BTLC23 Posted August 7, 2009 Posted August 7, 2009 I had already posted my story but i feel its to long. In a nutshell im 20 the gf is 24 we met lived together in my parents house for a while then she moved back home about 2 hours away. We were going out for almost three years. I basically stopped doing everything including trying to please her during sex but more importantly i was going through alot in my life i became insecure needy paranoid and she seemed to get annoyed with me after a while and started limited our contact. We were long distance but talked almost every night and see each other the whole weekend.She was losing interest in me. Months before the initial breakup she said i put to much pressure on her and i think she said u dont give me time to miss u. Right before the last time i saw her she didnt want to kiss me on the lips. Two days later she saw me hangin out with another friend of mine and two of our girl friends. She is very jealous and flipped out and broke up with me. I drove up the next day to her job to aplogize but she didnt want to see me. We stopped talkin on the phone sine then. Like an idiot i would ask her all the time when can we talk and and when are we gettn back together, making myself seem more needy and desperate. About 4 weeks after the initial breakup i guess i said something and she said she doesnt see us gettn back together and she dosnt have the same feelings anymore. I think she lost attraction to me and i smothered her. She recently started hanging out with friends more and such. I threatend to kill myself and begged her and a bunch of stupid stuff. I contacted her liek two or three things and continued to ask why would u break up with me through text etc. I decided NC is the way to go its been almost a week. This girl really loved me at one time i hope that with time she will realize wat she lost. When i asked her what was the reason its because of the way i treated her. I find that hard to believe i just was showing her to much attention. I told her that she was the only thing in my life etc etc. Is NC the best thing to do in a situatuon where you were all over your girlfriend? Any opinions
GrayClouds Posted August 7, 2009 Posted August 7, 2009 This girl really loved me at one time i hope that with time she will realize wat she lost. she wont, she's gone and the sooner you move on the it will feel. Good Luck
Author BTLC23 Posted August 7, 2009 Author Posted August 7, 2009 why you gotta be so negative dont put your own hurt into my situation.
Surfer Girl Posted August 7, 2009 Posted August 7, 2009 Yes, NC is the way to go.... Begging, pleading and feeling needy has been the answer you are looking for.... and it made her run... the more she does not know about what your doing.... the more you are not there, gives her more time to think and wonder and perhaps miss you... You may be putting to much pressure on her and perhaps you both need a break... It is very difficult but it is for the best IMHO
Author BTLC23 Posted August 7, 2009 Author Posted August 7, 2009 Thank you surfer girl. Yea she literally told me months ago you put to much pressure on me and you dont give me time to miss you. I didnt listen and instead pushed further and drove her away. We had a strong love at one point this both of ours first relationship. I was paranoid and would tell her constantly that she was the only person i loved and cared about and had nobody else it was digusting but at the time thats how i felt. This space did me some good to realize what I had in life thats what helps me with dealing with the breakup.
Surfer Girl Posted August 7, 2009 Posted August 7, 2009 She knows how you feel and that you love her.... You don't have to tell her again.... It is not up to you anymore... Give her and you time to absorbe the feelings.... NC will help both of you to do that and she may respect you more by letting her focus on the situation without the pressure.... It will be the best for both of you......
GrayClouds Posted August 8, 2009 Posted August 8, 2009 why you gotta be so negative dont put your own hurt into my situation. i wasn't trying to be negative, just wanted to say at this point the less you focus on her the better you will be.
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