shaman Posted August 6, 2009 Posted August 6, 2009 I've been perusing a lot of threads here, but never posted. For my first post, I decided to use the amazing resources ( you guys! ) here for some advice. Here goes...I'm divorced and have been for several years. I met a woman and things just really clicked. She's warm, funny, and very loving. In the past year we have fallen deeply in love. The catch is that she is long separated from her husband, but not yet divorced. She says the divorce is not final due to financial reasons. He pays many of the bills including the mortgage. She has said she wants to finalize things, but never seems to make much headway towards that end. Obviously, this is a sticking point in our relationship, although I never really push it. I guess I'm to the point that I'm beginning to think with my head rather than my heart. I'm not sure what to do here, and my heart hurts just thinking about being without her. My question is: How should I approach the " D " situation without sounding like a nag. Thanks in advance for your help...
MSUE Posted August 6, 2009 Posted August 6, 2009 you have to have a sit down and be 100% honest to get to the bottom of it...also how long have they been separated for? are there kids involved? does she have means to support herself on her own? have there been legal separation papers filed? can she afford a lawyer herself? there's a a lot of questions to be asked and let her know how important it is for you that the D is finalized and explain way
Crimson Tide Posted August 6, 2009 Posted August 6, 2009 Divorce can take a long time depends on the laws of the country. I avoid dating someone who is separated from his partner as it can take longer than expected. It usually creates more drama for all involved.
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