CM2009 Posted August 8, 2009 Posted August 8, 2009 http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t195632/ Ok folks tomorrow is moving day, after 5 months of seperation, my wife saying she's done and me trying to rebuild im going back to my old stomping grounds for the first time since late April to reclaim the rest of my belongings. I'm going through the stages of emotions, saddness, disapointment, anger, betrayal and hurt. I mean I do want my wife back but I've realized that I can't make no one be with me that doesn't want to. I've also learned about myself and how to get along without her. For those who've been through this how is it when your moving out of a place that you use to call home? How was the experience of your former lover being their as you move all your belongings? Just some advice would be nice. Thanks
hopesndreams Posted August 8, 2009 Posted August 8, 2009 Look at it as a means to an end. You get your belongings, she's there, so what? Have you been on friendly terms with her since you left? If you have, that could be the reason why you are still going through all the stages still after being apart for months. If that's not the case, sorry for your pain, but each day you spend without her in your life will help in your healing tremendously. If you don't break free from her there will only be many more months, that turn into years of feeling the pain.
WTFO Posted August 8, 2009 Posted August 8, 2009 Look at it as a means to an end. You get your belongings, she's there, so what? Have you been on friendly terms with her since you left? If you have, that could be the reason why you are still going through all the stages still after being apart for months. If that's not the case, sorry for your pain, but each day you spend without her in your life will help in your healing tremendously. If you don't break free from her there will only be many more months, that turn into years of feeling the pain. Well said. I just moved in to my new Apt. on the 1st. I have to admit, It is VERY different on my own. Not bad,not good, just different. A time to heal. Pick up the pieces if you will.
Author CM2009 Posted August 8, 2009 Author Posted August 8, 2009 Look at it as a means to an end. You get your belongings, she's there, so what? Have you been on friendly terms with her since you left? If you have, that could be the reason why you are still going through all the stages still after being apart for months. If that's not the case, sorry for your pain, but each day you spend without her in your life will help in your healing tremendously. If you don't break free from her there will only be many more months, that turn into years of feeling the pain. In terms of the question of me being on friendly terms with her, I would say more no then yes. We just recently had probably our best talks over the phone in months where we didn't fuss or fight, had a a laugh or two. But other then that it was WWIII, and I had for a period of time (and I don't like using this word) hated her. So no we hadn't been on friendly terms and I went NC at times and the reasons why I broke the NC was because I needed to get my things.
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