hoping2heal Posted August 7, 2009 Posted August 7, 2009 No way Hoping!! I love straight up talk...I hate BS, mincing words or excuses! You say it like it is, and I love it! Now, on Thomas' post that we've been writing to help him (even tho he's disappeared and we've taken over...sorry Thomas!) can you give me some straight up talk about my situation with my ex! lol LOL sure thing dear. Let me go read and I'll do just that
nature Posted August 7, 2009 Posted August 7, 2009 Maybe we should start our own post for you, me, Mickle and Thornton??? lol
hoping2heal Posted August 7, 2009 Posted August 7, 2009 Maybe we should start our own post for you, me, Mickle and Thornton??? lol LOL, I'm gonna read yours now, I'll post my response in a thread addressed to you ok? OK, I'm on it!
Author DustySaltus Posted August 8, 2009 Author Posted August 8, 2009 first of all, for someone who speaks no bs you should understand why I posted that. Ldr are not something to be taken lightly. Everything was put outthere but I'm not going to apologize because she went through my personal stuff.
hoping2heal Posted August 8, 2009 Posted August 8, 2009 first of all, for someone who speaks no bs you should understand why I posted that. Ldr are not something to be taken lightly. Everything was put outthere but I'm not going to apologize because she went through my personal stuff. You posted the story again in the forum, the SAME exact story that I pulled a quote from, only this time you removed the part where you mentioned you purposely did the email to catch her. You're acting every bit as manipulative as your ex. Did anyone ask you to aplogise for her going through your things? No. You shouldn't have to apologise, that's her responsibility. All I said was, don't come around here talking about how you did nothing wrong through the relationship, so you're having such a hard time accepting how things could have changed. And I don't think it's a good sign that you don't take responsibility for your actions. It's weird, the more you talk about her, the more I see you two share some likeness traits. Either she rubbed off on you (it's possible) or I can finally see why you two got on to begin with.
Author DustySaltus Posted August 8, 2009 Author Posted August 8, 2009 The reason why I held back was because of her previous trust issues. Ill admit things could've been handled different by me but nothing I did warranted the price I paid.
hoping2heal Posted August 8, 2009 Posted August 8, 2009 The reason why I held back was because of her previous trust issues. Ill admit things could've been handled different by me but nothing I did warranted the price I paid. Yes and no. I don't think the things you did warranted her outragous actions. As for the price you paid? Honey, you bought in to a bad stock and waited until it finally fell off. You told me you have been in "normal" I am assuming this means stable relationships previously. You knew her behavior was unacceptable for a long time, and you either provoked her situation with passive aggressive behavior or stayed. You have to take responsibility. You were in a relationship that showed all the tell tale signs of ending badly for quite a while, and you still stayed, now has come the time where it ended badly. You still want to act innocent in the matter.
ScarLettIsle Posted August 8, 2009 Posted August 8, 2009 so the relationship only lasted 3 days??? or the commitment?? - sounds like she found something ELSE on the side
CaliGuy Posted August 8, 2009 Posted August 8, 2009 How does a girl go from " I want to spend the rest of my life with you" to "I'm glad I was with a guy like you because it showed me exactly the type of person I DON'T want to be with" in a matter of three days?? No cheating, nothing crazy occured just POOF...................wtf??? Dusty, it's happened to me as well. IMHO, women like this, they fall in and OUT of love very fast. When they find someone new, they want to break away soon. The feelings they had for you go to the new guy. In the process, you still love them a lot but your love is now un-wanted. The more you show you love them, the more turned "off" they get. After all, they have feelings for someone else. Not hard to understand once you get a grasp of what is going on.
nature Posted August 8, 2009 Posted August 8, 2009 Cali guy...sorry to say this, but I'm a woman and I disagree. I don't fall in and out of love easily, and just move on to the next guy and transfer my feelings over easily. I think that's stereotyping saying "women" do that. As I've seen men do the same thing as well. So I'd say "certain people" do that. It has nothing to do with gender. It has to do with a person's level of commitment, loyalty, faith, morals, etc. Male or female. Just had to say this, as it bothers me when men stereotype women and say we are all just fickle and move on to the next man. No, not all women do that. A lot of men do that too. They replace a woman with a new one before the relationship is even over. It happens to both.
Author DustySaltus Posted August 8, 2009 Author Posted August 8, 2009 You posted the story again in the forum, the SAME exact story that I pulled a quote from, only this time you removed the part where you mentioned you purposely did the email to catch her. You're acting every bit as manipulative as your ex. Did anyone ask you to aplogise for her going through your things? No. You shouldn't have to apologise, that's her responsibility. All I said was, don't come around here talking about how you did nothing wrong through the relationship, so you're having such a hard time accepting how things could have changed. And I don't think it's a good sign that you don't take responsibility for your actions. It's weird, the more you talk about her, the more I see you two share some likeness traits. Either she rubbed off on you (it's possible) or I can finally see why you two got on to begin with. Yes, I did remove that part of the posting because I didn't "knowingly" send that email. The email was going to be sent no matter what and by doing what she did I did "catch" her. I know I did things wrong and I am not perfect, but no one is. And the person you are supposed to be the closest to, the one you love should understand that and she didn't. It;s not about blame, it's about me trying to make my own closure to this situation. But hoping, thanks for the input.
Author DustySaltus Posted August 8, 2009 Author Posted August 8, 2009 Cali guy...sorry to say this, but I'm a woman and I disagree. I don't fall in and out of love easily, and just move on to the next guy and transfer my feelings over easily. I think that's stereotyping saying "women" do that. As I've seen men do the same thing as well. So I'd say "certain people" do that. It has nothing to do with gender. It has to do with a person's level of commitment, loyalty, faith, morals, etc. Male or female. Just had to say this, as it bothers me when men stereotype women and say we are all just fickle and move on to the next man. No, not all women do that. A lot of men do that too. They replace a woman with a new one before the relationship is even over. It happens to both. She wasn't the type to fall in and out of love very easily. She just had major trust issues that come from her father abandoning her at a very young age. She would constantly ask me "you'll never leave me right?"...had bad dreams about us and admitted that she had a problem with something always having to be wrong. So I tried my best to be what she needed and then when she found these emails...done, just like that.
borbiusle Posted August 8, 2009 Posted August 8, 2009 She wasn't the type to fall in and out of love very easily. She just had major trust issues that come from her father abandoning her at a very young age. She would constantly ask me "you'll never leave me right?"...had bad dreams about us and admitted that she had a problem with something always having to be wrong. So I tried my best to be what she needed and then when she found these emails...done, just like that. My GF I just broke up with had MAJOR trust issues, had the same bad dreams almost every night about us, and asked me simliar questions all the time. It never really struck me as odd for her to simply jump ship at the first sign of "danger", even though I could always talk her out of it. I know she loved me at one point, she literally did almost anything I wanted and said all the right things, but all that literally disappeared overnight, so I wouldn't rule cheating out. Does she love someone else? Who knows...(I sure as hell will never found out). Does she love you? Most likely not, that's what matters right now.
hoping2heal Posted August 9, 2009 Posted August 9, 2009 Yes, I did remove that part of the posting because I didn't "knowingly" send that email. The email was going to be sent no matter what and by doing what she did I did "catch" her. I know I did things wrong and I am not perfect, but no one is. And the person you are supposed to be the closest to, the one you love should understand that and she didn't. It;s not about blame, it's about me trying to make my own closure to this situation. But hoping, thanks for the input. Now you're just being dishonest. It makes no sense that you would tell one version of the story using the phrase "so I purposely sent an email". Now you are saying, oh I reposted the story and took that part out because no, it wasn't on purpose. It didn't make you look better to tell us all you purposely did it, so what then? You lied and You added something that didn't happen to your original version of the story, that only made you look worse, when the truth all along was no; you never purposely did it? I don't know what kind of white gloves you think I'm wearing today, but I'm not buying any of your ketchup. The picture is filling itself in Dusty, and you didn't even need to talk more about the relationship.
CaliGuy Posted August 9, 2009 Posted August 9, 2009 Cali guy...sorry to say this, but I'm a woman and I disagree. I don't fall in and out of love easily, and just move on to the next guy and transfer my feelings over easily. I didn't say that. If you read carefully what I wrote, I said "Women like this.." I was not alluding to all women, just the type of women we both have experienced. I think that's stereotyping saying "women" do that. As I've seen men do the same thing as well. So I'd say "certain people" do that. That's what I said It has nothing to do with gender. It has to do with a person's level of commitment, loyalty, faith, morals, etc. Male or female. Just had to say this, as it bothers me when men stereotype women and say we are all just fickle and move on to the next man. No, not all women do that. A lot of men do that too. They replace a woman with a new one before the relationship is even over. It happens to both. Never said that. But, before you assume I said something, may want to ask if that is indeed what I meant
CaliGuy Posted August 9, 2009 Posted August 9, 2009 She wasn't the type to fall in and out of love very easily. She just had major trust issues that come from her father abandoning her at a very young age. She would constantly ask me "you'll never leave me right?"...had bad dreams about us and admitted that she had a problem with something always having to be wrong. So I tried my best to be what she needed and then when she found these emails...done, just like that. Dusty, the ex I was referring to was very much like this. Insecure, quite often. Silly statements she used to make that showed she was very, VERY insecure.
nature Posted August 9, 2009 Posted August 9, 2009 Cali guy...super sorry, you are right! I was really tired last night when I read it and posted...and it just goes to show how things can be misinterpreted if not in a full frame of mind. My apologies, I hope you will accept!
CaliGuy Posted August 9, 2009 Posted August 9, 2009 Cali guy...super sorry, you are right! I was really tired last night when I read it and posted...and it just goes to show how things can be misinterpreted if not in a full frame of mind. My apologies, I hope you will accept! No worries It's not like me to generalize all women in one category, that's for sure! LOL
Woggle Posted August 9, 2009 Posted August 9, 2009 Most women are just insane and thrive off of drama. She wants her emotional high like a drug addict and she couldn't care less about actual love. Women like her just get a kick out of causing as much drama as possible and making a man hurt. She probably blames all men for something that happened to her and you are getting the brunt of it. It's a all a big game to her and it makes her feel empowered. Remove her from your life and be glad that you never actually married or had a kid with her. She is not worth the drama. How much more of your life will you waste on her?
CaliGuy Posted August 9, 2009 Posted August 9, 2009 Most women are just insane and thrive off of drama. She wants her emotional high like a drug addict and she couldn't care less about actual love. Women like her just get a kick out of causing as much drama as possible and making a man hurt. She probably blames all men for something that happened to her and you are getting the brunt of it. It's a all a big game to her and it makes her feel empowered. Remove her from your life and be glad that you never actually married or had a kid with her. She is not worth the drama. How much more of your life will you waste on her? Mature women do not feed off drama. Emotionally immature women do.
Woggle Posted August 9, 2009 Posted August 9, 2009 Mature women do not feed off drama. Emotionally immature women do. How many women do you know that are emotionally mature though?
CaliGuy Posted August 9, 2009 Posted August 9, 2009 How many women do you know that are emotionally mature though? Umm no comment. I'm naturally attracted to women who do not REMOTELY have their act together Bah. LOL
hoping2heal Posted August 9, 2009 Posted August 9, 2009 Umm no comment. I'm naturally attracted to women who do not REMOTELY have their act together Bah. LOL LOL. Cali this made me laugh. TY for having the most humorous post of the evening.
CaliGuy Posted August 9, 2009 Posted August 9, 2009 LOL. Cali this made me laugh. TY for having the most humorous post of the evening. It's all the nyquil and coughing. I'm not normally funny (well, besides funny looking).
Author DustySaltus Posted August 10, 2009 Author Posted August 10, 2009 Now you're just being dishonest. It makes no sense that you would tell one version of the story using the phrase "so I purposely sent an email". Now you are saying, oh I reposted the story and took that part out because no, it wasn't on purpose. It didn't make you look better to tell us all you purposely did it, so what then? You lied and You added something that didn't happen to your original version of the story, that only made you look worse, when the truth all along was no; you never purposely did it? I don't know what kind of white gloves you think I'm wearing today, but I'm not buying any of your ketchup. The picture is filling itself in Dusty, and you didn't even need to talk more about the relationship. It;s not about wanting to look good or not. I just needed to take a step back and really think about the entire situation again.
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