Mydish1 Posted August 6, 2009 Posted August 6, 2009 So I've been on 2 dates with this girl I met from online. The first one was a week and a half ago. It was really fun and great as we talked a lot and did some dancing and she lost track of time also. However I think I screwed up by revealing too much and being too available, spending nearly 5 hours on a first date. In between dates I noticed she didn't really like to talk too much on the phone, and she wanted me to get to the point of setting up a date. I'm usually the one to contact her, and have to deal with her calling me back..she usually does as she rarely picks up the phone. On both dates I noticed that she hadn't touch me at all, aside from the hugging/dancing aspect. Which is a bad sign. The second date she started talking more about herself and she opted to split the tab as I kind of figured she would when we ordered dinner. I did get a couple of kisses by the end of the night. As I'm home right now after our date, I find out that she's online at the date site. GREAT. Generally she's on 2x a week, but going on right after our date takes a huge shot to my ego. I admit there isn't a lot of chemistry between us, we behave like we're friends. There are no secrets and we tell each other when we're busy or what we're up to. And we kiss at the end of the night. What do you guys think about her?
dreamergrl Posted August 6, 2009 Posted August 6, 2009 She's keeping her options open, playing the field.. multiple dating. I don't think it's a horrible thing. Now if it was 5 or 6 dates down the road.. maybe I'd be a little more worried. Why don't you try and do the same?
Author Mydish1 Posted August 6, 2009 Author Posted August 6, 2009 It's not a horrible thing and I've done it before. It's just the fact that she was the one that called it a night because she had to wake up early...which is true! But to find out that she's online rather than asleep kind of gets me annoyed. I am playing the field, but it's hard not to get emotionally invested because currently she's the only person I'm seeing.
dreamergrl Posted August 6, 2009 Posted August 6, 2009 Well maybe she wanted to come home, check her mail, and then call it a night. You never know. But still, I'd keep your options open too.
boogieboy Posted August 6, 2009 Posted August 6, 2009 Let this be a lesson to you. You dont get emotionally invested so early. She probably smelled that and got turned off. And write this one off, you lost her.
Hkizzle Posted August 6, 2009 Posted August 6, 2009 Self control dude. Too emotionally available = anti-seductive. Curious, what did you reveal to her?
Author Mydish1 Posted August 6, 2009 Author Posted August 6, 2009 Self control dude. Too emotionally available = anti-seductive. Curious, what did you reveal to her? I think I'm far from emotionally available. We both tend to be busy throughout the week and usually go out once a week. When I said reveal I meant it in the terms of not being as mysterious. I'm a busy guy and have things going on in my life and so does she, we don't keep that a secret. In fact we tell each other what's going on and what we're up to. Well maybe she wanted to come home, check her mail, and then call it a night. You never know. But still, I'd keep your options open too. I think that's what happened. Even if you sign on and off the site immediately, it'll say you're online for a whole hour.
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