saniya Posted August 7, 2009 Posted August 7, 2009 My ex MM keeps coming back for a talk, but iam over the EA , I ended it again and again by giving him several closers- final talks. he is expecting his first child, his W is 8 months Preg. he was my best freind before EA he married in Feb 2007, i ended EA in April 2007, since that time he sends frequent e mails or phone call to know How I am and to let him know weather we can again get into EA ya i know he is very much interested to take this A to PA I always give him short reply that iam not interested. 1) what is the best way to go no contact for ever. 2)why dont he understand that iam really over him ? 3 ) his wife is more younger/educated/high salried than me, then what is the reason behind his EA, why dont he find his wife more attractive? 4) I dont understand why he finds me attractive that he ignores his self respect to contact me again and again. please advice.
LucreziaBorgia Posted August 7, 2009 Posted August 7, 2009 1) what is the best way to go no contact for ever. 2)why dont he understand that iam really over him ? 3 ) his wife is more younger/educated/high salried than me, then what is the reason behind his EA, why dont he find his wife more attractive? 4) I dont understand why he finds me attractive that he ignores his self respect to contact me again and again. 1. By changing all of your contact information and blocking any way he has to reach you. You can also tell him that the next time he contacts you and every single time after that you will contact his wife and continue to do so until he stops. 2. He isn't concerned with how you feel or what is best for you, therefore it does not matter to him whether you are over him or not. He doesn't want the affair to be over, so in his mind it isn't. 3. Attraction can everything to do with it, or nothing to do with it. At the core, affairs are driven by emotional and sexual boredom. Perhaps you lit up some areas in his brain that dimmed in terms of his wife. 4. He isn't ignoring his self respect. He is ignoring yours.
Gamine Posted August 7, 2009 Posted August 7, 2009 My ex MM keeps coming back for a talk, but iam over the EA , I ended it again and again by giving him several closers- final talks. he is expecting his first child, his W is 8 months Preg. he was my best freind before EA he married in Feb 2007, i ended EA in April 2007, since that time he sends frequent e mails or phone call to know How I am and to let him know weather we can again get into EA ya i know he is very much interested to take this A to PA I always give him short reply that iam not interested. 1) what is the best way to go no contact for ever. 2)why dont he understand that iam really over him ? 3 ) his wife is more younger/educated/high salried than me, then what is the reason behind his EA, why dont he find his wife more attractive? 4) I dont understand why he finds me attractive that he ignores his self respect to contact me again and again. please advice. You can tell him to get lost.
Chrome Barracuda Posted August 7, 2009 Posted August 7, 2009 He's just using you because your an easy mark... If you had boundries you'd tell him you want no part of what he's offering. He's married and that's the end of it.
GreenEyedLady Posted August 7, 2009 Posted August 7, 2009 He's just using you because your an easy mark... If you had boundries you'd tell him you want no part of what he's offering. He's married and that's the end of it. That's not cool...You don't need to be mean. She's made it clear she wants nothing to do with the man. OP, tell him if he contacts you again, you'll tell his W. GEL
2sunny Posted August 7, 2009 Posted August 7, 2009 he does this because you allow it. don't allow it any longer and he will get the hint. how can you accomplish this? give us a list. since you keep allowing it - ask yourself what you get out of it? this is what needs to be addressed in order to accomplish getting your mind into a state of not needing that from him anymore. if nothing changes - nothing changes. you aren't promoting any change.
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