greenparrot Posted August 6, 2009 Posted August 6, 2009 Hi all, I came here cause I feel I have hit rock bottom in my life and I think why if she was soo bad to me! We were best friends almost family for 3 years, dated for another 3, until she decided she needed a breather. Told me she wanted no one else, and after a week she officially dated someone else. My world is now crushed, she was everything I had, left my friends for her! And now the only friend a keep had an accident and is unable to walk and stuck in the middle of me and her (we called ourselves the trio). She insists on being my friend, on taking thing slowly and then see what to do. She says she isnt with her bf she left me for, but are really good friends and talk alot. I told her I cant be a masoquist and see her with him as "friends" and have me as a second dish. So why, why cant I stop crying like a baby every hour?? She treats me like an employee. Has a horrible ego and character. Always screamed at me. But most importantly is not here When Im crying..... It pisses me off, I helped her in her rough times, when she had no one, when she was in depression (she had an incident at a young age due to a perv gardner), when her dad was an alcoholic, etc. And now what crushed me today morning, I had to tell my best friend (who had an accident) to add the bf (slash friend according to her) to facebook since she asked me why he had eliminated him. And I dont want to be in the middle. So now things are set: before is was us three, and now its him, the bf, and her. I know my best friend cares for me, but the whole experience has just killed me, and I cant help feeling he too will start hanging out with the bf and leave me. I have cried and pleaded to God, to make a change. I know NC is the way, do things get better? Anyone have any tips on what to do, I know I have to get new friends, but it just seems soo hard right now... Thank you for reading this.
Darren09 Posted August 6, 2009 Posted August 6, 2009 Mate i feel your pain I gave up all my friends to be with my girl. Shes left me with nothing, i cry like a baby too it totally sucks. I have like like 1 friend left and am pretty much on my own everyday. I just want you to know that your not alone and everyone here will give you some strong words of encouragement that this girl just is not worth it. You dont leave someone you love, you dont cheat on someone you love. you dont spend time with everyone else instead of the person you love. Its just aint right! Listen to what people tell you on here there is some really good advice aslong as you stick to it. sorry bud
Thomas X Forever Posted August 6, 2009 Posted August 6, 2009 Hi all, I came here cause I feel I have hit rock bottom in my life and I think why if she was soo bad to me! We were best friends almost family for 3 years, dated for another 3, until she decided she needed a breather. Told me she wanted no one else, and after a week she officially dated someone else. First off, you (and most people) do NOT deserve this I'm truly sorry for your loss and hardships. I know the pain of what you're facing. My first love did the same. So why, why cant I stop crying like a baby every hour?? Honestly? Because you have a heart. Don't ever shut it out. Don't let this shut it out. I let mine get shut out. Biggest mistake I've ever made, and I have to use psychology INTENSELY to even have a chance at fixing the damage I've done. Always keep yourself open and true. She treats me like an employee. Has a horrible ego and character. Always screamed at me. Although it's far too early to tell for sure, it's possible she is a narcissist. Or at least suffering from one of the Cluster B disorders. (Google them. They're very bad news). I helped her in her rough times, when she had no one, when she was in depression (she had an incident at a young age due to a perv gardner), when her dad was an alcoholic, etc. This is probably the most important thing you said. This girl has VERY deep rooted problems, and although I can't make an initial diagnosis of course, I'm TELLING you she has very deep rooted childhood psychological problems, which most likely caused a Cluster B disorder. (THE WORST DISORDERS OF ALL). It wasn't her fault, of course, though. I have cried and pleaded to God, to make a change. Save your breath. I've tried screaming at God, tried begging, tried pleading, tried the most sincere prayer I could. He isn't listening. As for your fear of your best friend doing what you think. Don't count on it. You can't be replaced, you are still your own person, with your feelings, views, laugh, smile, eyes... You cannot be replaced. This mutual friend isn't going to abandon you, I bet. Especially because he has just been through an accident that has at least temporarily rendered him paraplegic. I'll talk to you if you feel like you need someone. It's the most important to BEAT INTO YOUR HEAD that THIS IS NOT YOUR FAULT. What this girl did us inexcusable, childish, narcissistic, sociopathic, and just plain disgusting.
Author greenparrot Posted August 6, 2009 Author Posted August 6, 2009 thanks for your reply darren, it helps to know that im not alone. I just find it soo hard to cope with this. Did she leave you for someone too? I dont know who i hate more, her or the new bf. I hate sooo much the new bf, I find it hard to breath when I hear his name, Its crazy before, I had a shield and was inmunne to being sad, and now I decide to fall in love for someone who begged me to love her. I did and got caught up in a turmoil. I have decided to bring the shield up again....
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