Majour Posted August 8, 2009 Posted August 8, 2009 Hi. Ive explained my situation before. Anyway to put it short, ex cut name my name into her foot, I still stayed with her, she dumped me the day before my college graduation after 10 months for being selfish (which was things like wanting her around once in a while, coming to my grandmothers funeral, etc). Well anyway, I broke NC pretty early, drove me into an emotional wreck, etc. About a month ago, I got a e-mail from her out of the blue, asking me how I was doing, if I wanted some crap I left in her dorm back (useless crap like an old towel which I told her to chuck, a toothbrush, some shampoo). At the end of her e-mail she asked for her shirt that she left at my house and some money that she thinks I owe her for a concert. Now, a little more backstory, at the time my life was not going so well. I just graduated school, no job, lost a close family member, while the rest of my family was absent from my life, and just struggling to hold it together. After she dumped me I got some more help and im in a much better place in my life. I now began my career, I make good money, I have my own apartment, and life is pretty good. Whether that e-mail was her looking for a way to speak to me or what (since she mentioned possibly meeting in person), I don't know, I just deleted as I feel I owe her no money and I don't really want to speak to her. So anyway, heres the main point of my message. She works at a stadium where our state's baseball team plays. My friend went to the game and saw her. She asked how I was, he told her that my life was amazing right now, even embelished on it. She supposedly got sad. After he told me this, I got sad. Is it normal to feel this way? It could just be the fact that someone I know saw her and such, but for some reason it really got me down the last few days.. and its tempting me to break NC... help.. Thanks loveshackers *what I forgot to add is, my apartment is actuallly closer to where she lives... so theres a chance I could run into her/her friends.. not the biggest deal I guess. Chances are I will run into her at a concert in November.. ironically my favorite band is headlining for her favorite band... gotta love fate.. lol
ScarLettIsle Posted August 8, 2009 Posted August 8, 2009 if u honestly don't want any further contact - there's no use to contacting her - IF u see her on the street - say hi - if the convo continues then apologize that u didn't respond to her email u've been BUSY... however if u do want her back in ur life BOMBS away - call her up invite her over - see what new items she can leave at ur house...
CaliGuy Posted August 9, 2009 Posted August 9, 2009 Meh, ignore her. Tell your friend not to feed you information about her. Focus on the positives in your life. Someone new is coming, but you WILL NOT meet her if you are stuck on your ex. Focus is forward from here on out. Not backwards. Cheers.
Author Majour Posted August 9, 2009 Author Posted August 9, 2009 To scar, I would not respond to her, as she claims I owe her money for something, and if that was her way of re-establishing touch with me, that was a very stupid way to go about doing it. Caliguy, ive been trying to focus on nothing but the positives in my life, but just as there are many positives right now, especially with my career and such, there lies that one negative, and thats what I can't put past me... her.
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