lovelikeitneverhurt Posted August 6, 2009 Posted August 6, 2009 You can just pretend and tell yourself that they are with someone now. Even if they are not with anyone new and you still love them, just tell yourself that they don't love you anymore and that they are with someone else. 1) When you want to call them/contact them - tell yourself that you cannot call because you would be disturbing their time with their new significant other. 2) When you miss them and feel sad, just think about them with their new imaginary partner and imagine how happy they must be feeling and then you would choose to let them go, even if you still love them because, the bottom line is you love them enough to let them go, and you want them to be happy. Very happy without you. 3) This method and thought, does help to kill all the hope inside of you. And can eventually through time help you to let go and move on. 4) You need to most importantly - let them go, and let yourself go. 5) No more waiting and wishing and hoping, they are with "someone else" 6) Also, they cannot spend time with you anymore, even if you want to hang out and be "friends" because you want them in your life still, its not very good and appropriate since they have a new girlfriend/boyfriend now. I mean, I know its all imaginary, and they might not have anyone new and they might still love you. But if you imagine that its just simply hurting their new partner if you contact them, then maybe you will stop contacting them and wanting to hang out even as friends. I know its easier said than done, but at least it gives you an answer if you are still left in the cold waiting and wondering about why you guys broke up and why he's not with you anymore. Sometimes, we need reasons to let go, and I think this reason is a pretty strong one. What do you guys think ? I'm trying this myself, and its helping me slowly. Any experience ?
ScarLettIsle Posted August 8, 2009 Posted August 8, 2009 it helps!!! i personally prefer to imagine it was all a figment of my imagination.. every touch - look - kiss - etc...
Exit Posted August 8, 2009 Posted August 8, 2009 Doesn't help me much, and I don't even need to use my imagination, she IS with someone. Yet part of me still wants her back. Oh well.
moo Posted August 8, 2009 Posted August 8, 2009 those things really happened to me too. this stuff (him being w/ someone else) really happened for me, and it sent me into depths of depression far beyond I would ever had gone if he wasn't with someone else.
Danzig Posted August 8, 2009 Posted August 8, 2009 yeah, it's actually a lot worse when they are in a new relationship and you're not over them yet. Thinking about it just hurts too much
Author lovelikeitneverhurt Posted August 9, 2009 Author Posted August 9, 2009 yeah but at least - you can stop the hope because now they have someone else. and you can finally put this whole thing behind you. and accept that the person you knew has 'died' and you need to let go.
ConfusedAtHome Posted August 9, 2009 Posted August 9, 2009 I think my ex is rebounding with her current gf and that sadly gives me hope that one day we could work out again. Her new gf is 180 degrees of what I am. Hmmmm....
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