shoesies05 Posted August 6, 2009 Posted August 6, 2009 So me and my ex broke up almost 7 weeks ago now ( on friday), and we've been emailing and maybe talked on the phone once or twice. Anyways, its been alright- no fighting or anything. But i just feel like i need to not talk to him for a while now, i think it will help me move on. I just feel like every time i email with him lately i get all pissy- in a way i feel like a lot of the things he says are like not trying to hurt me, but still are. I want to be friends with him again in the future and am looking forward to when i get to that point again. The only thing is he is getting deployed to afghanistan in like 1 or 2 months, and i want to see him beforehand because it may possibly be the last time i ever see him... but this is the only reason i would see him, otherwise i want space until he gets back. it would be like a group thing, no one on one time ( i dont want to tempt myself) Does this seem like a good idea if i want to be friends with him again someday? should i see him before he gets deployed?
SoulSearch_CO Posted August 6, 2009 Posted August 6, 2009 Hrm. I'd probably opt for "no." I have to interact with my XH every once in awhile (we still have some residual joint-business that we're tying up) and I find I still get kinda pissy easily with him. I find I'm a happier person in general just not talking to him. I feel better about myself, better about men, and better about the world in general. But I suppose being just one meeting before he leaves for A-stan isn't the worst thing in the world. But what would be the setting for the meeting? Is this going to be at the airport, or are you meeting privately...what's the plan, exactly. I'd have to know venue.
Hkizzle Posted August 6, 2009 Posted August 6, 2009 If you want to be friends with him in future why not? He's going to a war zone for a while so you won't see him again for a long time anyway. If God forbid he doesn't come back, you'll regret not saying bye.
Katherineos123 Posted August 6, 2009 Posted August 6, 2009 I would definitely try and see him before he deploys. Just grab a coffee or something, you dont have to hang out ALL day... I dont recommend that... And I understand why you want to limit contact with your ex... In fact I think that going no contact is one of the best ways to leave room for a friendship in the future. But I also feel like if ... something happens.... .... You'd never forgive yourself.
Author shoesies05 Posted August 7, 2009 Author Posted August 7, 2009 thanks. you all are right, id deff never forgive myself if something happened to him and i didnt say goodbye before he left. and where we would be meeting is at our friends house, they are going have a couple people over that we would hang out with all the time over for dinner or something like that. thanks for the advice... it really helps
SoulSearch_CO Posted August 7, 2009 Posted August 7, 2009 Given the meeting place - yes, I say go for it.
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