dazedandconfused2008 Posted August 6, 2009 Posted August 6, 2009 Just got out of a long relationship of almost 17 years....well...its been at least a 2 year process of leaving but i finally did. I been on healing journey and i been out with a few guys already. No problems there. Then BOOM. Met a guy that is so wrong for me but i cant help but like him. I never liked this a guy this much since my ex. All the other times when i wanted to leave i did. Half of me wants to run and get over it but the other half wants to stick around. **** i already cried once over this dude and i never ever thought i would do that again. My friends tell me that this is part of dating...the last time i "dated" i was 17 years old. I hooked up way to early and now im 35 and going through the starting stages years later and right now it feels both exciting, and horrible at the same time. I never had these feelings since i was a teenager...all the drama...and guessing games...and trying to figure out what the hell am i doing?? The thing is i dont know if i have issues with guys or with myself. Because of my ex i know my self esteem suffered big time....and the past year i been bringing it back up. I know im very attractive...and smart...and fun...and everything else. But i notice when guys give me attention i build a wall....and with this guy he was very persistent in chasing me and i let up. Now hes kind of cooled off....doesnt call me after a few days then out of the blue will call me a few times a day(i can tell hes been drinkin). Hes currently working across from my cousins place (where im staying for the summer). He will stare my way but never comes by to say hi....i just dont get it. My cousin says cuz he likes me too much and is shy...now. I dont get it. I would like to get back into the dating scene and date again...but how can one date and at the same time protect yourself from hurt?
Hkizzle Posted August 6, 2009 Posted August 6, 2009 Shy goes don't act that way...... Shy guys do the opposite, that are scared to chase hard at the start. They don't cool off after they've gotten the girl interested. That's what jerks and bad boys do. Yeah if you haven't been dating for so long you're probably not familiar with the games. It also sounds like your ex either treated you badly or was abusive. There's no rush to go head over heels into another relationship.
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