get through it. Keep yourself busy with friends, hobbies, travel if you can. ANything to break the routine you are used to that associates with her. Therapy may also help, so check that out.
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