Crimson Tide Posted August 6, 2009 Posted August 6, 2009 I knew Canada Guy almost 3 years ago. We were never an item but we did spend quite a number of time together. I would spend over at his place every other week for a few days and that would be it until the next time we spend the nights. At that time, we both agreed on being FWB. He has always been open about the girls he dated non-exclusively as I have been with him. There were times when he would be upset about the guys I dated, in which I would remind him that we were not exclusive so he had no rights to feel that way. I got involved with someone else seriously after that and Canada Guy and I lost touch... Until May this year. I went through my phone book to delete some contacts and got to his name, wondered how he was doing so I sent him a text, he replied and we talked. He invited me over to his place and made me dinner, watched a movie and talked. Canada Guy told me while we were not in contact, he thought a lot about his life. He's an expat in my country so it can be quite lonely for him at times, I would think. He told me that he doesn't want to lose me again and wants to see where this would lead us to. Since that talk, we have been spending time on the phone talking more often than before. Few things that he told me : Since his last serious relationship, he hasn't felt this way he feels about us in a long time.He wants to see where this would lead us to but is afraid he won't be THE guy that I want.He said I have everything he looks for in a partner.He has never given marriage a thought but said it could happen with me.After that talk, we exchanged texts but never got to see each other due to busy schedules. Then he left for Canada for the holiday and we kept in touch via MSN. He returned from Canada a couple of weeks ago and he's been sending me sweet text messages. 2 nights ago, he sent me a text at 3 o'clock in the morning saying that he loves me. He mentioned that he's the least dramatic person and that he was just expressing himself. For all the years that I have known him, THAT was definitely NOT him! He has always been expressive but whenever he mentioned something serious about having a relationship (with any girl), he'd have "BUT..." in his sentences. Only lately, that he's been sort of serious about it. Canada Guy asked if I love him. I told him that we'd talk about it when we meet up. So come the night, none of us mentioned anything about it until we went to bed. I asked him in a kidding manner about it and he got all shy then I said ILY to him but it was more of a whisper. Oh by the way, when he mentioned the part where he loves me, he was pretty messed up (had beers with his buddies). What do you all think? Is he being serious? I think I can really see us going somewhere but I don't know how serious he is about us...
New Again Posted August 6, 2009 Posted August 6, 2009 I'm always a little wary when guys say things like that (I love you, mentioning the future, I could marry you...), but aren't making any moves to be in a committed relationship with you... If he feels that way, why hasn't he stated his desire to be your bf or something similar?
Author Crimson Tide Posted August 6, 2009 Author Posted August 6, 2009 I'm always a little wary when guys say things like that (I love you, mentioning the future, I could marry you...), but aren't making any moves to be in a committed relationship with you... If he feels that way, why hasn't he stated his desire to be your bf or something similar? You're asking me? I do see it from his actions. You post a good question though.. he hasn't really stated it but could it be that he is one of those men that expect women to read their minds?
New Again Posted August 6, 2009 Posted August 6, 2009 You're asking me? I do see it from his actions. You post a good question though.. he hasn't really stated it but could it be that he is one of those men that expect women to read their minds? What kinds of actions? I can't help but think that if his actions matched his words, you would KNOW he was serious, and therefore wouldn't be posting on this board asking if he is.
Author Crimson Tide Posted August 6, 2009 Author Posted August 6, 2009 What kinds of actions? I can't help but think that if his actions matched his words, you would KNOW he was serious, and therefore wouldn't be posting on this board asking if he is. He does things a boyfriend would do for his girlfriend. That sort of things. I didn't know it was wrong to post a question or to want to know what others think of my situation. Anyways, thanks for your input. I'll wait for the rest.
New Again Posted August 6, 2009 Posted August 6, 2009 He does things a boyfriend would do for his girlfriend. That sort of things. I didn't know it was wrong to post a question or to want to know what others think of my situation. Anyways, thanks for your input. I'll wait for the rest. Calm down. You asked what people thought, and I told you what I think. Which is that if you have doubts, something's not adding up.
Author Crimson Tide Posted August 6, 2009 Author Posted August 6, 2009 Calm down. You asked what people thought, and I told you what I think. Which is that if you have doubts, something's not adding up. Thanks. I'll wait for other perspectives.
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