westernxer Posted August 7, 2009 Posted August 7, 2009 Was discussing the PA shooter this morning at work, and there were some candid admissions from colleagues about their own state of solitude outside the workplace. One person is single, no kids, and hasn't had a girlfriend in 10 years or so. H e's close to retirement and is very antisocial. The other is similar in that he spends a lot of time around the house doing little projects, wondering how he ever became like this (he used to be so outgoing). Neither one drinks or goes to clubs. Neither expects his circumstances to improve. One even commented that when buying a car, he couldn't list three friends as references, because he couldn't think of any at the top of his head. I can relate, but I'm sure others can as well. Definitely sucks to go it alone sometimes, but we all suffer in silence. Some do a better job of it than others. A few suffer loudly. A tiny fraction go out with a bang, and I don't know how we can stop them, aside from not getting caught in the wrong place at the wrong time. I guess we can only stop ourselves, but maybe that isn't enough.
Meaplus3 Posted August 7, 2009 Posted August 7, 2009 Well, Im sure there are many that can relate to the lonliness that the PA shooter felt. But, it's how they choose to deal with it thay sets them apart from a person like Sidoni. It appears that Sidoni had given up. He had no hope left and did not really care. I gathered that from reading his journal. Perhaps if Sidoni had made a few connections.. which in turn would have helped with his depression and lonliness this tragic event may have never took place. However, in his case it looked to me like he did not want to reach out. He had made up his mind and that was that.. so sad. You know it really all boils down to this. We are all in charge of our own personal happiness. We all have the power within ourselves to make changes in our lives for the better. Happiness should not come from beign dependant on someone else. I sort of got the feeling that Sidoni did not see things that way. In his mind a woman was what he needed to be happy.. and since he was not getting what he wanted he blamed others for his lonliness and poor mental state. I believe a majority of the population knows that they are in charge of thier own ship.. and will take messures to find the peace and happiness that they desire in a constructive sane way. Now on the flip side here, I'm sure there are many that don't mind beign alone. Just my thoughts. Mea:)
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