hibiscus21 Posted August 7, 2009 Posted August 7, 2009 For about a month and a half I have been feeling very anti-social. When I am at work, I don't want to interact with my coworkers, wanting to say very little to them. I haven't been wanting to hang out with my friends lately. The person I hang out with the most is my boyfriend. Today he told me that my "quietness" is really bothering him. I am the kind of person that takes a while to warm up to people. He told me it bothers him that I can talk to him and interact with him just fine, but when I am with his family and friends, that I become this very quiet person who says nothing. He said I'm like this imaginary girlfriend, he said I am amazing and wonderful, that i am so much fun to be around, but feels like I'm a secret, that he can't share with others. He says I am a completely different person around him and around his friends and family. This does happen, only because I get very nervous and usually don't know what to say. Usually I will try and make an effort to talk to people I don't know. However, lately it's like I don't even care about making that effort, I feel like its part of this anti-social thing that is going on. I hate it, but at the same time I feel like I can't find any motivation to change this. I feel like its affecting all areas of my life, not just with my boyfriend. Do people go through anti-social phases? Or is this something that is more serious
Brady_to_Moss Posted August 9, 2009 Posted August 9, 2009 For about a month and a half I have been feeling very anti-social. When I am at work, I don't want to interact with my coworkers, wanting to say very little to them. I haven't been wanting to hang out with my friends lately. The person I hang out with the most is my boyfriend. Today he told me that my "quietness" is really bothering him. I am the kind of person that takes a while to warm up to people. He told me it bothers him that I can talk to him and interact with him just fine, but when I am with his family and friends, that I become this very quiet person who says nothing. He said I'm like this imaginary girlfriend, he said I am amazing and wonderful, that i am so much fun to be around, but feels like I'm a secret, that he can't share with others. He says I am a completely different person around him and around his friends and family. This does happen, only because I get very nervous and usually don't know what to say. Usually I will try and make an effort to talk to people I don't know. However, lately it's like I don't even care about making that effort, I feel like its part of this anti-social thing that is going on. I hate it, but at the same time I feel like I can't find any motivation to change this. I feel like its affecting all areas of my life, not just with my boyfriend. Do people go through anti-social phases? Or is this something that is more serious I am going through a very rough phase like that right now. I dont want to talk to anyone or see anyone. Its like i am hiding from something. I hate to say it but right now i hate everyone except my close family...everyone else i could care less about...usally in the summer i get like this..idk why.
Green Posted August 9, 2009 Posted August 9, 2009 My gf who is shy recently hid behind a tree while I was talking to some people she didn't know... so I can relate to your bf's imaginary gf comment although I think my gf would cry if I said that to her.
Meaplus3 Posted August 9, 2009 Posted August 9, 2009 Do people go through anti-social phases? Or is this something that is more serious Well, I know I do . There are plenty of times when I feel real out going and social.. and then other times when I'd rather be alone and enjoy some peace and quite. I don't think there is anthing wrong with pulling back from time to time. Now, if you find yourself avoiding social situations on a routine basis, then I think you may want to think about the reason behind it. Mea:)
You'reasian Posted August 9, 2009 Posted August 9, 2009 For about a month and a half I have been feeling very anti-social. When I am at work, I don't want to interact with my coworkers, wanting to say very little to them. I haven't been wanting to hang out with my friends lately. The person I hang out with the most is my boyfriend. Today he told me that my "quietness" is really bothering him. I am the kind of person that takes a while to warm up to people. He told me it bothers him that I can talk to him and interact with him just fine, but when I am with his family and friends, that I become this very quiet person who says nothing. He said I'm like this imaginary girlfriend, he said I am amazing and wonderful, that i am so much fun to be around, but feels like I'm a secret, that he can't share with others. He says I am a completely different person around him and around his friends and family. This does happen, only because I get very nervous and usually don't know what to say. Usually I will try and make an effort to talk to people I don't know. However, lately it's like I don't even care about making that effort, I feel like its part of this anti-social thing that is going on. I hate it, but at the same time I feel like I can't find any motivation to change this. I feel like its affecting all areas of my life, not just with my boyfriend. Do people go through anti-social phases? Or is this something that is more serious When it comes to work, sometimes its better to do less talking. Why? God gave us two ears, two eyes and only one mouth. Watch the older guys, they know this The less talking you do, the more you process - and sometimes this is critical. In addition, by minimalizing your contact at work, you don't contribute to the water cooler. I'm not saying be anti-social at work, rather be more selective about your speech.
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