Dmoney28 Posted August 6, 2009 Posted August 6, 2009 Had a quick question. Why do ex's(dumper) get angry that you started to move on...even though there in a new relationship. Mutual friends told me they went out to lunch with my ex...they mentioned i have moved on and getting on with my life. She responded " why would you tell me that?" and she got all emotional...just curious...
greenparrot Posted August 6, 2009 Posted August 6, 2009 I always thought it was because they love you.. But it bs... She send messages like ohh your hooking up well good luck.. etc really cinical messages and calls me to say i forgot her quickly, and im soo fast, go ahead and kiss her, etc.. She dates someone 1 week after our break!
wow123 Posted August 6, 2009 Posted August 6, 2009 It made them feel powerful when they dumped you...when you moved on they lost all of their power over you and the attention and love that you were giving/showing. SELFISH
PandaStillLovesBunny Posted August 7, 2009 Posted August 7, 2009 It made them feel powerful when they dumped you...when you moved on they lost all of their power over you and the attention and love that you were giving/showing. SELFISH True fact, man. They want to have somebody in their thrall without having to actually give anything back.
edward-e Posted August 7, 2009 Posted August 7, 2009 i think its cuz they wanna tag you along as a justin case kinda guy, and when you move on they no longer have that sitting there waiting and it upsets them cuz they no longer have a net on their tight rope of love.
reservoirdog1 Posted August 7, 2009 Posted August 7, 2009 I posted this in response to another thread, a few months ago. It is pretty normal human behaviour. My XW cheated on me many times during the marriage, none of which I knew about until she was ready to bail. She halfheartedly tried to reconcile for a couple of months (and only because I insisted on it) but then pulled the plug and started seeing the new guy she was interested in. The night after I moved out, I slept with somebody else, and told XW about this in a phone fight a week later. And a couple of times over the next year, she actually said to me variants of "I can't believe you slept with somebody else so quickly... It's like I meant nothing to you.". Despite the fact that I'd meant basically nothing to her all those years. It's a true case of not wanting somebody, but not wanting others to have them either.
ScarLettIsle Posted August 8, 2009 Posted August 8, 2009 its a knife in an old wound she is coming to grips with the future u two no longer share - its all in the healing...
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