Author hoping2heal Posted August 8, 2009 Author Posted August 8, 2009 Yeah no problem. It actually wasn't even how he treated me during our r/s that I say "he didn't treat me like anyone, I would want to call a friend." It was the way he mind f*cked the hell out of me, AFTERwards. That also helped me too though; as I said I realised after months on end of crying myself to sleep night after night, and feeling destroyed; that the man out there for me; would not put me through this torment and torture of posting my photos/making comments about the relationship/etc. I'm glad after 3 weeks I wisened up. It honestly seemed like within about a month of that realisation? I finally moved on. I could accept now that he was a learning experience, but he wasn't my special one. Now, the guy I have now? HE is my special one. He is the most special, loving, wonderful guy I've ever had the privellage of loving and being loved by. He has stuck by me through some very bad things (on my behalf) and he wasn't a doormat about it; he could just see the forest through the trees and it paid off for him. Now it just keeps getting better for us.
nature Posted August 8, 2009 Posted August 8, 2009 Hoping, you sound so genuinely happy! It's so, so, so nice to hear your story! Your ex sounds like he was really messed up. How long had you two been together? Why did he break up with you? You were much braver than I to jump back in with him like that. I have kept my distance since my ex dumped me last summer. Even all fall after, he would pop around my house unexpected, etc. And I still kept my distance and kept him at arms lake. He has gotten one cold, pat pat hug from me since he dumped me. And that is it for emotion and physical. Your ex sounds like he was in a very mixed up place in his head/life, and still is. Good that you healed and saved yourself from "his" torment. I say "his" because you realized the issue was his and his alone, and the way he was treating you had nothing to do with you. It wouldn't have mattered who you were, I don't think, because your ex was not in a head space for a mature relationship. How did you meet your new guy and how long have you two been together now?
nature Posted August 9, 2009 Posted August 9, 2009 Hoping to Heal...i just want to say THANK YOU again for all of your words. It really has helped me so much. More than you know!
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