dreamergrl Posted August 7, 2009 Posted August 7, 2009 So last night a guy (kind of last minute) asks me out for an early dinner. I told him I wasn't sure, as I had an appointment early this morning, and I'd be taking the bus into a new part of the city in order to meet him. I told him I'd get back to him. I decided to stay in ... I wasn't keen on going some place new (still finding my way around Denver), and it wasn't really all that early in the night, when I had to be up bright and early. I didn't say anything, so I assumed I offended him. It's not as if anything was planned, so I didn't think much of it, it was all last minute. So this morning I sent him an email after my appointment, saying I was sorry I couldn't make it, but the appointment was very important, and it was a bit late for me to go off to new areas, and I just wasn't comfortable with it last night. So out of no where I get a text today... 'well.. if you're not going to give me the brush off again....' then later a reply to my email.... "I dont kno, considering this message is 7hrs old and ive txt u within a few hrs.....=(" By this time I was getting annoyed, and my response showed it.. "Well seeing how as I'm not glued to my computer, my (more...) texting hasn't been working... chill out a bit. And i texted you back, as soon as I got it. Geeze. Maybe we shouldn't try for another time" Now he is 'sorry...' and 'disappointed'. I thought he started getting kind of pushy... or was I just being overly irritated?
boogieboy Posted August 8, 2009 Posted August 8, 2009 Apparently you blew him off once before from what he says...hes a lil hurt. If you did blow him off before, then he might have the impression that youre not really that interested and too chicken to tell him. So if you have blown him off before, you should cut him some slack. He shouldnt be pushy, but you should be flattered that he wants to see you.
Author dreamergrl Posted August 8, 2009 Author Posted August 8, 2009 Apparently you blew him off once before from what he says...hes a lil hurt. If you did blow him off before, then he might have the impression that youre not really that interested and too chicken to tell him. So if you have blown him off before, you should cut him some slack. He shouldnt be pushy, but you should be flattered that he wants to see you. That's the thing... I never blew him off before. Last night was the first time he's attempted to make plans with me. And it was all last minute.
torranceshipman Posted August 8, 2009 Posted August 8, 2009 Sounds like a bitter man with baggage to me...
AlektraClementine Posted August 8, 2009 Posted August 8, 2009 Agreed. Take his attitude right now. Multiply it by 100 and you've got a relationship with him.
Devil Inside Posted August 8, 2009 Posted August 8, 2009 He's not off to a good start. Seems a bit insecure. I would say that if you aren't really into it...maybe it's better to avoid the drama. You're a pretty girl...you shouldn't have an issue finding a guy. Heck I'm from Denver area...my cousin is single...let me know if you're interested.
loveslife Posted August 8, 2009 Posted August 8, 2009 Ya know, there are so many guys available to you. There's no reason to take someone's insecurities. I mean, feel badly and/or compassionately for him but look elsewhere. Don't give it all another thought. Too much drama too soon. Ya know?
2sunny Posted August 8, 2009 Posted August 8, 2009 last minute and he's disappointed and then demanding on the back end???? what is he thinking? don't respond to him any further... to do so is just encouraging him to treat you badly.
Author dreamergrl Posted August 8, 2009 Author Posted August 8, 2009 Okay good. I was feeling a bit crabby today, and I wasn't sure if I was just being harsh. Glad to know I wasn't! I was interested, until that whole speel. There's one guy I wont have to worry about inviting or not inviting to the bbq .... Hey Devil... lets see a picture
Devil Inside Posted August 8, 2009 Posted August 8, 2009 Hey Devil... lets see a picture Let me work on getting you one...maybe I should ask him first...lol What's your type...you down with Hispanic men?
Author dreamergrl Posted August 8, 2009 Author Posted August 8, 2009 At this point... I'm down with respectful, honest, secure men - in general. Or I'll take Pyyyyro :love:
Devil Inside Posted August 8, 2009 Posted August 8, 2009 At this point... I'm down with respectful, honest, secure men - in general. Or I'll take Pyyyyro :love: Well my cousin fits the bill. He's about 29...accountant...outdoorsman...photographer...and good guy.
Devil Inside Posted August 8, 2009 Posted August 8, 2009 My dad is an accountant Soo..is that a good thing or a bad thing...
Author dreamergrl Posted August 8, 2009 Author Posted August 8, 2009 Soo..is that a good thing or a bad thing... Let's put it this way... my dad never told me my grandma died.
Devil Inside Posted August 8, 2009 Posted August 8, 2009 Let's put it this way... my dad never told me my grandma died. Ohhh...he's into finance too....lol
Cherry Blossom 35 Posted August 8, 2009 Posted August 8, 2009 Your internal alarm is going off for the right reasons. Listen to it. He's being manipulative, and he's only focused on his own needs. Normal people would understand that if you ask someone to do something at the last minute, they may not be able to do it. Normal people understand that you may not want to drive across town to an unfamiliar place. Normal people understand that early morning obligations may prevent you from going out at night. And then he tries to pull that b.s.??? Don't go out with this guy. And why wasn't he willing to meet you in your neighborhood?
Author dreamergrl Posted August 8, 2009 Author Posted August 8, 2009 CB - yeah, I decided against it. Looks like I'm going to have to hit the ignore button... I got yet another message from him.. =( I can already feel there is no turn around from this, u sure know how to make sumone feel 3yrs old.... :rolleyes::rolleyes: Devil - so is my dad :laugh: but at least my dad isn't into photography
Devil Inside Posted August 8, 2009 Posted August 8, 2009 CB - yeah, I decided against it. Looks like I'm going to have to hit the ignore button... I got yet another message from him.. =( I can already feel there is no turn around from this, u sure know how to make sumone feel 3yrs old.... :rolleyes::rolleyes: Devil - so is my dad :laugh: but at least my dad isn't into photography Man...this guy sounds like you two were in a relationship and broke up or something. These are things my cousin would never say....lol
Author dreamergrl Posted August 8, 2009 Author Posted August 8, 2009 My alarms shoulda went off when he told me he's a manager for a beauty store :lmao::lmao: He deleted me :bunny:
MissHollywood Posted August 8, 2009 Posted August 8, 2009 =( I can already feel there is no turn around from this, u sure know how to make sumone feel 3yrs old.... :rolleyes::rolleyes: I'm not saying he's not attracted to you but it could be that your actions (as he perceived them) made him want to chase you down. Keep it up! The next time you meet a guy you really like (that's when us girls turn into mush), remember what you did to this 3-year-old! It's a good strategy.
Author dreamergrl Posted August 8, 2009 Author Posted August 8, 2009 I'm not saying he's not attracted to you but it could be that your actions (as he perceived them) made him want to chase you down. Keep it up! The next time you meet a guy you really like (that's when us girls turn into mush), remember what you did to this 3-year-old! It's a good strategy. No kidding! Why didn't I ever do this with guys I wanted to chase me
Els Posted August 8, 2009 Posted August 8, 2009 Wait... you're saying that you messaged him the morning AFTER, right? Not the morning before? I dunno but I think people usually appreciate a heads-up if you're going to decline a dinner, even if there was nothing set in stone and it was last-minute. Why didn't you just tell him no when you decided it, instead of the morning AFTER? With all that said, he does sound immensely clingy.
likestolaugh Posted August 8, 2009 Posted August 8, 2009 Wait... you're saying that you messaged him the morning AFTER, right? Not the morning before? I dunno but I think people usually appreciate a heads-up if you're going to decline a dinner, even if there was nothing set in stone and it was last-minute. Why didn't you just tell him no when you decided it, instead of the morning AFTER? With all that said, he does sound immensely clingy. indeed. Seems a tad inconsiderate to not let him know when you decided it.... and apparently you had no reason not to tell him other than... well, you didn't say why.
Author dreamergrl Posted August 8, 2009 Author Posted August 8, 2009 No, I let him know that night. He didn't answer, so I the next morning I told him I was sorry that I couldn't make it (so twice I apologized), and told him we could try for another night.
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