worst memories that make you glad your not with your ex

[brock9911]

well i have a few that make me sit back and wonder why the hell am i so upset we're not together. i mean #1 would be her cheating, but situations where we both got out of control and wanted to kill each other stick out in my mind.

for instance, i was sleeping when i get woken up and she was asking me about a girl i was talking to. just so happens to be my friends gf who need me to pick her up because she had no way for her son to get to her father. well my ex was drunk and miss read the message and attacked me. hitting me in the head with one of those heavy tape dispensers. that hurt like f*ck. it took me a lot to not clock her, but instead i held her down so she couldnt move and i grabbed my phone and called her parents down to help the situation. deff 1 situation i dont miss.

 

what sh*tty moments has everyone else encountered

[Woggle]

Getting shot at

 

Her complaining about me having a drink while she sniffed coke like she was Scarface.

 

The one time she took and left me stranded at a rest station on the NJ turnpike for no reason whatsoever.

[stablesong]

Jeez!

 

My worst memories seem rather pedestrian in comparison.

 

- Cheating

- Network of Lies, even about tiny things

- Wild mood swings

- Ridiculous amount of regular drug abuse

[Taucher]

Great idea for a post.

 

It's not individual things as such. Actually, we never had anything really dramatic happen between us and were mostly quite a calm couple.

 

Apart from her jelousy and she just would not trust me. I never did anything to make her not trust me, apart from have one or two female friends.

 

She used to read through my phone all the time, so I would keep it on me more often, which made her suspicious, which made me act more and more like I had done something wrong. And on. And on.

 

Once, she found a message from a female friend which said "I will miss you Taucher, keep in touch". Now, this girl was going travelling around the world for 6 months, she has been a very good friend for about 5 years longer than I even knew my ex. More than that, she was a lesbian! She had a civil partnership with the girl she was going travelling with. Me and my ex went to their wedding! But my ex, when she found this text, still threw my phone at the wall in a crying temper and broke it. Then, as she was SOO upset, I had to reassure her and hug her etc to get her to stop crying.

 

She made me more and more furtive, like I was doing something wrong, when I wasn't. Now, at least, I can talk to whoever I like.

 

Doesn't quite beat 'Getting shot at'!

 

T

[sally4sara]

It is a toss up really....

 

We shared a car so at 7 months pregnant, I had to take a night job because he was put on night shift at his job. He told me he had no choice in the shift change.

He got off work at the same time I did, but he started picking me up later and later; an hour and a half even while I sat in an uncomfortable office till 2:30 am or 3 am. I caught him lying about the various reasons and he would often show up smelling of beer.

One night I got sick of it and started walking towards his job. A woman stopped out of concern for me - I was sooo obviously pregnant and upset. She was a nurse and chastised me for walking down a dark road at night in my condition. She offered to take me to my husband's job.

When I got there, no one was at his job. It was after closing time, but if he wasn't picking up his pregnant wife, where WAS he?

I go in the bar next door to call someone else. Both our jobs were too far from home to walk. I find him, his co-worker, and boss hanging out playing video golf and getting drunk with a group of girls. The all stop and looked awkward. His boss said "Damn dude! I didn't know you were going to be a father; is that why you asked for night shift?

It seemed his mission to really make me feel helpless through out my entire pregnancy - a pregnancy he, many years later, confessed to sabotaging the condoms to cause.

 

Or...

 

A few years after we split, he starts an online relationship with someone in Michigan and starts saying he intends to move there. My BF had just moved for an internship and school 7 hours away. I had not gone with him because I didn't want to disrupt my son's relationship with his father. My ex claimed he had sobered up and our son was his motivation. He DID seem to be more together and I didn't want to ruin that. But when he began to plan to move, I saw staying where I lived was pointless.

I moved but his relationship fell through. SHE turned out to be HE going through sex reassignment. Our son had already asked to move with me and my ex was fine with that till his love life took this turn. He took off with my son to the west coast with no prior indication of his intention to try to live off some 60 year old woman with terminal brain cancer. He was pretending to be her BF and live off of her just to keep my son away from me. He was gone, with our son out of school for about 3 weeks till that fell through. I met him back in our hometown when he came back to gather my son and take him with me.

To this day, he doesn't understand why I hate and mistrust him.

[CM2009]

- Dealing with babies fathers

- Nosey Family memebers

- Stubborn Attitude

- ETC!!

But she did have a lot of great qualities though!!

[Soul Bear]

worst mmemory- she left me hastily and badly and jumped into a rebound

[brock9911]

Yeah there all pretty bad, and SALLY, i think that is really f*cked up. im a child person, i love kids. and to use them as leverage, or not even treat the mother carrying the baby with respect at least during the pregnancy, reguardless of the bickering if just f*cked up. if things are sour or bad, keep your distance, but do right by her, the stress and hormones make things hard to deal with, but the men are the ones who can actually get away from the pregnancy, not the woman. he's an ass.

 

in my relationship, i can look back on many instances where we were ready to ring each others necks.

 

one more case. i was at dinner with my ex. now this was after she cheated on me. i wasnt in the mood to go out, but she insisted on it. we had a couple of drinks. now im not exactly sure what she said to provoke me, but it had to do with her cheating on me. why would you mention that at dinner when we're trying to work things out. so needless to say i saw red. i got extremely angry and we exchanged words. in the car ride home, it was a constant argument back and forth, as if she had one in the first place. she than turns the argument around on me saying she need to be tested because i was the slut not her. (AFTER we had broken up, i went and slept with some one. after a little while of not being together we got back together, but i never cheated.) so that was her argument to defend the fact that she had been with 4 people WHILE we were together. needless to say i now blow up dent my truck because now it was getting to the point where i had to hit something and it wasnt gonna be her. she runs in the house screaming and crying out to her parents. i go to grab my stuff from the house and she locks the doors and calls the cops on me for trespassing. i lived there. when the cops came, they said we can do a walk through, but her parent and i talked and said i can come back in the morning when she wasnt going to be there because it was getting late.

basically, her parents know she's wrong and talked to me like a human being while her daughter was going off like a psychotic b*tch.

[Peanut9330]

1. Cheating on my with a girl who has an alcohol/drug problem, and telling me she helped him see a future.

 

2. Told me that she accepts him for who he is and doesn’t yell at him when he drinks and drives, for the record I never yelled at him I lectured him because he was drinking and driving with his 7 year old son, and that's so sad.

 

3. The worst thing ever that he said to me, and he said this to me about a week after he cheated on me and I quote "you should sleep with me so I can see if we still have a connection" and I gave him this look like OMG I cant believe u just said that to me and then the proceeded to say and I quote again "she did it for me last night so she must really care and you don’t" That's when I decided I’m done.

 

I been with this guy for 3 years and he's only known and been with her for a little over a month and he had the nerve to say all that to me. I'm glad he's out of my life they deserve each other.

[andy2009]

2 days before breakup her action/words were very impolite. That I'll NEVER EVER forget, that helped me a lot to keep NC.

[brock9911]

Peanut, well its sad that he does that with a child which is horrible. and the fact that he had the nerve to talk to you after doing what he was doing and blatantly ask you an insulting question.....hes a selfish bastard who's only looking out for what makes him feel good. consider yourself lucky hes not around

[2sure]

I was at the lowest point in my life when I met my ex. He physically abused me for a year. Really bad. I got pregnant and shortly after my daughter was born I finally got my act together , stopped being a victim and got him out.

 

When she was about a year old I was picking my daughter up from his and his new gf's house (from a court ordered visit). I smelled pot when I walked in the door and told him, NO. No Way.

 

While I was leaving with my daughter in my arms - he threw a steel toed size 13 workboot at my head and it hit me hard, but I didnt go down. I picked up the boot, made it to the car and took my daughter to my sister's. Since this is the way he always treated me and before having my daughter, I always took it...he didnt expect what I did next.

 

I went back to his house with the Boot. I kicked in his door and entered the house. Told his girl friend she better call the police. Knew she wouldnt because they were selling pot. I found him on the couch watching TV and proceeded to beat him senseless with his own boot. His gf just stood there with her mouth open. When he rolled off the couch bleeding and crying for me to stop, I told him: "No. You KNOW the way this works, the beating doesnt stop until you stop crying." Thats what he always did to me, and it was hard.

 

I still have to deal with this jerk and that was 12 years ago. Whenever he gives me a hard time I tell him he is breathing because I decided he can, dont make me change my mind. Crybaby Bitch.

[GorillaTheater]

I was at the lowest point in my life when I met my ex. He physically abused me for a year. Really bad. I got pregnant and shortly after my daughter was born I finally got my act together , stopped being a victim and got him out.

 

When she was about a year old I was picking my daughter up from his and his new gf's house (from a court ordered visit). I smelled pot when I walked in the door and told him, NO. No Way.

 

While I was leaving with my daughter in my arms - he threw a steel toed size 13 workboot at my head and it hit me hard, but I didnt go down. I picked up the boot, made it to the car and took my daughter to my sister's. Since this is the way he always treated me and before having my daughter, I always took it...he didnt expect what I did next.

 

I went back to his house with the Boot. I kicked in his door and entered the house. Told his girl friend she better call the police. Knew she wouldnt because they were selling pot. I found him on the couch watching TV and proceeded to beat him senseless with his own boot. His gf just stood there with her mouth open. When he rolled off the couch bleeding and crying for me to stop, I told him: "No. You KNOW the way this works, the beating doesnt stop until you stop crying." Thats what he always did to me, and it was hard.

 

I still have to deal with this jerk and that was 12 years ago. Whenever he gives me a hard time I tell him he is breathing because I decided he can, dont make me change my mind. Crybaby Bitch.

 

Damn. This story horrifies me, angers me, and makes me laugh, all at the same time. But I'm strange that way.

 

Who says violence doesn't have a proper place? I'm GLAD you beat the f*ck out of him. I hope my daughters would do the same. As long as they called me or their brothers for back up ...

 

More than that, I hope they'd tell me the first time he was violent with them.

[2sure]

Damn. This story horrifies me, angers me, and makes me laugh, all at the same time. But I'm strange that way.

 

Oh yeah, I laugh about it now. I am waayyy over it. He completely deserved it and it turned the tables. I snapped . Just goes to show you men who hit women really are cowards. I mean - he is 6'5" and I am barely 5'4", yet he didnt stand a chance. Even I dont know where it came from. But its funny because to this day, if I wave - he flinches.

[t0ri]

Hmm. How about the time he:

 

-called my MOM at 2 am while we were both drunk to come pick me up because he "didn't want to deal with me so he could have fun with his friends." We're freaking ADULTS.

 

-pulled my hair, grabbed me and yelled at the top of his lungs countless times, sat on top of me numerous times so I couldn't move.

 

-told me he hated taking me out and paying for anything.

 

-told elaborate lies that I caught him in. One being that he had to go pick up a friend with popped tires, when really he was busy robbing some place. Who knows the lies I DIDN'T catch him in.

 

-refused to see me for awhile after I found out I was pregnant.

 

-would pick his friends over me, never stood up for me, put me at the very bottom of his priority list, made me feel worthless and that he didn't truly care about or love me, then would ridicule me for feeling anything of the sort.

 

-talked to his friends about every problem we had. And told them explicit things we did while we were "reconciling," speaking of me in really degrading terms.

 

-then dumped me CRUELLY, came back 3 weeks later "kind of" wanting me to get pregnant again and promising "slow reconciliation" for a month, only to dump me again and treat me worse than I could ever have imagined him to do.

 

-refused to go to church with me, stop smoking pot or cigs, and then did ALL of those things once we broke up which he rubbed in my face the ONE time he contacted me since the breakup - last week.

 

Ahhh....this thread is just what I needed today.