DustySaltus Posted August 6, 2009 Posted August 6, 2009 My ex-fiance has trust issues that started long before we were ever together. Those same issues are what broke us apart. She could be the best woman in the world and then the worst. She was very vindictive with me, checking my emails, kicking me out of her house in a country 5000 miles away where I had moved for the short term and trying to get me fired from my job when I got back. Recently, i've heard through friends that she may be regretting how she handled things and may be looking to reconcile. Despite all the nasty S*** she did to me , I know that she truly does love me and needs help. The question is, if we go to counseling and try to work out these issues, am I still taking a huge gamble thinking things could actually change?
hoping2heal Posted August 6, 2009 Posted August 6, 2009 If she genuinely wants to mature and clean up her act. It is possible yes. I did it.
CaliGuy Posted August 6, 2009 Posted August 6, 2009 I would tell her that under no circumstances would you be open to any talks of reconcilliation that does not include "counseling" (individual and couples). If she is unwilling to get help with her problems, you should be unwilling to give her a second chance.
trueblue72ny Posted August 6, 2009 Posted August 6, 2009 My ex-fiance has trust issues that started long before we were ever together. Those same issues are what broke us apart. She could be the best woman in the world and then the worst. She was very vindictive with me, checking my emails, kicking me out of her house in a country 5000 miles away where I had moved for the short term and trying to get me fired from my job when I got back. Recently, i've heard through friends that she may be regretting how she handled things and may be looking to reconcile. Despite all the nasty S*** she did to me , I know that she truly does love me and needs help. The question is, if we go to counseling and try to work out these issues, am I still taking a huge gamble thinking things could actually change? i always hear that question, do people really change.... you are taking a chance in thinking something can change, but than again any relationship you go into is taking a chance. i guess i would be leary until i saw some kind of sustained long period change in her behavior.
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